The Power Of Disappointment  

rm_GrayBear818 70M
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7/19/2006 5:17 pm
The Power Of Disappointment

An intriguing encounter just crashed and smouldered (not the sultry kind )See previous post Blogging and Annonymity Being Frank or Being Known for the mystery setup. I'm bummed, disappointed. I go out dancing as usual this night. Have a really good time part of the evening, dancing with all the women I can find, sometimes with the mystery woman, but leave the night flat.

My personal quote: A night without passion is like a cup without coffee: waiting to be filled dark and steamy.. catches up with me in the darkness of the parking lot with just an empty cup.

The morning after I discover the Power of Disappointment - when things don't go as expected but do go on. In the new morning light I write her:

Don't take this the wrong way, it's just honest.. but wadda disappointment and that's great. I got a lot of stuff out of the way with us yesterday. Excellent! Maybe it's pay off from not taking small steps, maybe it's just my morning high. Now we can move on to being friends and maybe more.

Things I got out of the way (I'll write I instead of we, you'll have to fill in the blanks for the other half of the we)..

a) Mystery Man - Sorry I disppointed you. The man behind the door was not.. I'm sure I'll play the game again sometime, next time I'll be better. We've moved out of that track and on to another.

b) Getting Emotionally Over Extended - We know a lot about each other now, that's money in the bank. I'm not caught up anymore in hoping we'll hook up later for a soul melt. I can hang out with you like I would any other woman.. be attentive, conversational.. Excellent again, having one more possiblity for the night.. ..

c) No glutten for punishment: Ouch: learned a lesson about hoping for too much, too soon. Like I said about dancing: quick learner. Henceforth it is just the pancake flip side of being directly emotional. It happens and it passes. You can't have one without the other.Learning how to be hopeful without being overwhelmed by losing, if it happens.

d) Replaced a fantasy image with the real you. Certainly not all of the real you, but it's a start. You're smile is beautiful, but we don't see a lot of it. I guess I'll just have to practice tickling you more. It'll be easy to see how I'm doing. If you're smiling, I'm doing the right thing. And I know I can, because I got several from you last night. I wouldn't have known this, if we hadn't met in person.

That's a lot to get done in a day. A very good day's work. Excellent.

And that's the Power of Disappointment - after the truck runs over you: roll over, get up and keep on truckin, won't have to do that again..


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