Blogging and Annonymity: Being Frank or Being Known  

rm_GrayBear818 70M
68 posts
7/14/2006 1:54 am

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Blogging and Annonymity: Being Frank or Being Known

Our web existence in blogland provides us an annoymity for being frank, titilating, bawdy, explicit, definitely not bound by sexual correctness. If we lose annonymity part of the blogland freedom of speech can be impaired.

I'm in a precarious situation. A member of the opposite sex, from reading my profile and interests has deduced that I ought to frequent a certain bar where she goes, but has never seen me there. At least my AdultFriendFinder pics don't reveal enough. She e-me'd wanting to know wassup, why hasn't she seen me? I'd like to get to know her but if I reveal too much, my blogland annonymity may be lost.

My email to her is below. What do you think I should have said? My reply:


I was hoping you would respond to my wink. A dancing lady, similar age, reasonably close by, nice pic, on this adult site, I was just hoping you would reply. Now I'm going to be a tease :

If I've danced with you, do you want to know or rather will you still talk and dance with me?

I'm a free acct here and can't see anything about you, except your pic and title: Checking My Options, which is minimally revealing.

You on the other hand, can see my description, my pics, my blog - which are more revealing than would normally be mentioned at the bar. The bar is a nice neighborhood bar... but there are limits to what we say, in polite company, even if it is bar talk.

My AdultFriendFinder account provides me an annonymity for being frank that I don't want to lose. My AdultFriendFinder pics obfiscate my identity, are reasonably close, but not close enough to let you pick me out.

I'd like to find out more about you, but first I need to know: How discrete can you be? Who will you mention this to at the bar? How will you feel about dancing with someone who can be sexually explicit?

I'd curios to know what is in your profile, what you've said about yourself, what you're searching for. So tell me more about yourself. What's in your profile? What do you want in your future? If we get to know each other, I'm sure you'll figure out who I am.
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Comments please!

papyrina 52F
21133 posts
7/14/2006 2:56 am

looks good to me

I'm a

i'm here to stay

rm_Jezdatip 65F
1335 posts
7/17/2006 12:47 am

Your response to her went above and beyond the realms of tactfulness. You even ended the note with a request to know more about her, which should have soothed any ill feelings she may harbor because of your hesitation to meet face to face at the bar. I think you made your desires for annoyimity very clear. The ball is in her court now. If she can comply with your desire to maintain your annonyimity , then she may one day glide passionately into your arms and slow dance across a dimly lit dance floor..

rm_GrayBear818 70M
103 posts
7/19/2006 4:07 pm

This adventure was unfortunately very short lived. We had a couple rounds of email ping-pong - sharing ourselves and who we are, still not breaking my mystery identity. She was complementary, we talked about the times we had actually danced together, but with our real world masks. Within two days she had me totally convinced that she knew who I was - knew my dance style, knew my passion on the dance floor, the times I had asked her to dance. I was convinced. I was feeling extremely connected from our sharing, couldn't wait and arranged a coffee shop meet. I mail her my real name, real picture. We meet...

Surprisingly, we arrive in the parking lot at the same time, I just after her. As she walks to the door, I approach from behind and open the door. She doesn't recognize me , I introduce myself. We talk and then leave.

The man in her imagination was someone else. Instead of excitement in the meeting, there's a strong dose of reality. Her email complements were intended for another. My vanity had sucked me in. In my eagerness I had mis-remembered some of the matching details. We talk at length, honestly, sincerely but there's little eagerness.

Despite the clumsy mis-connect there is an upside. We have shared much about ourselves, a lot more than we would have without this short intrigue. The comm channel is open for further honesty but it's not so urgent now. We're still going to dance together, friends on the dance floor, that just happen to know each other from a different, adult life. We dance well together. The urge for passion may grow as we get to know each other, how it feels to be in each other's arms. The future's an open book. The Mystery Man chapter closed with a thump .. we'll see what else goes bump in the night as the pages unfold.

rm_Jezdatip 65F
1335 posts
7/22/2006 12:06 am

Since you appear to move in the same circle , there is a strong possiblity that she will become curious and dance with you again..Perhaps she will feel good in your arms as she look into your eyes and absorb their warmth..The man she was eager to meet may have become a passing whim and you will be right there, ready to swoop her up and show her some of your best moves, (on and off the dance floor)..Even though the mystic chapter is closed, there is still a chance that with time the passion may be ignited again..

rm_GrayBear818 70M
103 posts
7/22/2006 5:11 pm


Thanks for the encouragement, it's pretty much the track I'm on. It would be nice if dancing together bridged the gap between us, but I'm not going to set myself up for disappointment, hoping for something that may not happen. For now it's just a track without destination. I enjoy dancing with her, and I believe she's not just being curteous in saying the same.

It's a bummer, every night that passes without passion is just gone, and that's sad. See my next blog post..


rm_Jezdatip 65F
1335 posts
7/24/2006 11:08 pm

I'm eagerly Waiting with anticipation. Your passion has been dimmed and that can be a bummer indeed. In time it can envelope you again. Keep doing what you doing.

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