Is it me or is it them?  

rm_Froggy21763 54F
111 posts
6/7/2006 6:20 am

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Is it me or is it them?


I am not to sure how I feel about the male population at present. I have just started a new relationship. A sex only no strings attached. Which I thought I could deal with. after all I am a woman of the world and enjoy sex more as a recreational activity than as the fullfilment a relationship. So the just sex issue wasn't a problem but I did get a little annoyed when after a nice session. I asked him did he want me to stay or to go. The answer was to go as "the cat usually sleeps on the bed with me". Kicked out in favour of the CAT. Then he came round here and straight after he said he was so tired that he shouldn't have come round instead he should just have gone home to bed as he had originally thought. Prefers to go to SLEEP than to spend some time with me. These would have been bad enough, but I also had another friend who has told me that he would rather DIY than share some intimate moments. I should actually point out his exact words were that he valued our friendship too much to risk a sexual relationship going bad.

So now my ego is feeling a bit dented. Luckily I now have enough self confidence to know that I may not be much in the looks department, but I am actually pretty hot with my mouth, my tongue and my fingers. Oh well hopefully soon I will find someone who wants to play.

rm_IronTushie 50M
45 posts
6/7/2006 7:03 am

I believe it's called "expectations".


rm_lightning246 40M
57 posts
6/7/2006 7:16 am

I'd say you should find a new guy. Every relationship should have respect, even if in a "sex, no strings" relationship. You're treating him well, he should do the same to you.


XpertLeader 38M
3 posts
6/7/2006 7:25 am

I think I feel that i want to turn around and sleep if I am having sex with some one I don't love. Its just that after a few rounds, I just want to cuddle up with myself and sleep.

I think if you guys were in love you will looking forward for the next time..


Sweetpickles69 48F

6/7/2006 7:29 am

I hate when guys wanna kick you out, after the act! I love the all-nighters. Next time, make him pay!

Peace,
Pickles


rm_Froggy21763 54F
65 posts
6/7/2006 2:25 pm

Thank you kind people for your responses. Sweetpickles, that was exactly what I told this guy after the first time. I gave him the warning that if he treated me like a prostitute then I would charge him.

Lightning I agree with you that it has to be about mutural respect and I do not feel like I am getting it. I did give him a second chance, unfortunately he stuffed that one up as well.

Irontushie, it is about expectations. I expected to have some fun. Some of it was. But no it didn't live up to my expectations, such is life. Time to move on.

XpertLeader, I have spent my life viewing sex and love as 2 different things. A long story. Apart from during my marriage when they did come together. But watching the cancer eating him alive was hard. Especially knowing that each time I held him was inflicting pain. I guess love and sex is still seperate for me. One day they will get back together.

At present I guess it is celebacy time again.

Froggy


minshull1962 55M/55F

6/12/2006 5:37 am

Hi,

I will treat you right! and all the pleasure you want if that is what you can do for me!


casarosso 66M
3 posts
6/19/2006 11:22 pm

Hi Froggy

I too think you should find a new guy. Specifically, me !!!!!!


RecycledBunburyM 68M
3 posts
8/2/2006 1:14 am

blog Froggy21763]

You said,

"I have spent my life viewing sex and love as 2 different things. A long story. Apart from during my marriage when they did come together. But watching the cancer eating him alive was hard. Especially knowing that each time I held him was inflicting pain. I guess love and sex is still seperate for me. One day they will get back together.
At present I guess it is celebacy time again."

I read this and my heart breaks for you.

Girl, Don't worry about if it's you or if it's men, If you feel alright about yourself then that's all that you need.
If you can hold and love a man through such a terrible ordeal like Cancer then you surely must be a good person.

Don't worry Girl, there's a right man for you, As for me, I live in Bunbury WA, I'm 56 years old, and married to a good Woman, who sadly lacks the sexual experience, ( and the desire to get that experience) that I have been used too in my earlier life.

Maybe I live too far away from you, and maybe I'm too old to be a good Fuck anymore, but I can at least tell you from my vast experiences working and mixing with people, that you seem to be a good person with a good heart. Keep on keeping on, and please don't give up on all men altogether, we aren't all bad, it's just that some of us do bad things.(And that appeals to some, not to me).

By the way, I have found something better than sex. It's laying in the arms of someone whom you care for, and who cares for you, especially after a good hard session of passionate sex.

Take care Girl.

BunburyOldFart
(The best thing about French is the way that it strengthens your tongue).


rm_Froggy21763 54F
65 posts
8/9/2006 6:02 am

BunburyOF, Thank you for your kind words. I have not given up on all men. In fact I am learning more each day. Not in a sexual way but in meeting special men who have some wisdom to share. As for you, 56 is a long way from being old. My son was born when his father was 52 (my husband was 21 years older than me and we married when he was 50). I have also worked in aged care homes where I know that some of the residents were still sexually active into their 80's. I hope that things improve for you and that you are happy laying in the arms of that someone you care for. I might also suggest some gentle massage as well.

Froggy


rm_kev25502 67M
3 posts
11/5/2006 11:00 pm

I to am from bunbury and am 56 yeaqrs old ... something you should know... it is you that are special and if folks dont treat you right it is you that has the right to tell them where the door is. My story is simular to Bunbury M ..in that the one I live with has little to no interest in sex any more ..and to be up front all I wish is for some no strings sex with some one who enjoys just that sex for the mutual enjoyment of it. BUT and here is the thing you must understand ...that DOSENT meen to use a partner and disgard or disrespect her ..you are a special person ..and as such deserve and should demand ..respect at all times ..hopefully you will find what you need ..regards Kev


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