TMI - too much intimacy?  

rm_Elysia2005 44F
512 posts
7/25/2005 4:38 am

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TMI - too much intimacy?

Recently (VERY recently) noticed something about myself. I had spent a lovely night with a great guy, certainly one of the ones I can actually talk to as opposed to just fucking. Morning came way too early and we were stumbling around getting ready... me jumping in the shower, then brushing my teeth and combing my hair while he showered, etc. Then he stepped up to the sink and began to slather shaving cream on his face... and I had to walk away and go sit on the couch in the darkened living room. I did watch him, but from a distance and in the mirror. Why? Because watching a man shave in the morning is just too intimate. Watching him bury his face between my legs isn't, but watching him shave is. Weird, right? But here's the thing... I remember, as a child, how my mom would sit in the bathroom with my dad while he was getting ready and talk to him. And I remember how I never really did that with any of my boyfriends; never did that until I was living with the man who eventually became my husband. And it was for that very reason - because to me, watching a man shave was a level of intimacy that had to be reserved for someone very special. I really hadn't thought about it in ages, but this morning as B was getting ready, my heart just leaped to my throat at the thought of crossing a line I'm in no position to cross.

So what about you? Ladies, gentlemen... what are the little everyday things you do, that you don't let someone else see unless there's some level of trust and intimacy there? (I realize I'll limit responses here but... please, no fart comments.)And what are the things that make you walk out of the room, fearful that they are a signal of things going to another level? Where do you draw the line between something harmless, and an act of intimacy?

redmustang91 58M  
8949 posts
7/25/2005 7:06 am

urinating always seems so intimate and taboo to watch, although it is no big deal.

NewJackSwing 44M

7/25/2005 1:09 pm

Just using the fascilities .. that's it .. that's about all I really want or need privacy for.

If someone has to come into the bathroom while I am in the shower for a moment or two .. no big thing!

While I am in my bedroom getting dressed .. no big thing .. all I ask is you just knock first.

Shaving? It doesn't bother me. But for the love of anything, if you have to come in and you see I have shave cream on my face, PLEASE be sure to tell me if I missed a spot eh?

jimmy_j_76 41M
94 posts
8/6/2005 6:56 am

if i remember corectly, there was a story about a father and son getting ready to go to a funeral, his wifes i think, anyways the whole story takes place while the son is shaving his father and having a real heart to heart, to bad i can't remember it all.
call me vane but after a shower, when gelling my hair, i'm usually deep in thought and don't like being disturbed. that is usually when i think about what kind of day it will be. i think about the usual work routine and prepare for a another buisy day.

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