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Liberated Libido!
 
My place to let it all hang out.
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Network collectors and Lurkers?
Posted:Jul 26, 2007 4:37 pm
Last Updated:Aug 7, 2008 5:16 am
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Is it just me or does anyone else notice how many people here will offer or accept a network invitation without even the courtesy of any form of contact other than that?

It's as if they are collecting network friends to give the appearance of popularity. I simply do not understand the complete lack of courtesy that seems to be overly prevalent here.

I completely understand the nature of a busy life, and a busy work schedule, few jobs other than the type I have, have the type of schedule I do, so busy people.. got it, understand it. Additionally I understand the problems and grief caused by single men (mostly boys) who have no manners or home training whatsoever, and pester people on this site.

I also understand the irritation that may be caused by those same single men using their preferred pick up line of "Hey lets fuck" or "Come meet me and we'll fuck tonight." Those individuals make it just this side of impossible for a man like me, who is in possession of manners, and knows what respect means to even get a basic "no thanks not interested."

My biggest source of irritation however, are those people who obviously take enough time to either accept or send a network invite, and don't take 5 seconds to include a note. Even if the note says "Hey, I just like to have network friends" or "Hey, I just like to collect network photos" or something of the like.

In this way I and the rest of us would know where you stand. Or better yet, why not put that in your profile? Why not state that you have no intention of contacting, chatting with, meeting, or otherwise being involved with anyone affiliated with this site?

The thing is some of us here are real people and are truly interested in meeting, sharing, playing, and building some form of relationship with others, whatever form that takes.

Why can people not have the courtesy, or at least the class to at least respond in kind to people that take the time to contact them. Let me be clear... Responding in kind means precisely what it says... If someone sends a completely rude or obnoxious email or invite; Respond in kind! Send it back at them, ignore them, block them!

If someone fails to read and follow the requests and requirements outlined in your profile, then respond in kind! Be clear in your profile. I am a simple person, and I can read, and I do follow profile instructions. If you don't wish for single men to contact you, then don't advertise and list that you are seeking "men" in your profile!

I view many profiles, but only contact those who either contact me first, (Has happened ONCE since 1996)or those who's profiles are seeking a single man to contact them. It is quite irritating and rude to get a nasty gram back, (infrequently) or a message from AdultFriendFinder advising you of a complaint for attempting to contact someone who's profile clearly states they are seeking "Men."

No one, and I mean no one with whom I have corresponded on any level has ever received an impolite, discourteous, or rude and vulgar message from me. It may have been something as simple as a compliment. It would be amazing if people would be precise, and give others the courtesy they expect and demand.

If you are only seeking Bi-Females, then SAY THAT..... don't list couples, single, single men etc etc etc. All that being said, I think its time to clean out my Network list.

For all of you who are here that get offended by the sexual content or sexuality or nature of the people that are found here... Read this:

AdultFriendFinder.com
The World's Largest Sex & Swinger Personals Community

This is a sex and swingers personals community!!! This is not the ideal place to attempt to find your soul mate!! Be realistic! The majority of the people here are sexually charged, open minded, and comfortable with themselves, their bodies, the bodies of others, and nudity, as well as their sexuality!

So getting offended and posting nastiness about the way you are approached here is just ludicrous! Posting pictures of your intimate private parts and toys etc, then getting upset that someone messaged you and "wants to fuck" is silly! Look where you are.

If you are seeking a Husband, wife, or life partner soul mate situation, perhaps you need to find a personals site that's marketing slogan isn't "The World's Largest Sex & Swinger Personals Community" Be realistic with yourself and others. It's a fact that if you are nervous and otherwise offended with the content here, you are OBVIOUSLY not into the lifestyle, and probably not considering it seriously.

Also on the topic of being realistic, many of us here PAY for the service this site provides, and have done so for a number of years. If you are a lurker or leach, and suck it up for free, perhaps you should be more realistic about your demands?

The point of all this?? Why can people not be real? Why can people not be polite, courteous, and respectful? (Especially you hard up male who are drowning this website) And why cant those of you who have these high requirements and demands practice what you preach and take the time to at least respond to those who reach out, and do it in kind?

If your profile tells me you don't want me to contact you, I certainly wont, but if you do get a message from me, before you go crazy, block, nastigram, and report me, take a moment and have a look at first the message, and then your profile. I bet I didn't make a mistake, and I bet my message was benign. If you are not interested thats all I need to hear.... My final contact with you will be a thank you for replying and an apology for the disturbance... Polite, courteous, and what is commonly referred to as Manners and etiquette.
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I have returned
Posted:May 9, 2007 5:43 am
Last Updated:Mar 28, 2024 10:19 pm
892 Views

After a lengthy absence I have returned to see where this journey leads me next. I am still in Korea, however my duties, schedule and hectic life have kept me away from any real fun or "me" time for quite a while.

It is striking the number of women who behave precisely the way they complain they hate so much in men. The whole hit and split mentality... Doesn't anyone believe in being friends?

I am not trying to move in or settle down with anyone, but it would be nice to have some like-minded friends to pass the time with on occasion, and perhaps to even be intimate with when the mood strikes.

I am a caring and loyal type of person and friend. I don't simply discard those I am intimate with. That includes couples... If you choose to give me the gift of sharing, then I would like to be available to you in any capacity I am able if you are in need.

Loyalty and friendship. It isn't asking for marriage and community property! It's asking to be able to pick up the phone, or fire off an email and say: "Hey how are you? Whats new? Want to go get a bite to eat, or a drink?"

I think some of you know what I'm talking about.
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Greetings
Posted:Jan 8, 2006 10:55 pm
Last Updated:Feb 22, 2008 8:03 pm
1085 Views

Hey all you wonderful and forward thinking people, how are you? This is my first post here, and thusly short. I'll post here as often as the mood strikes me.

Hope you all visit on occasion, and leave feedback when appropriate. Take care all!
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