Saturday Afternoon.....  

rm_CpuDocMi 68M
43 posts
11/5/2005 1:20 pm

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Saturday Afternoon.....

No specific topic on this Blog... Just Thoughts...

Had a tough week at work. I live in Grand Blanc, but work at the Ford campus in Dearborn. Usually 1 1/2 hour drive each way, but I have found a way that avoids most of the contruction. So, I leave at 6:30am and get home at 7:30pm. My wife and kids (21 and 22) all work afternoons so I come home to an empty house.

But that can be a good thing, since I don't have to deal with the drama... AND, I can run to the bar and have some fun. I have a little 'hole in the wall' local bar in Grand Blanc (Three G's) that I like since when I walk in everyone says Hi!!. It is nice to be noticed.

I also show up at Maxie's some Mondays and Thursdays. They have Texas-hold'em on those nights. I won on one night and got a free t-shirt. The BIG winner of the night gets $50 of 'Maxie-bucks' (bar tab). They also sponsor a wet t-shirt contest on those nights.


I have been seeing this girl for about 2 months. I drop in where she works and we talk about nothing, anything and everything. I have taken her out to dinner and to the bar a couple of times, but we are just friends. Hugs and a kiss on the cheek or neck, but nothing more than that. Not that I wouldn't like to go further. Just yesterday I stopped in after not seeing her for about 2 weeks. We missed each other a lot. When I gave her a hug as we were leaving, I kissed her on the neck and she said 'wow...that got me all excited"... I know how she felt. I was pretty excited myself. She does that to me. I guess the thing to do at that point would have been to invite her out and see if I could 'close the deal'.

But I suffer from 'nice-guy-syndrome". I know that we have no future together. She is single and 22. I am married and 56. (Although, my marrage is in very bad shape. I guess you could call it a 'loveless marrage' - sexless too!!!!) I have a daughter her age (in fact I have a daughter 37!!). But, I would really like to take the relationship to the next level. I guess I am waiting for HER to 'close the deal'.

I am not sure how to read her. Sometimes I think she WANTS me to go for it, other times I think she is content with what we have. She is not the type to be a 'Fuck Buddy'.

What do you guys think?

BTW...the pic is my daughter. cute???...yep!!..has a steady boyfriend?.. YEP!!! Sorry guys....LOL

billybobobbriggs 43M
18 posts
11/12/2005 2:37 pm

Cute daughter doc....

I think your female friend wanted one of two things from you:
1. She loves to flirt, and the attention. I would have at least continued on from her "wow, that got me excited"... I would have responded with a "gee, I wouldn't want to leave a girl wanting more"... or a "is there anything I can do to expand on that thought?" She will either just fluff it away, or respond to your advance, with more flirting, or perhaps more.

2. She likes you, and may want to play with you physically. 22 is a pretty curious age, and she may have a fantasy she could see you filling. Your age difference, (and marital status) may be just the sheild she is looking for to protect her from getting into a more serious relationship with you. It provides the excuse for her to exit without much harm.... she may see relations with you as a way to explore her curiousities, without hurting a boy her age.

If there is one thing I have learned in life (fairly recently by the way) is that you don't get what you don't ask for. If you presume she would never be interested, you may just lose out on a chance to help her explore her curiousities in a low-emotional-risk situation.

Gently proceed, flirt, and cater to her curiousities, and if she responds.......... Hang on.

Good luck!

rm_CpuDocMi 68M
38 posts
11/14/2005 12:10 am

Thanks for the advice. Looking forward to the M&G on the 18th. I will give you an update.

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