Back after a long break ;)  

rm_Blinded1969 40M
534 posts
7/4/2006 3:45 am

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Back after a long break ;)

Whad'ya know? im back after a much needed break. So,.... how are you people doing? Good i supposed. AnywhoOOoo, i just came back from Bangkok. Shop, shop, shop... and who says only girls like shopping heh? The company i had there was awesome.. 5 of us and a whole lotta mad fun! LOL!

Oh well, the ex called me up one fine morning while having my dose of caffeine at the balcony of Sukhotai Hotel. This is exactly what she said "Darling, im sorry, i really want you back, we were drunk at that point of time. We didnt know what we were doing. You are the best i've ever had.. pls come back to me.. i promise i wont do it again. Pls baby im begging you come back to me"And my answer was, "im not in the mood to think abt it right now, as much as i luv you but i am definately disappointed and hate you at the same time, we'll talk again when i come back"..... And so now im back, without she knowing that im in SG.. im lost, i dont really know what to do. I dont know how to make a decision on this one. Should i just say NO! or perhaps play along with I'll think abt it?.. She's been sending me sms-es like loads of them. What do you think my decision should be heh? 10/13 girls i asked said, just go back to her lah. 13/13 guys i asked said, FUCK IT! DONT BOTHER..


happyladychat 49F
3740 posts
7/4/2006 5:16 am

Really depends on how much you still care for her. If you get back with her due to sympathy or pressure, it only spells trouble.

Meanwhile, trust your instinct... stay away from her for awhile... if kind friends come pestering... just shrug & ask to think about it.... focal point is whether you can forgive and forget. If time goes by and you find yourself missing her more, then perhaps you should give the relationship one more go.

All the best!

Make it your challenge.... turn me ON!!

baby_fat_femme 34F
214 posts
7/4/2006 5:55 am

Trust is very important in a relationship, so if you feel you can trust her again then go ahead! But if you can't, then there's no point. Cos each time you guys have disagreements, the past will come back to haunt you. And things might becone uglier than now.

poison_syrup 44F
8533 posts
7/4/2006 11:23 am

Drunk is a lame excuse!! Can you killed someone and just apologise for what you have done? NO WAY!! If apology can work that way, what's the use of having law? She had killed your trust!! Move on in life... wonderful things could be waiting for you...

Angel Of Sins

goodtry 56M
918 posts
7/4/2006 7:44 pm

Well this is your life and this is your destiny, no one can decide for you. You will have to decide yourself. Again, you need to know what is your position.

You hate her or angry of her because of what she has done, so how about yourself what have you done before that she is no aware, YES or NO. To be fair, to be open, you have to think. Look at the mirror, see yourself before you judge another person. It is hard to find a perfect person, and it is hard to belief what you see is just an coincident. Well both of you may become normal friends one day or maybe not or maybe you accept her again, it is hard to tell, it is your own decision. I can understand it is hard for you to swallow the fact as a man and face others. It is easy for her to say I am sorry as well, so you have to think what is good for you.

But again, what ever decision you made, you do not regret in future as this is what you have chosen and just move forward.

lund0069 48M

7/5/2006 3:35 am

whatever is said and done the only person who can decide is u.

imagine if u do take her back...u must do so on a clean slate..u must throw out all your angst and prejudices against her which would be there...

if in future there is anything not right in your relationship, you should not let this episode interfere in your dealings with her. u shld not bring it up in an attempt to hurt her...

if u do take her back...u must allow her to built the trust again. it is not easy.

if u feel that there would be a level of suspicion forever lurking there for ages...don't kid yourself...then move would bring more hurt to the both of u.

just some of my thot...

Serenely_Yours 118

7/7/2006 11:43 am

Hmmmm. Its about trust again. And the fate between you and her. Sometimes its just so strange when things happened. Like we always say, "Things happened for a reason."

My hubby breached our trust once, before we were married and we went seperate ways for 3 years. But we just could not leave it there. We met up again and he was about to break off with his then girlfriend and I was not seeing anyone serious too. We decided that we wanted to be together as we love each other so much, even though we were seeing other people. So you see, it is true that if he/she is yours, it would be. If not, then it would not. Things happened for a reason. And I told my hubby that if we are going to breach this trust again, we would know what to do.

٭ ˚ °◦○☻ Serenely Yours ☺○◦° ˚ ٭

rm_Blinded1969 40M
916 posts
7/12/2006 3:28 am

hey people thanks for evrything, i read and understand what ya'll think abt the whole thing... but what GOODTRY said is definately true.. thanks man. i dunno, i havent make any decision yet. but if i were to reconcile with her again i'll do what LUND said... and yes HLC, i do miss her loads..

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