45 Minutes Foreplay....20 Minutes Oral.....30 Minutes Penetration.....  

rm_AmishAmy 101F
842 posts
4/23/2006 8:10 pm

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4/25/2006 4:39 am

45 Minutes Foreplay....20 Minutes Oral.....30 Minutes Penetration.....

i have been asking this question of people that i believe pretty sexually active and in tune because i'm curious about such things....the answers have surprised me a little....so i thought i would pose it here....

my question is:
when you're having sex with someone for the first time....and you may not know this person very well sexually....(for instance what turns them off, what part of sex they enjoy most...etc...)
do you have a slam dunk sex plan on how and what you're gonna do first or do you just kinda go smorgasboard and try a little bit of everything....until you either hit their hot spot or freak them out right before they race out the door screaming??

saddletrampsk 55F

4/23/2006 8:47 pm

I can never keep track of the time....It's all a blur to me

You are cordially invited to [post 319220]..hurry as keys are being passed out on Monday..hope you can attend..

caressmewell 54F

4/23/2006 8:54 pm

I'd like to hear some of the answers you've been getting...sounds like they were interesting.

Your title kinda sums it up...with maybe a few nice/naughty surprises in between.

southrnpeach333 51F

4/23/2006 9:37 pm

I think guys have more of an agenda than women. But sorta sweet when you think about, they aim to please.

rm_LilBlondeNZ 41F
1028 posts
4/23/2006 9:43 pm

I think it really depends on if youre a man or a woman, and how connected you are with the person you're planning to go to bed.

I think there's more pressure on men to "have a plan" when it comes to that... I think I always just took my cues from what was working and go from there, and hoped he came back for more.

I recently had the rare (maybe first?) experience of being in love with someone before having sex with him, and it was a *totally* different experience. There was no pressure, because I knew the relationship was not hingeing on me doing some kind of acrobatic headboard stunts or something.

Then again there are things that have to make *everyone* happy. Who doesnt like kisses and hugs and ....mmmmm...



imLadyBambi 59M/51F

4/23/2006 10:23 pm

Just do what's natural.

Never rush, take your time.

Lady Bambi

hotrod352006 68M  
555 posts
4/23/2006 11:50 pm

I think soft sensual communication is good. Don't be talking it to death, just verbalize a little.

mad07 44M

4/24/2006 12:25 am

How can anyone logically have a plan, its something that should come natural. And I think that if a man really likes that woman then they try and please ANYWAY they can. I personally dont have a plan but just like to do it spontaneous....................and go from there!

aascrompn 43M
6444 posts
4/24/2006 7:57 pm

I usually start w/ the obvious kisses along the neck/ear area. I then may put my hand on her abs if I'm kissing her to see if she flinches. If she does, I continue to kiss her. If she doesn't, I reach my hand under her shirt. If she lets me, I rub her breats. Once I get her down to no clothes, I start by kissing her mouth again to let her know that I'm not just concentrating on her body. I then work my way down to the Y. I spend a VERY long time down there if she lets me. If she doesn't, I gently run my fingers in her inner thigh back of the knees and calf region...

JustaSeeker 107F

4/24/2006 8:39 pm

Men really do want to be good in bed. At least the ones I've known have cared deeply about that, so I actually do whatever I can the first time to help him be that.

It's only fair when he's trying his best, and it works out for me...well, I do know what's going to work, so guiding it in that direction seems like the best plan...being open and honest about what you like is usually best, anyway. I mean, you're naked and having sex with this person...and I prefer to see a man feeling like Christopher Columbus after he's discovered the New World...the strutting is a little annoying, but they're men, what can you do?

sweetXhotXgoodX 45F
3 posts
4/24/2006 9:03 pm

i've found that if you (the woman) guide a man while having sex it can be much more enjoyable for the both of you. if you go into it thinking" hey i'm gonna spend so many ninutes at the y, so many kissing, so many with penetration, etc. it just ruins it because it feels like it's been scheduled or planned out... that's no fun! also, alot of women get frustrated with men who try to overperform in the oral area. i think that women should be in tune enough with their body to be able to show the man what they really like and enjoy and how to do it also. every person is like a big map.... til you've been down the trail you don't really know where you'll end up.

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