security, insecurity, complacency...  

rm_3_1415926 42F
2 posts
11/4/2005 10:03 pm

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

security, insecurity, complacency...


when one is insecure, they push... they push to test the boundaries and when they find that they are held to limits and standards, they become secure in that...

when one is secure in their place and in knowing their boundaries, they no longer feel the need to push, because they know that if they did, they would be held safely in their place...

security and comfort in a relationship is not to be confused with complacency... when one becomes complacent in a relationship, when they are allowed to roam, to slack off in their duties, in their control, self or otherwise, they become insecure of their role, because they have not been held safely within the confines of the initially established boundaries... they have not been reminded of their place... thus, they push... to overcome the developed complacency... to try and force a reaction, a reminder of where they stand in the relationship...

just some random thoughts and ramblings...

sleeplessknight1 69M

11/5/2005 8:02 am

when yu feel insecure, yu perceive they are pushing...
when yu feel secure its not pushing, its exploring...
Complacency in a relationship does not give a licence to roam,
it should be a trigger to relight the fire... note I said "should".

Did I miss the point..... sorry if I did....
I am good at Rambling..on and on and on


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