Jealousy getting the best of me...  

rm_36specialk 49F
731 posts
3/16/2006 6:59 am

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Jealousy getting the best of me...

I have to know...

Guys, would you want your girlfriend to tell you what it is that's bothering her, if you knew that her answer were going to be that she's jealous of the other women in your life?

I'll discuss most any topic, but if I am jealous, it seems silly, but I don't want to discuss it because it makes me feel like I'm shallow or not confident. I feel like if I say I'm jealous then it makes me seem insecure or something.

Mr.X get's upset when I tell him that I don't want to talk about something when he clearly knows that something is wrong with me. But, the only time I won't talk to him about something is if that something is that I'm jealous. All I need is a few hours to not think about the subject and I'm fine. But the initial thought of another woman finding him to be all she wants in a man is threatening to me, and I get upset and territorial. I don't want to be, but it isn't something I can help either.

I know that men get territorial, but it isn't a feeling that I like. I feel like I should be secure in knowing without a doubt that he's in love with me, but when he talks about other women, the doubt arises.


OK, I'm over it now

Sorceror07 55M

3/16/2006 7:47 am

talking about it is best... even if you're not talking about it with him... then talk about it with some friends... just to get it off your mind so you're not dwelling on it and stewing.

...That which does not kill me merely pisses me off!...

HeardLankaMalls 56M
2925 posts
3/16/2006 10:24 am

We all have doubts and insecurities K. You'll have to judge how Mr X would handle you saying 'I'm jealous of so and so, that's why I'm upset' versus just letting him guess what's upsetting you. In some cases, it's six of one, half dozen of the other on what's best to do. I know I get more angry (and reclusive) at my own insecurities, then the actual situation causing them.

Hugs, C

uffan1 40M
1 post
3/16/2006 7:48 pm

I would say exactly what you wrote. A really important part is that you get over it after a couple hours. If he hase this idea it will make it easier.

One of my pet peeves is when girl clearly has an issue but won;t talk about it. But if she agrees that it will go away it is not an issue.

Does that make sense for you?

wistfuljester 65M

3/18/2006 8:48 am

I believe that jealousy without specific cause is firmly rooted in insecurities--something we ALL struggle with, regardless of what anyone says to the contrary.

As well, not wanting to talk about it is being afraid of letting ourselves be more vulnerable to that person. Hmmm..sounds like insecurity again, doesn't

Your Mr. X sounds like a cool guy. Good for the both of you!

wistfuljester 65M

3/19/2006 10:51 am

Oh, I don't know. Just keeping busy in my interest group, mostly.

I don't often intrude in other people's blogs--somehow doesn't feel right to me most of the

Yes, that makes sense to me, but I'm glad it makes sense to you!

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