reverend21 50M
1017 posts
5/21/2006 8:58 pm

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5/29/2006 3:35 am


Picked my son son up for our time together today

a couple minutes into the trip he told me about his finger being cut

I asked how it got cut

he told me that it happened when his mom was pulling his hair and squessing his hand

I asked him how often that she pulled his hair

most of the time is what he told me

devious, there was some questions asked about some bruises my son had last year, asked by the school

so now she grabs him by the hair of the head and pulls, no visible bruises

So I sit here now in a sea of turbulant emotions,

sickened by the inafectivness of the courtsystem that is supposed to protect him yet they give him no voice

enraged by the brutalaty his mother shows and how she continues to take her frustrations out on him

and utterly destroyed because I am helpless to do anything

so tomorrow I will be attempting to get help for him once again, not that it will do any good, but I have to try

papyrina 52F
21133 posts
5/22/2006 5:03 am

is there not a kind teacher at his school who trusts you that you can share this with,and then hopefully an outsider can reprt it,hugs hun

I'm a

i'm here to stay

reverend21 replies on 5/29/2006 3:39 am:
He was bullied for three weeks while I waited for the teachers or the school to take action. The day I picked him up and he had been drug across the play ground by four bullies, I spoke up and put the teacher and the school on the spot. His mother has told him not to fight back.

If this goes on in front of the teacher and nothing is done, I have my doubts about them noticing any bruising.

kelly402005 53F

5/22/2006 6:14 am

~~~ Hugs

I wish you only success on your mission.
Your son deserves it.......

reverend21 replies on 5/22/2006 10:08 am:
I agree, nobody, especially children deserve abbuse, unfortunatly it seems there are no laws protecting children that a lawyer is not needed to enforce, but I guarantee you this, if it was her saying those things about me, I wuld have lost all parental rights without a seconds thought!

shar1 56F
606 posts
5/22/2006 10:24 am

My thoughts are with you.

reverend21 replies on 5/22/2006 12:43 pm:
thank you, that means alot. Keep my son in yur prayers, please

southrnpeach333 51F

5/22/2006 2:21 pm

I wish you luck. And your son luck. I know that it can be frustrating but I know that you will do all that you can.

reverend21 replies on 5/22/2006 7:08 pm:
thanks, frustating, yep, been there and growing in frustration by the day.

reverend21 50M
1913 posts
5/22/2006 8:19 pm

his teacher didn't see him get bullied for three weeks, nor did she see him get dragged accross the playground by four kids, so I have my doubts

HBowt2 60F

5/23/2006 9:17 am

here if a kid tells a teacher something she has to report it.....thinking about you and him.....he is such a cutie...how could anyone hurt him.....

reverend21 replies on 5/23/2006 1:57 pm:
You don't know his mother

kelly402005 53F

5/23/2006 7:24 pm

I know you must feel so frustrated.

Did anything pan out the other day?

As per your comment to me~ I know it would have been brutal, if it would have been you... even if it were not true... I'm sorry man.
But, you've got it right.......

reverend21 replies on 5/28/2006 6:24 am:
DSS is finally investigating her

phoenix639 50F

5/28/2006 1:24 am

Evil. Pure evil.

Hurting children is bad enough but when its your own child....sickens me.

Id die for my daughter as im sure many parents would too.

Best of luck.

reverend21 replies on 5/28/2006 6:23 am:
Thank you

Juliet610 52F

5/29/2006 1:21 am


I'm WAY behind on reading the Blogs, so I hope this has been resolved by now, but I won't bet the rent. As others have said, teachers are mandatory reporters, so if your son tells ANY teacher he is comfortable with, they HAVE to report it to social services, or their job is on the line. Does he have a good rapport with his teacher from last year? the music teacher? the PE teacher? the school counselor? ANY of these people have to report any disclosure a child makes. While you can't prompt your son on what to say, strongly encourage him to tell an adult that he trusts, and right away, what he has already told you. My heart aches for you, Ash, because I'm afraid you've already tried this.

There is one more avenue to try, and that's getting a Guardian Ad Litem on behalf of your son. His or her SOLE concern is the best interest of the child. I don't know if you have them in NC, or if they go by a different name, but they DO NOT cost the family anything here in WA. I copied the definition from an online law dictionary. Hope it helps:

A person, not necessarily a lawyer, who is appointed by a court to represent and protect the interests of a child or an incapacitated adult during a lawsuit. For example, a guardian ad litem (GA may be appointed to represent the interests of a child whose parents are locked in a contentious battle for custody, or to protect a child's interests in a lawsuit where there are allegations of child abuse. The GAL may conduct interviews and investigations, make reports to the court and participate in court hearings or mediation sessions. Sometimes called court-appointed special advocates (CASAs).

Hang in there, sweet man, and know my prayers are added to those praying for you and your son. God bless and keep you both.

Long distance hug,

reverend21 replies on 5/29/2006 2:39 am:
His Mother put him in a different school. he has told me that he has told atleast two teachers, but they probably think I put him up to it. The law here serves the highest bidder. we already have a court appointed advocate, He is the one who ordered DSS to investigate the mater post haste.

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