I think I liked it better when I was in the friying pan  

reverend21 50M
1017 posts
5/15/2006 8:12 pm

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I think I liked it better when I was in the friying pan

Well, a week ago i got fed up with all the 'shopping' and flirtations just for the sake of flirting, and deleted my profile. Then today I got to thinking about I had two monthes of membership left, contact AdultFriendFinder, no refund, so I decided to come back here for more rejection. What can I say, I was married for 14 years, I'm used to abuse from women.

So I'm trying to decide, should I sell my home and move .... anywhere, or should I stay. I interviewing attourneys now, hoping for a ray of sunshine, anything. my ex is sytematically destroying my son, nobody in authority cares, 'women are better parents' that's what I'm constanly being told. So much for each case being judged on it's on without prejudice.

I'm going back to court, to try and gain full custody, I've been told it's hopeless by two attourneys so far, but I can't stand to see her hurt my son, I know she is just doing it to hurt me, well, it's working very well.

Am I dwelling on bad things, no need to, new and improved bad news comes my way by the day. I should be more positive? Trust me, I am as positive as a person can be.

Juliet610 52F

5/15/2006 11:40 pm


I know I can't really do anything to help from the other side of the country, but please know that I'm in your corner, pulling for you. I almost feel foolish saying this, but please don't do anything you'll regret later---you know what I mean! Keep talking to atty's--hopefully one will be able to help you. Meanwhile, be the best dad you can be, and know that I'm not the only one who cares! A hug for you.


reverend21 replies on 5/16/2006 3:12 am:
Your concern is appreciated, and i know what you mean by not doing anything stupid, ofcourse joining this site in search for companionship was not exactly smart of me.

ohsodelicious 58F
1922 posts
5/16/2006 1:19 pm

rev{=} I am sorry to hear that so much crap is going on in your life. I can't understand why divorced parents...in this case your Ex...can't be the 'adult' she is suppose to be and realize the child's welfare...is the important issue. His well being...not her immature spitefulness. I only wish my sons' father had been concerned...he walked away and never looked back. It is a shame she can not see or comprehend this is not about her or you...this about your son. Sorry!!


reverend21 replies on 5/16/2006 1:47 pm:
it's the type of person she is, let put it this way, the attourney that did the divorce and the primary child custody, refuses to face her again, he said that she as the most difficult, irratinag and irational person he had ever met. That was right before he asked how I lived with her for 14 years! As for what she is doing to my son, he always has to be sick when he is with her, whe researched AD/HD and then found a doctor to diagnose him with it, next she got hm diagnosed with by-polar disorder, then she put him on sleeping pills, and then at a parent teacher conference I found out that she was trying to get him diagnosed as being autistic. She failed at that, but she will not be satisfied until she has destroyed him, either by instutionalizing him or putting him in a grave.

TabithaElectra79 39F

5/17/2006 2:41 am

I always say, listen to your inner voice, that is usually right, no matter how difficult it seems, if you think it is right, continue following the path...

reverend21 replies on 5/17/2006 6:10 am:
my inner voice is just as torn as my outer voice

papyrina 52F
21133 posts
5/17/2006 8:18 am

any way of getting documented evidance at all?

never give up my dad got custody of all four of his kids,
hugs hun

I'm a

i'm here to stay

reverend21 replies on 5/17/2006 11:08 am:
I'm trying

GoddessOfTheDawn 106F
11240 posts
5/17/2006 8:26 am

~nodz~ I know more in that situation 'mom is best' where mom is just about anything BUT that .... so frustrating

~ hugz ~ I wish I had more to offer ....

reverend21 replies on 5/17/2006 11:10 am:
tell me about it, our of the four aressts I made for child abuse, when I was a cop, three of them were wome, and One of them alos was charged with arson, assualt with a deadly weapon and three counts of attempted murder.

ohsodelicious 58F
1922 posts
5/17/2006 4:56 pm

rev{=} Have you ever heard of 'munchousin by proxy' before...it is where a parent creates an illness or something...just to get attention for themselves...maybe you should try to take your son to an independent doctor...if you could and see what they have to say.


reverend21 replies on 5/17/2006 6:43 pm:
I've heard of it, proving it is a different thing, any suggestions?

reverend21 replies on 5/17/2006 6:43 pm:
I've heard of it, proving it is a different thing, any suggestions?

ohsodelicious 58F
1922 posts
5/18/2006 8:24 am

rev...The only thing I can really think of is to take him to a different doctor...but the thing is if he is already 'doped up on Meds' there would be no way for the doctor to do an accurate assessment {I wouldn't think}...but it would be worth a try. The question is???...Do you really think there is something wrong with your son?? If not and you 'deep in your bones' believe your Ex is causing harm to your son...I would fight 'tooth-n-nail' for him...prove it someway...and get him out of her clutches...Sorry, I know I went a little overboard...but...children should be charished...'not'...I'll leave that one to your interpretation.

Supportive Hugs...OhSo{=}

ps...Wish I could do more!!

reverend21 replies on 5/18/2006 11:08 am:
I have an idea

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