A theory  

reverend21 51M
1017 posts
5/9/2006 3:46 am

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5/23/2006 12:33 am

A theory

I have a theory that all dating and sex sites should be renamed. All of them should be called Womans choice.

Seriously ladies, how many e-mails do you get on average? I see where alot of you turn off your profiles and have auto resoponse because you are getting too many e-mails, yet you complain about not having anyone.

Men send alot of initial responses get few replies, and even less initial contacts from women.
Truth time:


how many emails do you get on average?
how many intial contacts do you make?
(emails, not meetings, how many emails do you send without being contacted by the person first?


how many emails do you get on average?
how many intial contacts do you make?

This sight and others like it including dating is just another shopping trip for women, not looking to buy, maybe try on for size, and mostly look.

Yet I read so many a man did me wrong blogs, OK, so you are here to blow off steam, window shop, and what, to feel wanted and desired?

Here is a little secret ladies, men actually are here on this site and other adult sites, dating sites, etc to actually meet someone, because of the bull shit involved with meeting women in the real world. Actually after being here several monthes, I see it is not just the women in my area, it's every where.

Ladies if you are on a site for meeting people for relationships of any kind, sexual or more, don't compalin, men are not merchandise nor are we emotionless things for you to play with. Happy shopping!

papyrina 52F
21133 posts
5/9/2006 4:46 am

i don't get too many as Grece is a small country and most have already written at least once i reply to 50% of them and i meet on average once amonth a new guy for coffee,,If i left my website as available i get just as much attention on there as i do here lol

I'm a

i'm here to stay

reverend21 replies on 5/9/2006 8:33 am:
ok, I need to edit the question I see.

941 posts
5/9/2006 5:01 am

I get the same as yummmy, they may make initial contact the guys, but after one or two emails they disappear. At times you can have 4 or 5 emails you`re responding to, chatting to them, or whatever, where is the time to make many initial contacts ourselves.

There are also guys on this site not interested in meeting and more interested in a perve. It works both ways and no one has to just take any old thing to prove a point. You may not be emotionless things, we are not booty calls.

reverend21 replies on 5/9/2006 8:32 am:
nice, avoided the question completely, as I did not ask how many meetings you have had or refer to woment as booty cals, I did refer to them as shoppers. Thank you for the little speil though, I'll file it for future reference.

reverend21 51M
1913 posts
5/9/2006 8:16 am

I have noticed that women are always offended by this, so i will repeat the question,

how many emails received?

meaning how many times on average are you contacted?

how many intial contact made?

meaning how often do you intiate contact with an e-mail

thank you sweetbabydee for answering part of the question and not being offended and not going on to embelish the how, why, and where as in an attempt to make a point, that will be the next posted question.

papyrina 52F
21133 posts
5/9/2006 2:08 pm

haha ,i'll wink possible once a day at newbies, and if a guy is standard and i like the look of him i will happily write,

I'm a

i'm here to stay

reverend21 replies on 5/9/2006 2:14 pm:
that's one,


5/9/2006 9:53 pm

1. I get alot of emails 67 in the last 9 days.
2. I don't have a tracking system to how many I respond to but if it is a blogger I always respond or if it is something that touches my heart or other reason.

3. I initiate rarely.

My profile is pretty clear I am about the blog, not shopping! So I think people just email without reading the profile sometimes. Not talking about you just talking about my emails and not all of them. My regular email correspondence is with my blogfriends. People are treasures.

Now if ya said shopping!!! I know where there is a great shoe sale

just a squirrel trying to get a nut

reverend21 replies on 5/9/2006 11:23 pm:
and you have such cute shoes

bardicman 51M

5/10/2006 9:32 am

And when they do choose someone they choose the losers (just like in real life) get burned, run off screaming, and us good guys are left standing with our penis's in our hands wondering what she saw in Billy Bob that she could not see in us.

God I want Angelina Jolie.

I am not dead yet

SecretEarNoTears 48F  
767 posts
5/10/2006 1:13 pm

I actually have to wonder about your comment that men are on here & other sites to meet women. Many, many, many... of emails that I received from men either start off, end or somewhere in the middle say.... ! Well, after a few times of actually contacting them and having them DEMAND, Yes...they actually demand....your webcam be turned on and to get some online sex! WHOA!!! I'm just not into the whole online & phone sex thing...it's just not me.

Could it be that other women get the same?

Could it be that there are a lot of women that actually want to meet men too but, want to be safe. I know I've tried to meet men and tell them to show up at the local meet & greet on Saturday's and they never show saying that they are into that. Well, how do they know that? Our meet & greets that are here in the Metro area that I refer to are in public clubs/bars not private ones and they know it. It sends me a signal that they are not 'available' to be seen in public with another woman.

As for complaining I hear a great deal of gripping out of men who have met women that have not turned out to be their 'dream date' and then wonder why I won't meet them...??? Who wants to be critized like that behind their back or put up with a shallow person?

Remember....not everyone is for everyone!

reverend21 replies on 5/23/2006 12:32 am:
those that demand things are just here for sex

SecretEarNoTears 48F  
767 posts
5/10/2006 1:23 pm

I forgot to add....I get about 15 emails a day (then don't forget... 10-30 winks and then the 5-15 network invites)...all depending on when & if I log in. Initial contacts? If I see a profile that really stands out or a really good pic I'll send the initial email but those are rare 1 every 3-6 months??? How many email do I send before meeting....all depends on the guy & if we chat on IM somewhere....

reverend21 replies on 5/23/2006 12:33 am:
kudos, youare one of the few that actually makes initail contact

rm_shar1 57F
606 posts
5/20/2006 9:45 am

I would average 10 emails a day, even tho my profile clearly states that I don't meet, only chat and blog. And I do respond to each one thanking them for the email but letting them know I'm not interested in meets

I have sent email to men, but usually having read a blog I liked or having chatted in the Ireland room.

reverend21 replies on 5/23/2006 12:31 am:
good answer!, covered everything I asked

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