Why an affair is better than a divorce!  

redmustang91 58M  
8979 posts
5/24/2005 12:29 pm

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Why an affair is better than a divorce!

Some singles criticize married guys for not getting divorced if the sex is not satisfying, rather than pursue an affair. While the gutsy confrontational approach appeals to the rugged individuals of the Wild West, avoiding divorce has its benefits:

1. Divorce may be a permanent solution to a temporary problem, like suicide.

2. Affairs provide relief and excitement that can help the marriage, if it can be helped.

3. Affairs often end in weeks or months.

4. Divorce is messy, expensive and damages the kids and participants; more than an affair does.

5. Dealing with lawyers and the courts is irritating, traumatic and intrusive.

6. A marriage with problems may be better than a divorced couple.

patsam69 52M/52F

5/24/2005 1:34 pm

You are so pulling at straws to justify infidelity. It is sickening.

Crimson959 59F

5/24/2005 1:39 pm

Unsatisfying sex is not a valid reason for divorce....take me...I'm happily married...the sex isn't there but the relationshsip is stable otherwise...I've invested 22 years into this marriage...I wouldn't give it all up for another relationship which only holds great sex....next best thing is having an affair.


rm_jayR63 60F
1884 posts
5/24/2005 3:27 pm

I agee with the author.

redmustang91 58M  
8924 posts
5/25/2005 4:25 pm

I do not justify infidelity. It is a sin, but a very common one. I never wanted to be a saint! According to Ex-prez Jimmy Carter, having lust in your heart is the same as doing the nasty deed. If so, how many can say they were totally faithful in thought, word and deed?

CountryGent1962 56M

6/5/2005 5:08 pm

My soon to be ex is bipolar, and OCD. There is NO sex what so ever. She cycles through her moods, as she gets older it gets worse. I have had enough of the suicidal threats/ threats of screwing around on me and laying in bed and crying for days at a time. I have tried to get her help/committed. She refuses to do anything to help herself.

A divorce is MUCH better, i have broke my ass to hold this together for the past 15 years.........

i am finished!

redmustang91 58M  
8924 posts
6/23/2005 8:22 am

Well, country gent in your case I agree. See all generalizations are subject to exceptions. Crazy is not good. Best of luck to you.

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