How many lovers make you a slut/whore?  

redmustang91 58M  
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7/5/2006 10:27 am

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7/11/2006 9:20 am

How many lovers make you a slut/whore?


Reading a poll on AdultFriendFinder blog about how many lovers you met through AdultFriendFinder and the pollster considered any number above ten to make you a slut/whore!

As a male I don't get paid for sex so not a prostitute. I would not want to make my avocation a vocation in any event. What I love about sex is that it is a departure from a job in that there is not a real sense of obligation to perform apart form the general desire not to disappoint. You do it for fun and if it is not fun you should not be doing it!

I have not had that many lovers and feel I am a tolerant person but not indiscriminate. Of course I find a young and healthy body attractive, but the most important qualities are a sexy attitude and fun personality. Intelligence is sexy. Charm and humor are hot!

My guess is more women then men feel bad about having many lovers, but that may be changing...

LeEnchantress 56F

7/5/2006 10:56 am

Wow.. above ten and you are a slut!
That's a joke... ask men how many women they have had and if they answered honestly and didn't married str8 out of high school to their high school sweetheart.. I'm sure most would answer more than ten.
So.. why should women be confined to only 10 men before we enter slutdom???
That opens a large can of worms. You say you want sex only for pleasure.. so why are women still condemned to some hostile hateful label cuz we want it too?
And it doesn't seem like men are really so set on commitment in this day and age. It's more like.. "let's kick the tires, take it around the block, see how it drives sort of thing, before they even think about committing to any sort of relationship lately".
So... you gotta figure.. all those girls out there who met these guys who didn't want a serious relationship are going to get some mileage sex-wise on them.
And that makes them undesirable??
well... IF that's true that a very telling thing about that sort of man. For starters he's a hypocrit, and for another thing he's judgemental as hell.
It's so funny that men having alot of women are considered a stud... but for women.. we are whores.
Well... if you are worried about STD's, you can only ball virgins.. but then there'd be less virgins in the world if you did that. And you'd be "spoiling" the woman for the next guy who comes along who wants a virgin.
Come on now.. this is a sex site.
It seems mighty peculiar to be judging women above the 10-men count as "whores".
Also.. have you ever been with a virgin? Do you really want someone that inexperienced to be your sexual partner?
You might... who knows.... or maybe your weiner is so small, only a virgin could satisfy it, who knows?
It always amazes me that men insist women have sex with them.. but then after we do we are deemed "whores".
No wonder men have problems getting laid. How would like to be criticize and given the label of "whore" just cuz you did what someone wanted?
Think about it....


rm_lucy_sesto 33F
185 posts
7/5/2006 11:16 am

TEN!!!??? U mean 10 as in TENNN??!!! Nom way!!! If that were the case... I'll be more than a double slot!!! And still, I have met lots of women who have been with less than 7 guys are WAAYY more of a "slot" than I am.
Numbers are just numbers, you can't put a label on someone after a certain number of sexual encounters or partners... What if U have done it with 20 diferent guys but every one of them was cuz U loved the guy, cuz U were young and stupid enough as to think he was the man of your life?? What if U have done it only with 4 but all of them were just for fun, just to pleasure your self?? It could happen... and none of them is really wrong, none of them actually makes U a "slot".
Sometimes girls like to be treated as slots, feel desired and sexy, I have done it more than a few times myself...Been a slot is a matter of the way U act, the way you dress, the way you adress to people, the way U feel;it doesn't have so much to do with the "amount" of guys U have been with or how much U enjoy sex
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akron42   
2375 posts
7/5/2006 11:19 am

My name is Akron42. Apparently I'm a slut/whore. (Hi Akron42). BTW, this IS the 12 step slut/whore group isn't it?LOL


redmustang91 58M  
8917 posts
7/5/2006 12:04 pm

LeEnchantress don't get mad at me, I did not make the poll about ten partners making you a slut in the pollsters view. I prefer a woman with some experience, else how will she appreciate my superior lovemaking skills?

Virgins are too tearful and clingy.

My question was how many lovers make you consider yourself a slut/whore, which term can apply to men as well...

I like a person in touch with their inner slut!


red_hot_trucker 59F

7/6/2006 4:32 am

It seems to me your basing your information on someone else's warped ideology. Where do they get the number which catagorizes a woman whose had more than ten lovers a slut? And what if she was, damn the bad luck, married to all of them, would she still be a slut?





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redmustang91 58M  
8917 posts
7/6/2006 8:06 am

Being married ten times make you bad at sustaining marriage or having poor judgment in choosing marriage partners. I think slutiness is an attitude and not numbers. Interesting how aroused women get at the title "slut"!


LeEnchantress 56F

7/11/2006 3:28 am

Well.. being called a slut sure isn't considered a compliment is it? Or has that now changed.
Wow... you opened a large can of worms with this post. Nope.. glad to see you yourself didn't consider that 10 was the Optimal number for slutdom.
Maybe this whole concept of slutdom was developed long before penicillin and modern medicine.. If you caught syphillis a long time ago.. you'd be in bad straits once it hit a certain stage in the disease.
Cannot we forget these antiquidated ideologies... After all.. we do have access to modern medicine now.
Anyway... that's interesting.. many it should be guys who are considered sluts past a certain number in this day and age. There are veneral diseases out there that the guy cannot even be tested for that cause cancer! HPV is one of them...
That's nasty stuff... and even if you wore a condom there's a possibility of passing it onto your unsuspecting partner. And you NEVER can get rid of it either!
I'll be so relieved when they finally release the vaccine that prevents HPV!
Until then maybe I should limit my sexual partners to men who's had less than 10 partners! LOL
Oh.. for the record.. we aren't "aroused" by the title slut.... we are pissed off by it..


redmustang91 58M  
8917 posts
7/11/2006 9:20 am

I think being in touch with your inner slut is a very good thing! How many partners you choose to share your sexuality with is a personal decision and not for me to approve or condemn. Words have powerful effects on people! I favor people taking charge of their own sexual identity and not letting others define you. I think the pollster actually had twenty partners in mind for true "slutdom', male or female. Consider Wilt Chamberlain who claimed 20,000 sex partners!


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