NSA sex - Are you the jealous type?  

qship52 64M
187 posts
5/18/2006 10:07 am

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5/21/2006 6:13 pm

NSA sex - Are you the jealous type?

Would you be jealous if your spouse/girlfriend/boyfriend wanted to have some NSA sex with another man/woman? How about a couple, where you also participate?

When I started dating my girlfriend, she was dating other guys from AdultFriendFinder, most for 2-3 dates with some NSA sex.

As she started getting closer to me, she gradually cut down to 3 guys (including me), and shut down her profile. Then she cut it off with one of the other guys. Now she's uncomfortable having sex with the other guy, so she's becoming monogamous, essentially. It seems a natural progression.

Myself, I'm quite comfortable with being monogamous, and I changed my profile to reflect that a couple of months ago. That happened when I fell in love with her. She's since fallen in love with me, and we are getting very, very close.

But I'm not jealous of her having had NSA sex with other guys while we were dating. I'll not ask her to give up her friends, whether sex with them is involved or not.

We'll probably end up getting a couple's profile on AdultFriendFinder. And go to swinger's clubs as well.

Are you the monogamous type? Would you be jealous if someone you loved had sex with someone else, knowing that the sex was just for fun, with no strings attached? Would you find it even more exciting to make love to your significant other, after you've each made it with another couple?

What kind of boundaries do you set for yourself, and your significant other? Do you feel it is even within your rights to impose boundaries on someone else, or is that simply a requirement for you to be comfortable in a relationship?

sexyariesgirl 59F

5/18/2006 4:30 pm

There was a time when I would have answered NO WAY to the question of seeing others while in a relationship. However, my Sweet Baby and I have both continued seeing others during our relationship. As you described with your lady though, lately we seem to be much more content with just the two of us. I've recently turned down several dates with men I really like simply because I prefer being only with him these days. We also have a couples profile here, but haven't been as interested in that lately either. Neither of us has set boundaries for the other, but the monogamy seems, as you said, to be a natural progression for us.

Power To FOK

qship52 replies on 5/19/2006 7:38 pm:
Sounds familiar!

rm_wetfingeraz 55F
3012 posts
5/18/2006 4:54 pm

I'm really not comfortable with multiple sex partners from a health safety point of view. You have no idea who is lying to whom, no matter how health they may look and claim that they are.

qship52 replies on 5/19/2006 7:44 pm:
True, there is risk involved.

However, I trust my partner implicitly. One reason I decided to be monogamous was to eliminate risk of STD's on my part.

If we get into the lifestyle/couples/swap scene, safe sex is a must.

GoddessOfTheDawn 106F
11240 posts
5/21/2006 6:39 am

congratz for the both of ya'z

qship52 replies on 5/21/2006 6:15 pm:

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