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NO STRINGS
 
I have been a member of this site for going on two years now, and never had a desire to write a blog, but now I find myself brave enough to post one in regards to a specific topic.

My topic is in the area of the 'No Strings" venue that I run into when checking out a majority of profiles on this site. (males, of course)!!

Now, I want to make something very clear from the start, and that is that I am NOT one of those "clingy" type female's, not at all! I don't cling to guys, trust you me! AND, I have NO interest in being in a committed relationship right now in my life!

I'm just into meeting like minded males who want a casual companion-friend in their life to enjoy attending events, hot sultry and erotic sex, sharing awesome laughs, along with doing other fun things that life has to offer! But, again, I'm not looking to get hitched or committed!!

Now, I know this is suppose to be a AdultFriendFinder site. I am very clear on all that this entails. The advertisements to attract females to this site are the same as males, but it seems that as different species we don't share the same meaning in the translation of what that entails.

Most females know this is an Adult site, so there is the presence of sexual paraphernalia, which is widely understood in becoming a member to this site. There is also the added understanding by females of being able to freely express our desires, wants and needs, without having to be judged. But make NO mistake, we are still female at heart and still have the same values as those women who have not discovered the site, or chose not be become a member. To us, that's where the saying "friends with benefits" fit in into our lifestyles.

My impression of the male version of understanding this site's main venue is that of horny women who want 24hr non-stop sex with "NO Strings" period! That is the extent to which the expression "friends with benefits" goes for them. But, if that be the case, where do you fit the friends in the title in?

It seems to me that the "No Strings" theme, or the "I'm not trying to change my life" statement that these guys clearly express in their profiles only includes "friends who are willing to offer the benefits of sexual encounters!!"

Then maybe its just me. Maybe the saying of "women are from Venus and men are from Mars," has caught up with me in my maturity.

I get the strong impression that most of these type guys want a woman that will agree to meet with them on occasion, have sex and then both walk away until the next time. This is not just with single men, but the married men ALL say the same as well.

Now, don't get me wrong, I'm not saying that there aren't those type of women on this site willing to accept this from a guy, because I am sure there are, but the majority of them seem to be married, or in a couple already whose looking for that type of connection, NOT most single females!

It is amazing to me to find guys like that who have such low opinions of women! I mean they want a female in their bed, but they don't want to deal with her personality outside of the bed! My impression is that they don't want the personality, just the body, in which case you would really be looking for a non-responsive lay, because women are all personality when getting a good lay. If that be the case, why not go for a <b>prostit</b>ute, then you'd get what you want. I am of the opinion that no self-respecting female would let you put wear and tear on her body with these sexual encounters like that and NOT want to at least be casual friends.....friends in the since of getting to know one another. I mean, no one is asking for marriage, at least not me...NO WAY! I have not met a guy yet, that has made me want to reconsider and remarry!!

For the married guys, especially those who say they are not looking to change their life; in other words, I'm not trying to leave my wife!!
My impression in that regard is, if you can't be honest with your wife, whom you chose to make your companion for life, the same one you're not trying to leave, "but you want something more in a sexual capacity", what would I think I have coming being YOUR fuck buddy?

Not to mention the fact that you won't be able to be available EVERY TIME I get horny and want to put out my fire with some good luvn'! I would have to wait until you were able to be available, you know, work around YOUR schedule! All of this you want from a female, AND you want "NO STRINGS"!!

I mean forget about the fact that females are more in tuned with their emotions then males. Don't you think we deserve to be catered to if you're going to go outside of your committed-for-life relationship and ask us to open our Pandora box? Even though you've got another women in your life whom you give everything to, including FRIENDSHIP!! But you want us to JUST experience the sexual encounter with you, forget about trying to develop a friendship with us!

Single guys that want "No Strings", I'm sure you feel that you are in a better position to ask for such a thing, but even that is ludicrous! Why would a female want to just become YOUR fuck buddy, unless she's already in a relationship (married) or in a couple that's looking for that sort of thing! Is that ALL you've got to bring to the table, in your request for a fuck buddy-- that you're single??? Yes, supposedly we both are to enjoy the sexual encounter, but realistically think about this. How do we know you're as good as you say you are? You offer us the opportunity to meet and then see if we're impressed enough to want to do you??1

Women need more than foreplay to make them heat up. Do you never think about the fact that you'll have to stimulate a female's mind before asking her to spread her legs? For any female with values, that will take some conversation to find out if you can first fuck our minds, because if you can, that's a sure sign that you'll know what to do when the time comes to get it on! Out of all the other guys on the earth, WHO are willing to stimulate a female's mind and then her body, what do you think you're offering, something better?

When reading further into a profile like this, I am even more encouraged to feel as though, if I were to have a friendship with this person, I'd have to be able to take a romp in the hey with no emotional attachment whatsoever, that might possibly be good or bad, and then just walk away until the next time, if there is a next time!

After reading these type profiles, I'm left with the thought of wear and tear on the body, with NO compensation whatsoever! No lasting casual friendship, nothing! No wanting to get to know you as a person, or you getting to know them. Just sex, nothing more. Where in there is it suppose to be an enjoyable experience for a single female? I am of the opinion that sex is 75% physical and 25% mental when it comes to attraction.

I just don't see how the "No Strings" request could possibly do anything for my libido, and I'd be willing to bet that the majority of women on this site feel the same!

I and females like myself would want a gentleman, who would want to be a friend as well as a lover! Have you not heard of being lovers to someone, as opposed to being a fuck buddy? Maybe you need to learn how to be friends with a female that way you wouldn't view her as just an easy lay.
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Posted:Feb 12, 2006 5:39 pm
Last Updated:Apr 2, 2006 12:22 pm
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I'm not fully understanding this part of the blogging process so if I'm writing something that is not at all supposed to be here then forgive me in advance. In the mean time, read my blog!
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