Up a tree  

puntachueca 106M
2534 posts
8/7/2006 4:33 pm

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Up a tree

There was a game I played as a kid to try and get attention I called "Up a Tree".

I'd run off and hide and hope that my parents would miss me and try and find me.

Either I was so good at hiding, or my parents didn't give a rats' ass if I was missing, I'd end up sitting in a tree until late at night, and then slink home.

Kind of finally occurred to me that at key times when you expect someone to save you, they're not there.

I see a lot of people playing "Up the Tree"....setting themselves up to need to be rescued just to test whether daddy or mommy or spouse is going to be there for them.

I don't know how many times I rescued my ex out of the metaphorical trees she'd climb into...blaming me and the tree for her getting herself where she was.

Then I ran across a picture her parents had taken of her when she was five captioned "In High Dudgeon"....

Have you ever played "Up the Tree" or had this game played on you?

PrincessKarma 44F
6188 posts
8/7/2006 5:07 pm

Not up a tree, up Shit Creek sans paddle. Not an enjoyable experience...

The Big Bang was the mother of all orgasms.PrincessKarma

PrincessKarma 44F
6188 posts
8/7/2006 5:08 pm

Damn, I hate when it gets away and I've forgotten to specify... It wasn't a game, I was in real trouble and the man I thought would be my life partner left me high and dry.

The Big Bang was the mother of all orgasms.PrincessKarma

puntachueca replies on 8/7/2006 7:29 pm:
That goes back to the key issue of trust...if you can't trust your life partner...who can you trust?

rm_PurryKitty2 49M/51F
9753 posts
8/7/2006 5:31 pm

I used to hide in the corn!

Purry {=}


puntachueca replies on 8/7/2006 7:30 pm:
I tried it a cotton field. Got lost. Never have liked cotton that much.

demonicsexkitten 42F
10688 posts
8/7/2006 5:40 pm

Hmmm... not that i can think of. I did once plan to run away from home. But that was me trying to save myself and go stay with my mom forever. I never did though... I was too scared my wicked-evil witch of a step-mom would catch me sneaking my suitcase out my basement window, so never took that step. Luckily, within a month or so after planning it all out... she finally won in court and got me.

Now?? Honestly, I love the thought of somebody to lean on. And appreciate the few friends that allow me to be weak on occassion. But I would never intentionally put myself "up a tree" or any more serious danger with the expectation or even hope of somebody else getting me out of it. My mess: my problem. Help is appreciated, but never expected. And often not even wanted (it's a bit embarressing).

puntachueca replies on 8/7/2006 7:31 pm:
Good place to be. Healthy.
Not fun living with chicken little. Never know when it is real.

amoldenough 71F
16436 posts
8/7/2006 5:41 pm

I don't think I ever played this game. I think I tried to stay out of the way and not get attention, because sometimes it was negative attention. My family is from Germany, so my parents were pretty strict. There wasn't a lot we could get away with. I don't think I've done it as an adult; at least not subconsciously. I think my son has done this to us for a long time, only he would do negative things in order to get attention, and of course, negative actions bring on more negative actions from the parents.

"Don't cry because it's over; smile because it happened."

puntachueca replies on 8/7/2006 7:32 pm:
I can relate. The only way I got attention was to piss off my parents. We were mutally happy when I moved out at 18.

catkit13 67F

8/7/2006 9:05 pm

it's called "controlling" and "manipulation" and too many people try it in order to get their own way. in some ways, it's the flip-side of codependency, i think
either way, it's not healthy and sometimes, we're just too close to see it for what it really is
gotta let it go

puntachueca replies on 8/8/2006 4:22 am:
Absolutely right. Gotta let it go. Hard to deal with someone that flips into a 5 year old mentality.

BaronessK 53F

8/8/2006 12:04 am

Not done that myself, as I consider 'games' of any sort {mental, etcetera} too ridiculous {etcetera} to spend part of my precious time on this planet messing with. I had a few try to play this type thing to me...the main one...I divorced him, cut all ties {except fact I may see, but never talk, to him when I am around the kids at same time he is}. I want to know where I stand with someone and I expect them to know where I stand {and am quite blunt in being so}.

Not a case of fuck em if they can't take a joke...more like fuck em if they play {games} too much.

puntachueca replies on 8/8/2006 4:23 am:
I basically hate games.

lissi888888 53F
1401 posts
8/8/2006 8:02 pm

When I was a young girl I did play "up a tree". They (the parents) didn't notice the few times I did it LOL. Figured it just wasn't worth it LOL.

puntachueca replies on 8/9/2006 4:33 am:
That's called growing up. Most of us do this (thank God).

sexyariesgirl 58F

8/9/2006 1:12 am

My former friend the drama queen played this game with me over and over...till I finally walked away.

Power To FOK

puntachueca replies on 8/9/2006 4:34 am:
I think that's all we can do. It is hard sometimes.

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