Living in the same house with your significant other sucks.  

puntachueca 106M
2534 posts
7/7/2006 12:21 am

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Living in the same house with your significant other sucks.

Having been married and having lived single, I'm at a turning point in my life.

Regardless of a relationship, I really don't actually want to live in the same house as another person. No room mates. No live-in relationship.

The first and most obvious reason is I ended up homeless twice in breakup situations and I'm never going there again. I own my own house and it is MINE!!!!! No one is going to get half interest in this one.

I know there's a lot of practical economic reasons to share a residence. I don't really give a rat's ass about that.

I also like having lots of space, the ability to live my way without constant expectations of liiving someone else's way, and being able to find stuff when I need it.

I can cook and clean and do laundry as well as anyone. If I want help with that stuff, I'll hire a maid whose language I do not speak.

I really believe living together, especially when the kids are grownup and gone, is highly overrated. Why is it if you have a one-on-one relationship you have to live under the same roof? I know a lot of people whose relationship would be vastly improved if they didn't live in the same house.

I really believe eveyone needs some "self time".

What do you think?

rm_FreeLove999 47F
16127 posts
7/7/2006 1:15 am

i have lived with my husband for nearly 11 years and wouldn't have it any other way. we are comfortable around each other and the chores are shared (he does his without needing to be reminded or asked). our daughter definitely likes having us both there ... and yeah, i guess it is cheaper, but that's never been a reason for making that decision.

[blog freelove999]

puntachueca replies on 7/7/2006 2:21 am:
I guess I'm reacting to the last lady I lived with. I always felt like some kind of bug in her house. I made the mistake of selling my place and moved in with her. I never really felt comfortable (or safe) under the same roof because she'd go off in these towering rages and throw shit around.I have a Kachina (Hopi Indian carvings) collection, and one night she systematically threw every one of them against a wall and broke them.

catkit13 67F

7/7/2006 7:03 am

AMEN, mi amigo! there's lots to be said for my own space, and i wouldn't give it up - EVER!!!

puntachueca replies on 7/7/2006 6:06 pm:

runzwithknives 61F

7/7/2006 5:33 pm

Well, I've lived in my house alone for 8 months. I do miss sleeping with a man most of the time. But I need my alone time too. Hugs.

puntachueca replies on 7/7/2006 6:07 pm:
My ideal is living next door. Can sleep together in either house whenever...but always have private space and time, too.

Last night would not have been a good time to try and sleep together with anyone...I was up and down all night worked up over a meeting with my boss this morning...

PrincessKarma 45F
6188 posts
7/7/2006 9:42 pm

Wanna join my hippie commune? I'm thinking of several small cabins on a few acres, everyone has private space while sharing the larger issues...

The Big Bang was the mother of all orgasms.PrincessKarma

puntachueca replies on 7/8/2006 1:10 am:
They have a new name for this around here "co housing". Several such projects around Tucson. Great idea...a sense of community and sharing with some privacy as well. Been thinking along the same lines....

SensuousWoman3 56F
3106 posts
7/8/2006 7:22 pm

I like my alone time. That is how I became such a night owl---growing up in a household of eight, the only "alone time" I could find was after everyone else had gone to bed.

Even today when a big group of gals goes on a vacation or meet up at friends' lake house, I will sneak off in the afternoon for some alone time---walk or read or nap or something. I am outgoing as hell, but I still crave alone time.

puntachueca replies on 7/9/2006 5:51 am:
I think a lot of people underestimate their need for self time. Good for you!!!!

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