Father's Day  

puntachueca 107M
2534 posts
6/15/2006 6:56 pm

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6/16/2006 2:37 pm

Father's Day

(Warning...this is serious stuff)
My father passed 18 years ago. His last words to his doctor was "you’re not getting another penny out of me." He died as he had lived. Stubborn. Mean. Cheap. In control. Always in control.

Jump forward. I have two wonderful adult daughters. I tried to be the father to them I never had. Supportive. Nurturing. Loving. Encouraging them to be whoever they were and do what their hearts called them to do. The most severe punishment was "time outs". My younger kid is extraordinarily lucky, so by the time they were teens, they had rooms filled with computers, televisions, stereos, so sending them to their rooms wasn’t hardship. It was actually hard to get them to come out. I felt like my mission was to raise two Goddesses. They are.

This Father’s Day, I’ll check by the cemetery to make sure my father is still dead.

And the only thing I want from my daughters is a thank you.

catkit13 67F

6/15/2006 8:07 pm

check on my mom while you're at it, ok? sometimes i swear she's sitting on my shoulder, judging me - again!

puntachueca replies on 6/16/2006 1:29 am:

demonicsexkitten 42F
10689 posts
6/15/2006 10:07 pm

wish my dad was as wonderful as you were to your kids i honestly say my dad was a terrible dad when i was growing up. We actually still have to have a "talk"... he asked me a couple yrs ago why i never hung out with the family, and stayed in the basement all the time. The question shocked me so much... I could only stare in disbelief. How could he have NOT known my step mom made me eat downstairs? Though it might explain why some days she set the food at the top stair and called me, and others brought it down to me. The one time my step mom hurt me when he was home... she called me a liar, and he took her side. I was 6 or 7.

That being said... now that I'm grown up, he is a good friend. Wasn't until I graduated HS, became an "adult", attending colleges and learning computer stuff till we could become friends. And now I lean on him a bit as a dad too.

puntachueca replies on 6/16/2006 1:31 am:
Remember Mommy Dearest...my Mom made her seem like a Sanit.

shylena256 43F
1967 posts
6/16/2006 12:50 am

Check that he's still dead... I had to giggle. Is that the inherited mean streak speaking?

puntachueca replies on 6/16/2006 1:32 am:
Probably. I buried him next to my Mom--they fought all their lives, so why not forever. Have to constantly work on finding the high road.

rm_FreeLove999 48F
16127 posts
6/16/2006 7:22 am

i think my husband and i are both committed to raising our children in a different way to the way we were raised. i am glad to hear that it can work out. the worst thing we do to my daughter is time out in her bedroom too ... i would love to feel succesful in raising two reasonably well balanced and emotionally sussed young women one day ... i hope i manage it!

[blog freelove999]

puntachueca replies on 6/16/2006 12:51 pm:
Given where you're all coming from, I'd bet you will be successful.

Udo24fun 106M/107F

6/16/2006 1:32 pm

Have a Happy Fathers Day
Glad your Daddys Dead.
In the ground you put him
and then you sang a hymm.

Goodbye daddy, we-re glad to see youre gone .....
(switching too) ~^~
Dont ya come back no more, no more
dont ya come back no more.

Some people make the world a
better place by leaving it.

puntachueca replies on 6/16/2006 2:40 pm:
Yep. And some people you gotta bury face down otherwise they'll dig themselves out and create more grief.

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