a note to the married men that contact me in spite of my profile  

prettysmart1964 53F
85 posts
6/14/2006 4:51 pm

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6/23/2006 1:33 am

a note to the married men that contact me in spite of my profile


one of the reasons my profile is so clear on how i feel about married men is that i don't want to get caught up in the drama of a cheater. while i know that not everyone feels the same way i do, i have a right to have my preferences and beliefs without feeling guilty about them.

i don't sit in judgement of anyone, but for me cheating is wrong and i don't want any part of it. i would hate to be the wife of a cheater and being the mistress of one is even worse. i can't count the number of times i have been told that my marriage is great but she doesn't want to have sex anymore or i am only staying with her for the kids. wtf? maybe if you spent the time you spend trying to step out on her paying attention to her, she might want to fuck you more. maybe if you were interested in why she stopped and if you were willing to work on it, it might get good again. and trust me staying for the kids isn't doing anyone any favors. if your marriage sucks that bad, leave it.

i just don't understand the whole exit strategy thing. find a replacement before you leave? are you afraid to be on your own? and why would your new one have any expectation that you wouldn't do the same damn thing to her? i can tell you that if you contact me despite the fact i have asked you not to, or you lie and say you are single and i find out you aren't, when your wife contacts me, i will not lie for you...

i guess i am sitting in judgement, but what i do know is that i want no part of skirting around behind someone's back.

rm_NAVYGAL07 48F
19 posts
6/15/2006 12:04 am

Good evening everyone in CC. Pretty is referring to my husband whom seems to think we have an open marriage while he is on deployment to Corpus. I live in San Antonio, with our kids !

I have been following his and your blogs for some time now. I need to know who all has slept with my husband (of course you may NOT had known he was married, therefore, I will NOT fault you. I will of course blame him.).

Cheating on a spouse is WRONG. Out and out wrong. Ok, now the person I am referring to is BigMan4FineWoman. His real name is Robert / Rob. He works at the NACC. He also has a Harley Davidson Motorcycle (Dana Lowrider - I own part it as well). Drives a green 04' Chevy 1500 extended cab truck, which I originally bought. He is 5'11, brown hair, hazel/brownish eyes. Career Paramedic but teaches in the Education & Training Dept at the Hospital. He loves to play pool, darts and loves to sing. I guess that is why he goes to Paradise on Tuesday nights. Though he tells me, he falls asleep and FORGOT to call. Now he also states that he attends his lodge, 3x a week, a usaual norm. but of course, each week could be different. Needless to state, he is horrible on contacting his wife, therefore, I get up set. Wouldn't you ? He states, that is controlling or running his life. Excuse me MR.... your married and only 2-3 hours away, no reason why you can not contact your wife and family. Now, due to the lack of calling on his part, will bring arguments set off by me. I am not an angel or inocent in this matter but he takes it to the extreme to NOT come home on weekends. Then to find out he has been on here for over a year.... looking for SEX. OMG.....
We just celebrated our 2nd Anniv... on May 7th. He made a post early that week to try and get some with someone... whom I will leave out of this.

Needless to state, ........... if anyone has had email contact, instant messaging contact or phone contact with him.... please email me on this web site. Secondly... if anyone HAS SLEPT with him.... sex or oral sex.... please contact me immediately for important health information you will need to know. VERY IMPORTANT.

I can NO LONGER stand by and let him dishonor our marriage, which he has been doing from the beginning. Guess getting laid in Corpus was more important then being FAITHFUL to his wife. Guess he thought, what she does not know, will NOT hurt her.

Please contact me... if you have had communication, sex or oral sex with my husband... please contact me ASAP. Thank you for your time on reading this message.

Cyndi Browningnavywife2004


rm_NAVYGAL07 48F
19 posts
6/15/2006 12:08 am

once again, his screen name is

BIGMAN 4 FINE WOMAN[/SIZE]

Please contact me. Thank you.


prettysmart1964 53F

6/15/2006 8:34 am

bigman or lightning622003 or whoever you are calling yourself this week, i don't want any part of your drama. do not contact me using any name. i know you are reading this and i expect you to respect my request.


rm_NAVYGAL07 48F
19 posts
6/17/2006 10:02 pm

Sexman, Yes, I have an AdultFriendFinder account as well. I never hid the "Marrital" status unlike my husband has done, proclaiming to be from Arizona and SINGLE.

No, not mental or nutts or anything like that but how would you like to find out that your your spouse is cheating or soliciting to cheat behind your back? Wouldnt you want to find out?... of course you would. And you would do so at any lengths. I am no way being a hypocrite to this site. For I am NOT meeting up with anyone to have sex or to even MEET.

I had everything I wanted in a man and in life. Until I found out this. Still does not change the fact that he and I are still married... but this I am not one to give into temptations or give out my phone number or to meet or hell to send nude photos'. Game or not......... this was uncalled for. Especially when he states, I love you, I miss you. I want our family....etc... this is not normal behavior to do.

So please, enough with the cracks on this or that. Emails to me and probably to my husband as well. We do have enough drama in our life, do not need others to add to it.


rm_lwhiowa 73M
260 posts
6/18/2006 9:20 am

I agree with everything you said about cheating. Also to jump into another relationship as soon as one ends is a bad idea. Wether you are the dumper or the dumpee we all need time to put the old relationship to rest before we can really enjoy a new relationship or it will end in failure and frustration also.


prettysmart1964 53F

6/21/2006 12:12 pm

i agree lwhiowa.


FriendlyTickler 46M

6/21/2006 2:07 pm

Wow, what an unfortunate situation. But seriously Cyndi, you know what he's about now so I why not move on? You're an attractive woman, I'm sure that you don't need him to get on with your life. From the sound of it, he may have done you a favor. It's better to know now instead of later if you ask me. As for Prettysmart, it sucks that you got dragged into this. You have always come across as being straight up. Even though I'm on and off this thing there are a couple of people that I follow for reading pleasure, you being one of them. From what I've read, I would tend to think that you deserve better then this. Anyways, I hope things get better for you both.


prettysmart1964 53F

6/23/2006 1:33 am

thank you tickler...so are you single? lol looks like you sure have a lot to offer a gal.


FriendlyTickler 46M

6/27/2006 6:06 pm

Sorry...I'm married. Just thought you deserved better! At least honesty up front.


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