Same ol' same ol'....  

pretty_blue_eyes 39F
3045 posts
6/24/2006 1:03 am

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6/27/2006 8:54 pm

Same ol' same ol'....

Geez, barely home from vacation one day and the fighting already starts. Then he gets pissed at me b/c I tell him I dont' want to fight and just not say a word to him. Yet he expects me to jump into bed with him and have sex?????? Grrrrrrrr......

Is this truly how marriage is supposed to be? I wish someone had some valuable information on this subject. I really don't think its supposed to be like this.

rm_Zawiman 48M
1 post
6/24/2006 2:08 am

Have the same problem with my partner, i come home tired from work and i expect to find the house clean and my food is ready but i find everything is the same and no food, she is a watching silly program on TV, so i go to my computer then she come and say you don't spend time with me!. and we fight about it after that she still think i will come and enjoy joining her in bed. You just gave me a nightmare and even i forgive you but i can't just jump in bed with you straight. I need to be happy in my mind about you before i can sleep with you. It's not only sex that matters but how i feel about you.
I totally lose my desire for bed with her when i see something i don't like. I hate it when that happens because it's not my fault and many times i stop and say what i have done with my life.

loadeddice05 45M

6/24/2006 6:06 am

Oh! The joys of marriage!!! Fighting and more fighting!!! I was with my X for almost six years and married for six months!! Now I am with a woman who I can not stand most of the time. Opposites attract> But cannot coexist!!! LOL!! Sorry about your vacation turning into a slug fest?? LOL! That sux!!!!!

LustyTaurus 49M
21253 posts
6/25/2006 12:02 am

Well, I deal with the same sort of thing too...I think what's behind it all is ego and unrealistic expectations...sometimes we just need to chill and remember who we are talking too...the person we fell in love with.

pretty_blue_eyes 39F
2091 posts
6/25/2006 8:13 am

Loaded...I'm surely doubtful if this works out one way or another if I'd be interested in coexisting with someone I can not get along with. I'm tired of all the fighting. Yet, I wouldn't want a "weak" partner that just gave into me. I view myself as a strong person, yet when something happens and I should need someone, I would like for my partner to be strong for me as well.

Taurus...perhaps you are right. However, how did we reach these unrealistic expectations? What if the person we are married to is no longer the one we fell in love with?

Spunky...and you know this how?????

squezemetight 35M
103 posts
6/27/2006 2:28 pm

marriage is not supposed to be fighting and fucking with more fighting. my parents have been married 25 years.from what i've seen, they fight just to have an excuse for make up sex. but they've had to work at their marriage to make it a strong one. it takes both partners to be 100% involved in order for it to work. my longest relationship lasted 1 day shy of 3 1/2 years. we both made mistakes but we tried to work things out. in the end, we both weren't the same people we were in the beginning. its part of change. either change together with each other, or grow apart.

pretty_blue_eyes 39F
2091 posts
6/27/2006 8:54 pm

So true! My parents were married for 26 yrs before they divorced.

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