Watching My Wife Have Sex With Others  

pragmaticCTcpl 62M/51F
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2/26/2006 12:49 pm

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Watching My Wife Have Sex With Others

Watching My Wife Have Sex With Others

Several times now, the topic/question of “how do you feel watching your wife having sex with someone else,” has come up.

Like everyone else, and everything else, there is a first time for this.

My wife and I have both been married to other people...have had other partners, sexually. Whether they were just like ships-passing-in-the-night or over the course of a relationship, we both have had those experiences.

We’ve also had some experiences, swinging with others, together, since we’ve been married, and my wife had a few prior to our being together. Like all experiences in life, some were good, some were bad, and some never got to be experienced at all.

We are still learning as we go along, and we use those lesson’s learned from every new contact, email, and get together, as well as what we’ve learned living our lives, to keep our eyes and mind’s open. We’re certainly not in the “lifestyle.” We don’t make this a priority in our lives. We have, and will, get together with others, occasionally, to augment our sexual lives together.

The first time my wife and I got together with another guy, I was very nervous before things got going. You’d never know it to look at me, but my wife and I talked about it before and after the fact, and I admitted I was.

My nervousness was based on my having never done anything like it before. It was probably the same type of nervousness as I had experienced the first time I rode a bicycle without training wheels, without my Dad holding me up...or my first roller coaster ride...or my first ride in an airplane. Certainly, it was the same as the first time my wife and I were sexually intimate with each other.

We had discussed it countless numbers of times before it happened. It was even an occasional part of our lovemaking...talking “fantasies” while we made love, getting both of us very hot and excited.

Still, I didn’t really know how I would feel until I actually saw my wife having sex with another person.

I know how much my wife loves me...and she knows how much I love her. I knew that she wasn’t about to leave me to run off with someone else if he was a better physical lover than I am, or want to have his babies if he was more handsome or younger than me. I was confident that watching my wife be sexually involved with someone else wouldn’t bring out any jealousies, insecurities, or make me start acting weird. My nervousness was simply based on never having watched that before.

Every time we would start moving forward with someone, to get together for swinging, the anticipation and excitement would grow, along with that nervous feeling. Then, if plans were cancelled at the last moment, once we had made them, or we were “blown-off,” the nervousness would fade.

Once it happened, my nervousness was gone. It actually brought us even closer together as a couple.

I guess you could say that I’m giving the other person a “gift.” That gift being the other person having sex with the woman I consider to be not only the best sex I’ve ever had in my life, but the love of my wife, my lover, my best friend.

Does it take away anything from the relationship that my wife and I have? Absolutely not..! In fact, when it did happen for the first time, the other person, after having sex with my wife for at least an different positions, and, after having an orgasm...said to me, “You are a very lucky man.”

Aside from his comment, which I took to mean that I was her husband...and I get to have sex with her all of the time, and I have her love, as well...I AM a very lucky man.

I have a loving woman, who loves sex as much as I do, and not only are we both comfortable with watching each other having sex with someone else, but it’s a tremendous turn-on to BOTH of us.

NSAAddict 43F

2/27/2006 8:37 pm

Great post Pragmatic! I think it's such a beautiful thing that you and your wife share.. complete trust in yourselves and your love for each other... you are both very lucky to have found that! Congrats

pragmaticCTcpl 62M/51F

2/28/2006 9:06 am

NSAAddict - Thanks..!!

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