pragmaticCTcpl 62M/51F
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3/11/2006 10:14 am

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3/13/2006 1:59 pm



I’m starting a new job on Monday.

The opportunities and growth potential of this position prompted me to decide to take it...even though the money aspect of it is less than I had been making.

With the decrease in the money, my wife’s reaction to my decision to take it was almost as enthusiastic as mine...with one reservation.

“We won’t be able to afford as much stuff..!”

She went on to say that she was happy for me...was happy that I’m excited about the prestige of the position and that it’s something that I want, but also added, “With the decrease in salary, it’s not like we’re going to be living in poverty...and it’s not that I really need the “stuff"...but I really like having the stuff..!”

Seems to me that EVERY woman wants…STUFF..!

The scene from the movie, “The Jerk,” where Steve Martin’s character Nathan, has just finished writing millions of checks to class-action litigants for his causing them to be cross-eyed, using his “Opti-grab” glasses...and Bernadette Peters whining about things being carried out of the house to be sold at auction, comes to mind.....

“I don’t care about the money...I’m gonna miss the STUFF..!”

In defense of my wife’s deepest emotions...she did say to me, “Honey, now at least you know that I love you for you. I’m certainly not with you for the stuff.”

My ex-wife sure was.

Even when it was clear that our marriage was over, and we sat talking one evening, her words betrayed her priorities.

“I’m going to miss all the things we had...all the places we’ve gone together...all the STUFF.....”

The best way to understand about to read the the master...George Carlin.....


Actually this is just a place for my stuff, ya know? That's all, a little place for my stuff. That's all I want, that's all you need in life, is a little place for your stuff, ya know? I can see it on your table, everybody's got a little place for their stuff. This is my stuff, that's your stuff, that'll be his stuff over there. That's all you need in life, a little place for your stuff. That's all your house is: a place to keep your stuff. If you didn't have so much stuff, you wouldn't need a house. You could just walk around all the time.

A house is just a pile of stuff with a cover on it. You can see that when you're taking off in an airplane. You look down, you see everybody's got a little pile of stuff. All the little piles of stuff. And when you leave your house, you gotta lock it up. Wouldn't want somebody to come by and take some of your stuff. They always take the good stuff. They never bother with that crap you're saving. All they want is the shiny stuff. That's what your house is, a place to keep your stuff while you go out and get...more stuff!

Sometimes you gotta move, gotta get a bigger house. Why? No room for your stuff anymore. Did you ever notice when you go to somebody else's house, you never quite feel a hundred percent at home? You know why? No room for your stuff. Somebody else's stuff is all over the goddamn place! And if you stay overnight, unexpectedly, they give you a little bedroom to sleep in. Bedroom they haven't used in about eleven years. Someone died in it, eleven years ago. And they haven't moved any of his stuff! Right next to the bed there's usually a dresser or a bureau of some kind, and there's NO ROOM for your stuff on it. Somebody else's shit is on the dresser.

Have you noticed that their stuff is shit and your shit is stuff? God! And you say, "Get that shit offa there and let me put my stuff down!"

Sometimes you leave your house to go on vacation. And you gotta take some of your stuff with you. Gotta take about two big suitcases full of stuff, when you go on vacation. You gotta take a smaller version of your house. It's the second version of your stuff. And you're gonna fly all the way to Honolulu. Gonna go across the continent, across half an ocean to Honolulu. You get down to the hotel room in Honolulu and you open up your suitcase and you put away all your stuff. "Here's a place here, put a little bit of stuff there, put some stuff here, put some stuff--you put your stuff there, I'll put some stuff--here's another place for stuff, look at this, I'll put some stuff here..." And even though you're far away from home, you start to get used to it, you start to feel okay, because after all, you do have some of your stuff with you. That's when your friend calls up from Maui, and says, "Hey, why don'tchya come over to Maui for the weekend and spend a couple of nights over here."

Oh, no! Now what do I pack? Right, you've gotta pack an even SMALLER version of your stuff. The third version of your house. Just enough stuff to take to Maui for a coupla days. You get over to Maui--I mean you're really getting extended now, when you think about it. You got stuff ALL the way back on the mainland, you got stuff on another island, you got stuff on this island. I mean, supply lines are getting longer and harder to maintain. You get over to your friend's house on Maui and he gives you a little place to sleep, a little bed right next to his windowsill or something. You put some of your stuff up there. You put your stuff up there. You got your Visine, you got your nail clippers, and you put everything up. It takes about an hour and a half, but after a while you finally feel okay, say, "All right, I got my nail clippers, I must be okay." That's when your friend says, "Aaaaay, I think tonight we'll go over the other side of the island, visit a pal of mine and maybe stay over."

Aww, no. NOW what do you pack? Right--you gotta pack an even SMALLER version of your stuff. The fourth version of your house. Only the stuff you know you're gonna need. money, keys, comb, wallet, lighter, hanky, pen, smokes, rubber and change. Well, only the stuff you HOPE you're gonna need.

All material written and owned by George Carlin.

rm_Ellenback 59F
966 posts
3/11/2006 12:06 pm

Great! Love Carlin, can feel your confusion and frustration over all our goddanggggg stuff, the need to get more, toss out the old and buy anew.
Wait, I tossed the EX...does that count?

Have to admit, I have less 'stuff' but I'm getting 'stuffed' more, now...

Good luck in your new job, I hope if you truly love it, the $ won't matter, it's all about the passion, fire, spirit...the $ is just another form of reward and not wholly necessary for more than survival. One of the offshoots of changing one thing in your life is that 'domino' effect (hopefully not a snowball rolling down the hill building in size!) and the repercussions will be hopefully all positive.



docdirk 49M

3/11/2006 11:15 pm

Carlin rules!!!

But, I couldn't help thinking of a line by Steven Wright: "You can't have everything... where would you put it?"

Happiness and/or contentness is most important. The rest will fall in line later. You may not recognize it, but it will "feel" right.

Ah, Its you again, Your Angel Feathers and your Blood Stains...

pragmaticCTcpl 62M/51F

3/12/2006 9:54 am

Ellenback - Thanks for the positive words about my career decision.

I am hopeful...that this will turn out to be what I perceive it to be...the "right" decision.

And yes...tossing outthe "ex" DOES count..!

pragmaticCTcpl 62M/51F

3/12/2006 10:06 am

docdirk - Thanks for the affirmation of my thoughts, regarding my job change. I often tell my wife that money, career, kids, and every other aspect of daily life isn't the focus of our life...our happiness together is. Of course, it helps to have the financial security to enable the "comfort levels" that have been attained, but beyond the materialistic "stuff,"...what really is the focus of true happiness? For me, it's the inner peace and happiness of being with the one person in my life that truly makes me happy...each and every day...just by us being together.

Hopefully...the feeling of "right," that I'm feeling now...will someday enable us to get back to that level of comfort...and STUFF..!

NSAAddict 43F

3/12/2006 5:38 pm

Congrats on the new job!! If you love what you do then money doesn't matter at all. As for the stuff... who needs stuff when you have love? Unless of course it's computer stuff, then fuck love and give me my new laptop!!

Love Carlin!! Is it wrong that when I was 16 I thought he'd be a great lay? No one does dirty like George

pragmaticCTcpl 62M/51F

3/13/2006 9:07 am

NSAAddict - Thanks !! We love Carlin too.

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