Missing In Action  

pragmaticCTcpl 63M/51F
3614 posts
4/15/2006 8:31 am

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Missing In Action


<-- If you've seen this person...dial 1-800-GOT-MILK..!

Somewhere, out there, amidst the blogs, emails, and IM's of our electronic world, is someone who has literally disappeared from sight.

This happens...at least it's happened to us, countless times...but it still makes us wonder............why?

Here's the scenario.....

We started talking to them online a few months ago...we found that we had a lot in common...there was mutual interest and lust, mingled with an easy feeling "comfort zone"...the "chemistry" was definitely there...we tried to coordinate our schedules for a fun-filled sexual get together...time and time again...but each time one of us would pencil-in a date, something would come up for one or the other to postpone things.

The last time we talked (on an IM), was a long time ago. Since then...nothing.

Today, was a "penciled-in" date to get together.

As it turns out, we wouldn't have been able to keep this date, due to some family commitments...but then again, we haven't heard from them in almost three weeks........why?

Yes, we have all had blow-offs, no-show's, and those that appeared to be all hot-and-heavy, ready to go, and then...for some unexplained, un-communicated reason...figuratively fell off the face of the Earth..!



libgemOH 57M/53F

4/15/2006 10:50 am

I think in a lot of cases, it's a case of nerves!! For some reason, something or other just sends bad vibes. As you are aware, I have been the target of this as well as have done the blowing off myself. I also agree with JB that the anonymity of the internet has a lot to do with it. When taking a fantasy and making it real, it can get just a little "too real" for some people. -B

pragmaticCTcpl replies on 4/16/2006 7:08 am:
After talking with you (often, very intimately) I can see where some may get scared off..! *ROFLMAO*

As to the mindsets that the Internet has cultured...they are as varied as any other category in everyday life is...some you win...some you lose...and some don't get played.

49AK 56M
1823 posts
4/15/2006 2:04 pm

There are lots of reasons... I personally can't imagine having life interfere without letting you know... but I guess it happens...

other things happen, too...

pragmaticCTcpl replies on 4/16/2006 7:18 am:
We're on the same page as far as common courtesy goes...we always let the others know if something unexpected comes up to postpone or cancel. Some have coined it, "Swinging Etiquette."

We've written too many blogs dealing with this frustration, as well as other aspects encountered.

I guess it's just realizing that those lines from the movie "Forrest Gump" are applicable...

"Whoa, man...you just ran through a big pile of shit!"

"It happens."



rm_DarknStar 55F
2823 posts
4/15/2006 7:54 pm

WHY??....The HELL if I know, been in your shoes before. Kinda like one minute there in your ass and the next POOF! Leaves you kinda empty feeling inside, because it leaves you wondering what the hell happen to them!


pragmaticCTcpl replies on 4/16/2006 7:22 am:
*note to self* ... If you ever have hemorrhoids......

libgemOH 57M/53F

4/16/2006 7:19 am

BITE ME!!!!!!!


pragmaticCTcpl replies on 4/16/2006 7:28 am:
As I finished responding to the 4 comments.....refreshed the page to return and view them, now posted...I noticed the number of comments had grown to 5 comments, 1 new.

I immediately clicked on that link and simultaneously looked at my wife and said, " It HAS to be from B...!" {=}

libgemOH 57M/53F

4/16/2006 7:39 am

What can I say, I gotta keep you 2 on your toes!!!!

I'm all done, I'll quit bombarding your blog now!! -B

pragmaticCTcpl replies on 4/16/2006 9:10 am:

FunCoupleCT 49M/52F
18 posts
4/16/2006 3:14 pm

Great subject, we are impressed that you gave them 3 months. Us on the other hand, would of gave them about 3 weeks. We are totally aware that "life" happens, but if you both agreed to meet its only fair to both to be up front with your intentions. If either party is unsure, they should say something instead of leading the others on.

We feel for ya, been there, done that and got the t-shirt and the bumper sticker to prove it.

We have been lucky in that situation, when that door seems to close, another one opens for us and we end up finding others to play with.

Best of luck.

pragmaticCTcpl replies on 4/16/2006 5:38 pm:
We have been fortunate (a few times) to actually put it all together, AND actually get together in less than three weeks...at the same time, it's taken six months to accomplish the same...due to the realities of life, with others.

Even with good communications, crystal clear intentions and mutual understandings, we've had the blow-offs and never-to-be-heard-from-agains.

Thanks for stopping by..!

49AK 56M
1823 posts
4/16/2006 9:58 pm

Wouldn't it be great if there was some generally accepted codeword that we could put in our profiles, or use in correspondence that would tell people that we 'understood' the etiquette rules.

pragmaticCTcpl replies on 4/17/2006 1:59 pm:
It would be nice...but then again, 3/4 of those that contact us (90% of those on FriendFinder Messenger's IMC), don't even bother to read our profile..!!!!!

So understanding, as we do, the "Etiquette of Swinging" by the masses, is light years away........

" Occasional Lovers Sought by 90-something couple ....."

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