weird  

parkingspacereq 46M
645 posts
8/20/2006 10:09 am

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weird


sorry about this but i have just been thinking after my marriage. it seems that alot of us have at once been married etc and i was wondering do you have good or bad memories of your marriage. i was married for about 8 years, got 2 great kids,but what is bugging me is that apart from them i cant actually remember any great times that we had together. it actually makes me quite sad. yes at the start you are living on cloud nine like a young couple in love, always in bed etc going out, and then it fizzles away. that is why i will make a promise here and now, when in a relationship i will promise to make everyday like the first day we met, fun, excitement, dreamy, optimistic, sexy, lustful etc etc.
do you have good or bad memories and what are your memories if you are still married. so my new motto shall be live life for today.


irishandopen

8/20/2006 1:29 pm

Unfortunately I would have to say bad memories I was with my wife for 11 years in total but we were only married for 3 and those 3 years were pretty much hell. I never believed in marriage in the first place and only did it because of the circumstances in my life at that time, I knew deep inside that I no longer loved her but thought I could stick it out for our daughters sake. I guess I still love the person I met all those years ago but we both changed and it became endurance and fear not love. I will never get married again no matter what or how I feel about someone and really can't see myself having kids with another woman.


amber3471 46F

8/20/2006 5:52 pm

I have to say I have good memories only in the first couple of years suppose as you said things fizzle out, was with him 13years but married less than 2... and have to agree with open I will never marry or have any more children..Ive done my bit time to live a little or alot

Axx (MM)


rm_Tich655 52F
1576 posts
8/21/2006 11:02 am

I was with my husband for about 11 years married for about 6.We did have happy times,but he was always very controlling.After the birth of my daughter he got worse and I felt abit like a prisoner.He also had his violent moments.Its weird because he put me thru alot,but deep down I still love him but could never live with him.When I start feeling any nice thoughts about him tho,I remember it was him who divorced me..and him who wanted me to pay his court charges.Lots more to this story,but he will never change and I pity his current partner.
He basically almost put me off men,but not totally


parkingspacereq 46M

8/21/2006 3:13 pm

like amber, shando and blonde i also at this point of time never have a desire to remarry but i guess you can say never if the right person comes along, also i took care of the no kids option so thats a dig definitely no kids from me, lol


parkingspacereq 46M

8/21/2006 3:17 pm

    Quoting rm_Tich655:
    I was with my husband for about 11 years married for about 6.We did have happy times,but he was always very controlling.After the birth of my daughter he got worse and I felt abit like a prisoner.He also had his violent moments.Its weird because he put me thru alot,but deep down I still love him but could never live with him.When I start feeling any nice thoughts about him tho,I remember it was him who divorced me..and him who wanted me to pay his court charges.Lots more to this story,but he will never change and I pity his current partner.
    He basically almost put me off men,but not totally
very sorry to hear that he was violent, i just cant understand people like that, my ex was quite violent and even though tempted occassionally vowed never to lower myself to her level.als o glad to hear not totally put off mmmmmmmmlol
uncle pxxx


rm_gata11459 59F
10597 posts
8/23/2006 7:39 am

i have been married... lets just say more than once.. but i will say that once the pain goes away, and the edge goes off of the anger, you are left with memories both good and bad.. marriage is a fine institution my father once told me.. and my reply back was ya.. so is the jail and the nut house.. dont know if i feel that way still so much... but dont know that i would ever do it again either.. just me.. lol xoxoxo k

Peace xxx K


rm_Tich655 52F
1576 posts
8/23/2006 9:07 am

    Quoting parkingspacereq:
    very sorry to hear that he was violent, i just cant understand people like that, my ex was quite violent and even though tempted occassionally vowed never to lower myself to her level.als o glad to hear not totally put off mmmmmmmmlol
    uncle pxxx
Hey hun well it just goes to show that you are a real man and a true gent..think my ex has a screw loose in all fairness lol
Lol I love men just dont wanna shag em so much at the mo.


rm_fluffy19747 43M/40F
512 posts
8/23/2006 3:04 pm

Parky, we've been together 5yrs and married just abt 18 mths and did it too for certain reasons. Neither of us believed in the big church wedding, altho if i'd wanted that, its what he'd have given me! Instead we paid for 20 of us to head to Scotland and got hitched in a lovely, quite hotel with only those we wanted with us!
I have to say all is goin well, cos usually i get that 'trapped and smothered' feeling! I think its cos he's as big a perv as me I think i've done ok this time, but who knows what the future holds

xXx L xXx


parkingspacereq 46M

8/23/2006 3:23 pm

    Quoting rm_fluffy19747:
    Parky, we've been together 5yrs and married just abt 18 mths and did it too for certain reasons. Neither of us believed in the big church wedding, altho if i'd wanted that, its what he'd have given me! Instead we paid for 20 of us to head to Scotland and got hitched in a lovely, quite hotel with only those we wanted with us!
    I have to say all is goin well, cos usually i get that 'trapped and smothered' feeling! I think its cos he's as big a perv as me I think i've done ok this time, but who knows what the future holds

    xXx L xXx

glad to see your alive and well hun , kinda missed you
uncle pxxxxxx


rm_KarmoHunny 56F
888 posts
8/24/2006 8:22 pm

Just about all the memories from my marriage are negative. 'Nuff said!

Peace


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