a ramble  

parkingspacereq 46M
645 posts
9/5/2006 3:36 am

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9/21/2006 2:50 pm

a ramble

just recently i have been doing alot of thinking, about life in general, where i want to be next month, next year, in 5 yrs time etc, and the most annoying thing is i dont no where i will be in any of these timescales. i am normally one who has a vision, has a goal and will go for it and get it. but right now i just seem to be wandering from place to place without much direction and am feeling lost, i think.
also i have thought about where i want to live, whether or not to start looking for a relationship again and what type of relationship. i think that when you have been married before and have kids that the ex wife will always have some sort of grip over your life, now let me make this clear though i no longer have any feelings for her and definitely dont want to go back there but she is always there, when the phone rings i know it will be her etc.
i think alot of the problem is that when we moved to northern ireland 4yrs ago i left all my friends behind and when we started to make new friends here they were all couples etc with other kids and then when we split up and i moved away from the house you have to start again, develop new friends etc. what i am trying to say, i think is how do you start to recreate your life when you used to have a life??
i have met people from this site and have had some good fun with them but most of all they have developed into some really close friends and this has meant alot to me and will continue to do so, i hope.
i want to move on with my life quickly as the more i mope about the more i may get into a rut and that is a place i dont want to get into.
those that know me will hopefully see me as the person that i think i am, someone who is friendly, sociable, outgoing but with a bit of a sensitive side.
i have done things since i split up that i never thought i would ever do, not complaining at all as it is helping me return to the person that i was before marriage and the person that i want to be. takes a risk, does the funny thing, etcetc.
so where do i go , what do i do, when do i do it, how do i do it, which way do i do it.
thanks for listening, i just need a little help

Sulabula 46F
12659 posts
9/5/2006 5:00 am

Parky...I don't think most of us have a plan for the future...especially when unexpected things to happen...but no one can really tell you where to go or what to do..you have to find that out for yourself ....but know that your friends will aways be there for you what ever u decide

Sula xxx

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Smiley433 48M

9/5/2006 9:37 am

I was once told by a good friend that I should have a five-year plan, but I never saw the attraction of that.

Live for today, you never know what might happen tomorrow. Or so they say.

rm_gata11459 59F
10597 posts
9/6/2006 7:02 am

sometimes our goals change to getting to the end of the day.. when our lives change so drastcally as yours has, we are doing good to just hope to have a goal.. you are a star parky.. and with the help of all of your friends you will be fine.. xoxo k

Peace xxx K

rm_Tich655 53F
1576 posts
9/6/2006 3:07 pm

Parky I am in a similar position to yourself I guess.I have no idea what even tomorrow will bring.However I havent known you very long but from what I can tell you are a top bloke and as gata put it..you will be fine.Hugs Lisa xxx

parkingspacereq 46M

9/7/2006 2:37 pm

    Quoting rm_heavenly_:
    Sweetie... I dont know what Im doing tomorrow let alone next week..next month or next year... we just have to flow with it and enjoy life grapping every chance of happiness we can along the way, for how wever long it lasts....and to have good friends to turn to when the going gets a little tough, even if that means knowing your not alone at 2 am when your feeling low...just knowing someone is out there looking out for you.... thinking of you...makes it that much easier....
    Dont think so much... enjoy what you have and the rest will fall into place xxxxxxxx
thinks it was closer to 1.15 to 1.45 lol and no worries
uncle pxxxx

Duffer422 42M

9/21/2006 2:06 pm

Parky seems like I am at the same crossroads as you, although I have never been married I just seem to have been drifting since my last relationship. It can only go on for so long before you get bored of the "live each day as it comes" scenario. People need something to focus on and something to strive towards, it's just not that easy to find sometimes.
Hope you find what you need in your life and it helps you find that person you want to be.


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