Fat Girls, Flamey Guys  

openmindchicago 45M
36 posts
5/1/2006 8:17 am

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Fat Girls, Flamey Guys


openmindchicagoIn general, I'll hang out with anyone. It's not really a physical aspect of a person, or a sexual preference, or a philosophical/religous stance that would make me shy away from someone. However, on a site like AdultFriendFinder, most of us (guys) are looking for someone to have fun (sexual and non) with, not just someone to grab a drink...and since we do hae to actually look at this person and be attracted to this person, we normally give some sort of description as to what we prefer. In my case, I also say who I do not want to get solicitations from. But I am wondering if anyone even reads the profile. Most of my emails daily are from huge girls and homosexual men, both of which i specify that I am NOT into from a sexual standpoint. I'm sure that most of you out there have experienced this as well...and I'm just wondering what good are these profiles if people aren't going to read the damn things!

HotSexyCupl 47M/43F

5/1/2006 9:33 am

You have "Openminded" in your name, Hello?!!
I think that attracts guys right off of the bat. Not everyone reads a profile before they write.


bbw4u06 52F

5/1/2006 9:39 am

Well to be honest, I know where your coming from. I don't scroll through profiles and contact people. I list in my name BBW for that reason so people know what I am. That takes care of men like you who don't want to contact someone like me. Not hard to do, then I see who has viewed or contacted me. I prefer the sensitivity and interest from men who do not refer to me as "huge".


kelli0013 42F

5/1/2006 9:45 am

Well I can not speak for everyone here of course, but I do read the profiles, and would not even consider wasting my time or the time of someone who was not into bigger girls, now, I am not like really big or anything, but just thick, and I agree with you 100%, there has to be a mutual attraction and the only way to find that out is to actually READ the profile, it is a starting ground after all.

Like you I have had to change my profile details a couple of times to say what I am NOT into or that I do not have a cam etc... I really think a lot of people do not read the profiles or maybe your picture distracts them a little???? ) Anyway, I read your profile and it is honest and to the point, not sure what the deal is there...Good luck though!


hotandhorny107 60F

5/1/2006 10:29 am

I have pondered those questions on more than one occasion...Never come up with an answer though other than they don't get past the photo.


BBWprincesspuma 42F
1 post
5/1/2006 10:50 am

i think you're a colseminded gat. i don't like getting contacts from anyone who's marital status isn't listed as single. yet i still get contacts.

you would be suprised how many people read these so called profiles that you think are pointless.

you are very disdrespectful as am i cause i'm pissed at your comment.

bbw4u06, i agree with you i put the bbw in my profile titles too just to eliminate the jerks before they contact me and become totally rude.

unfortunatly there are a lot of peope there that thinks bbw stands for big breasted woman and not big beautiful woman


openmindchicago 45M
24 posts
5/1/2006 9:40 pm

I love it!
Thanks for all your input...even the slams. Everyone is entitled to their opinion for sure and if you think I am an ass...well, you aren't the first and you won't be the last!

Saying I don't like extremely overweight women isn't a slight on anyone, it's a fact to help people who look at my profile. It's like saying I prefer dark haired women to blonde women. Does that mean I think blonde women are awful? No. It means I prefer one to the other. So you're fat. Big deal. There are lots of guys who just adore you because of your size...which I think is great. That's what makes life interesting. Me not liking very big women doesn't make me closeminded any more than me not liking yellow shirts or green cars does. Guys are visual creatures. Seeing is one of the senses that gets us going. We're tactile and sensory beings. Don't blame me, it's genetic.

I would say that if you have BBW in your screen name, it would indicate a sense of pride in your size. Don't let a comment like "I don't like huge women" make you lose your sense of self-worth or get you all offended...it's just a factual preference, not a personal attack on you. I wouldn't look down on you in anyway, ever. I am just not attracted to BBW. Certainly there are traits of a person that you are not attracted to.

Not sure where someone got the idea that I think profiles are worthless...which obviously isn't true or I wouldn't have started this topic, but hey, thanks for contributing to our discussion!


openmindchicago 45M
24 posts
5/12/2006 3:55 pm

hey. i know that people are reading this...post your thoughts, ideas. flame me up if u want, or agree...or air your general gripes about AdultFriendFinder interactions.


bixotic 37F

5/24/2006 5:06 am

well, i guess i should include my opinion to this considering I am what i guess they refer to BBW....I am not skinny, or athletic, or extremely overweight...i am bit thick...i have a tummy...(and nice big tits, i might add...lol), but for someone who is not looking for "big women",why did u wink at me 'openmindedchicago'??? Granted i emailed u back cause i think u have a hot body...and i wanted to compliment you on that....but if BBW is not what u are attracted to, then why did u contact me??? I am not mad,or anything, just curious. I am flattered though...thanx! And for all those men out there who don't like BBW, its all good....I don't like big men...or BBW...yes, i love women,but i will not be attracted to a woman my size or larger...so i agree with the visual aspect of things. Anyone want to chat with me about this further find me i am bixotic here on AdultFriendFinder or on yahoo i have email it is xotic691.....thanx!


openmindchicago 45M
24 posts
5/24/2006 7:19 am

well, mainly because you're a couple of miles from me. I never said that I am against heavy people. It's not like I want to put everyone who is overweight onto an island and let them do a lord of the flies thing. If you (or anyone) read my other blogs you'll see that I like to just hang out, talk, meet new people. I like living through others and how they think. I love programs like This American Life and Fresh Air on NPR...I often wish I could sit and ask the authors of some of those segments a pile of questions. I figure that I only have a short time here, so why not live as much life as possible?
Just because I'm not attracted to BBW in a sexual manor doesn't mean that I can't be attracted intellectually to a person, no matter their physical appearance, gender, or sexual orientation.


openmindchicago 45M
24 posts
6/5/2006 9:23 pm

This is funny. out of all my blog entries this one gets read the most by far. I think it might be the title...my guess is that many of my visitors are fat girls and flamey guys! Well welcome to you. The whole point of the blog was to spur some sort of conversation of the relative futileness (is that a word?) of the AdultFriendFinder profile and how people here seem to understand the site from different points of view. This being true, people get offended and rejected and judged not so much on their own merits, but instead via layers of personal preferences and misunderstanding/miscommunication...which i find facinating and irrating at the same time. I know how you feel when I say I am not attracted to fat women. You get angry...it's a natural reaction. It's the same way that I feel when women (and i would guess about a 60% rate of all women here have this in their profile) say BLACK MEN ONLY. I ONLY LIKE BLACK MEN. Or something like IF YOU HAVE A COCK THAT IS SMALL (UNDER 10") THEN DON'T CONTACT ME. It is frustrating, but hey, we all have our thing. So let's not spend the time judging and getting angry at one another here, and lets use AdultFriendFinder for making friends, sexual and otherwise. I found out long ago, that using AdultFriendFinder as a source for sexual pleasure was a silly and fruitless venture, so now I meet people and interact with each person on a different level and enjoy the relationship for what it is.


rm_DWP078 29M

10/16/2008 11:48 pm

yea probably the title


rm_havsmfn2 45F
6 posts
12/16/2008 8:15 pm

Hey, I am a BBW and you know this does not bother me. To each their own. It's like you said it's just a preference. I don't understand why people get upset about that. You like what you like. I think it's your photo that gets people to look, I mean the photo you have on there now is interesting. Yeah some people don't read the profiles, and that's stupid, but what can ya do. Just take it as flattery and deal with it. I mean I don't get pissed off when 60yr old send me an e-mail, or when the married man sends an e-mail.. Just set your filtered box to on. and then you don't have to read them if you don't want to.. Just one thing, unless you have changed your profile since you started this blog, it does not say any where in it that you do not like Big girls... So Now who's not reading there own profile... LOL


rm_havsmfn2 45F
6 posts
12/16/2008 8:17 pm

Hey, I am a BBW and you know this does not bother me. To each their own. It's like you said it's just a preference. I don't understand why people get upset about that. You like what you like. I think it's your photo that gets people to look, I mean the photo you have on there now is interesting. Yeah some people don't read the profiles, and that's stupid, but what can ya do. Just take it as flattery and deal with it. I mean I don't get pissed off when 60yr old send me an e-mail, or when the married man sends an e-mail.. Just set your filtered box to on. and then you don't have to read them if you don't want to.. Just one thing, unless you have changed your profile since you started this blog, it does not say any where in it that you do not like Big girls... So Now who's not reading there own profile... LOL


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