Does art imitate life...  

ohsodelicious 58F
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4/2/2006 9:28 pm

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Does art imitate life...

Under The Tuscan Sun...

I watched this movie yesterday {at work}...very good movie, by the way. But, one scene just hit me like a ton of bricks...I have had these same thoughts...these same dreams...these same questions...these same doubts...have even been asked ‘Why?’ I had bought such a big house...

I have heard ‘the saying’ that ‘art’ imitates ‘life’ {and to a certain degree 'yes' I agree}...but, I think ‘art’ is only a interpretation of ‘life’...there are no guarantees of a ‘Happy Ending’ in real Life!
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Scene dialog...

What am I doing here all by myself? Me in this big house.

This house has three bedrooms; what if there’s never anyone to sleep in them!

And the kitchen, what if there is never anyone to cook for...

I wake-up in the middle of the night...thinking you’re the stupidest woman in the bought a house for a life you don’t even have!

When ask, “Why?” She replied, “That she still wanted things in her life...a”

Oh! Yes...I understand...wanting more...When I was 33 yrs old I bought my home, {via the bank of course} my son had just turned 9 yrs old and I had so many dreams! I was still young enough...I thought/dreamed I would meet a great guy...fall in-love...get married...have more children...share my life with a loving partner. I had all the ‘same’ dreams as the character, in the movie. That scene brought tears to my eyes...because I realize {and have for a long time} that so many of my dreams have faded away before my eyes...with each passing year. Now...I am alone in a house...full of ‘lost dreams’...

My opinion, Oh, there is a big may imitate life... {real} life there is not always a Happy Ending!!

reverend21 51M
1913 posts
4/3/2006 3:58 am

I agree, art is just an imitation of life, or how we prefer life to be

ohsodelicious replies on 4/3/2006 9:05 am:
rev...our perception thru 'rose colored glasses'


RockPebble 70M
2493 posts
4/3/2006 7:32 am

Don't rule out a happy ending, we're not at the end yet. I hope you've got a long time before the end of the story, anything can happen.

rm_ohsolustful 59M
859 posts
4/3/2006 8:00 am

I agree with Rockpeddle and daniel...It aint over till its over...were all going to hell in a bucket, the trick is to enjoy the ride....besides just think of all the fun we can have making love in all those different rooms....variety is the spice of lfe ya know!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Smile Sweetheart

ohsodelicious 58F
1922 posts
4/3/2006 8:50 am

Daniel{=}Thank you for your words of wisdom...and I agree life would be very boring without dreams...I do still have dreams...they have just shifted, changed and flowed with the ebbs of life. No regrets!! {well maybe just one}


ohsodelicious 58F
1922 posts
4/3/2006 9:02 am

Rock I haven't given up 'hope' for a happy ending...sometimes our dreams shift focus, become new chapters...with our children and their children...there are a couple of new chapters in my life with infinite possibilities


ohsodelicious 58F
1922 posts
4/3/2006 9:12 am

OhSol You little devilmore like we'll be going to hell in a barrel of laughs...there are a lot of rooms that have never been christened Thanks OhSomuch for cheering me up!!

An OhSobig smooch...OhSo{=}


4/3/2006 11:27 am

I have so much I want to say to you. Your life, dreams, hopes, and desires are not over baby. Not by a long shot. Keep putting one foot in front of the other. Your dreams may change a little and may not happen over night but roll with the changes and don't give up. When ya get lemons make lemonade. I know it sounds cheesy but it ain't. Wrap your arms around the idea that your life is for a purpose and reason and go for it. You get what you work for. Just keep walking. {=} Don't let doubt and worry rob you of your just desserts.

just a squirrel trying to get a nut

HBowt2 60F

4/3/2006 3:12 pm

Dreams are ever changing OhSo and if we had the same dreams through out our life we would have nothing new to aim for.....It's not over til it's over keep on dreaming....

ohsodelicious 58F
1922 posts
4/4/2006 7:46 am

MO...Thanks cuz I really haven't given up on all of my dreams; some of them have just shifted with the sands of time; others I morn there loss, because they can never be recaptured {like the dream of more children}. I am constantly moving forward, with the cycle of life...but, sometimes I drag my feet, while other times I move forward by leaps and bounds. OhSomuch gratitude to a MOspecial lady


ohsodelicious 58F
1922 posts
4/4/2006 8:00 am

HB...I do know what your talking about and it sure as hell is not over till it's over. My dreams have evolved with time, but that scene just hit a soft spot and I thought of some of my lost dreams...the ones never to be fulfilled. The scope of my dreams now include a wider circle...Idly dreaming of tomorrow and what I'll do with my Grandson

dreamy smile...OhSo{=}

ohsodelicious 58F
1922 posts
4/4/2006 8:10 am

mz...most of the time I don't mind being alone...I try to keep myself busy...but there are times that it is just so damn quite...I find myself covering the quite with music or I search the web for jokes...and fill my house with laughter {even if it is only mine}...but we are survivors and know tomorrow will deal us another hand {which is better than no hand}...I am grateful for what I have because I know it could be sooo much worse


mangomamiCT 43F

4/4/2006 9:50 pm

"every passing minute is a another chance to turn it all around " Sophie , Vanilla Sky

ohsodelicious 58F
1922 posts
4/4/2006 11:03 pm

    Quoting mangomamiCT:
    "every passing minute is a another chance to turn it all around " Sophie , Vanilla Sky
mango...unfortunately in some aspects...there is no turning back the hands of time...we just have to move along with the hands of time...

long heartfelt sigh...OhSo{=}

TTigerAtty 63M

4/6/2006 8:38 pm

Ditto to many comments above. Ohso, have you ever heard of a book called "The Dream Giver" by Bruce Wilkinson. There are also some DVD's of Bruce Wilkinson where he lectures to a small audience. Very powerful book and DVD series about where we get our dreams, what prevents us from continuing to move in the direction of our dreams and how we can overcome fears and obstacles as we press on toward our dreams. If you haven't read his book already, I would recommend it to you. He does a good job as a lecturer also. Some concepts that have helped me and others: recognizing that our dreams come from the Dream Giver (God), it is part of our purpose to reach for and attain our dreams (ala Joseph, the Dreamer) and there will most assuredly be ostacles along the way (fear, naysayers, etc.), but by identifying these obstacles, we can see them for what they are and deal with them effectively.

Remember when we were kids and we would dream big? If you were like me, you would dream that you would be an astronaut or President or a movie star someday. And what did our parents tell us? "You better not get your hopes up!" Something like that? You know what they should have told us, and you know what we should always tell our kids and each other?



juststeve50 63M
13 posts
4/7/2006 3:42 am

Ohso, I'm not one of your close friends on here, but I love reading you blogs. My comment is as we grow older we feel that some of our earlier dreams have not come to be. But sometimes if we look real deep into ourselves, we will see that our dreams have come true, but not in the way we thought they would. Not having more children may have allowed you to give more time and love and understanding to the child you have had. And as you say you have grandchildren now, it will give you more time for them when they really need it. As some have said above, God works in mysterious ways and it may take time to understand his plan for us. Don't give up you hope and your dreams,they may be coming true and you not even notice it. Stay focused and never give up. Love your blogs

ohsodelicious 58F
1922 posts
4/8/2006 1:28 pm

TTiger...Thanks so much for your words of encouragement I have not read “The Dream Giver” but it does sound like an interesting book...that I should check-out!! Don’t get me wrong...I do still have hopes and dreams...some have shifted or evolved with the passage of time. I once dreamt of starting a new family...but...that never came to fruition. Now, I have a grandson and another grandchild due in a couple of months {{and yes!! my son started young (but is being the man I taught him...that he could be} and takes responsibility for his children}}...anyway...I have grandchildren instead...and there are some benefits
Yes, I also a child not actually being ‘discouraged’ but {kind of} humored by my if all my dreams of...where just a little girls’ know what I mean? As my son grew-up...I always told him...his life...his world was a new book and he could do anything he wanted to do...all he had to do was go for ‘it’ that there where endless possibilities just waiting for him.
'The Tuscan Sun' just re-hashed some of my older dreams and I just spilled my thoughts into words... onward this ‘Soldier’ marches... lovingly, faithfully...dreamily...through the sifting sands of ‘time’

ohsodelicious 58F
1922 posts
4/8/2006 1:31 pm

Steve...I know you check out my ‘blog’ and for that I do ‘Thank You’...I have checked out your profile to see if you had started your own ‘blog’ and if I’m not mistaken have ask ‘Why?’ you didn’t...BUT...that is beside the point!! This post was dedicated to everyone who checks-out my blog...blogville is a separate entity...on this site...some members just check blogs out...others check-out blogs and post comments and after awhile develop a
rapport...a friendship...that does not mean I discount everyone who reads my ‘blog’...I know that you and quite a few regular members visit and read my...what...ranting, fusing, moaning {Ok! I’ll just by-pass all those adjectives}, stupid stuff ...jokes and what-not....
So back to the point {I think}...You have so much to share...I loved your comment...why not spread more of your wisdom, your passion and your understanding...It’s all a mystery to me...

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