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nudepink24 37F
116 posts
2/2/2006 7:09 pm

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

sooooo confused


my company, clinique, is in gift and as i'm a regular sales associate at the counter it's hell month with presell and then the two actual weeks of gift.

my thesis is due in 2 months.

and i've been nuts about eating lately; out of the stress...i'm working on losing it and curbing my appetite but i'm the maid of honor in a wedding in may; and i have 30lbs i'd like to lose.

i'm considering sex for the first time with an actual real, sweet guy i met off here and as i've been raised with a southern babtist background and even though i'm not probably a devout christian, i still put beliefs in practice....don't smoke, drink, am obviously still virgin, don't steal, and try to be good to everyone i meeet...not always easy stuff but hey....

so what i want to know is....

anyone please post answers; i'm looking forward to a good discussion about this topic.....

basically virginity.

did you feel ashamed after you lost it? i don't think i could live with that.

what were your beliefs before you had sex the first time?

obviously this is a sexually active community, how about birth control? i can't take the pill because of my thyroid, but are condoms and spermicide REALLY that effective? i've heard using both together are about 99% effective....but i've heard horror stories about something going wrong and them getting pregnant anyway......

the bible says in 1 corinthians basically that the woman doesn't care any more about God and only wants to please her husband and that she should remain chaste only if the guy says she is past age or something like that....

i'd like any and all viewpoints.

part of me feels like some of it is irrivelant to the way we live now, part of it is probably from false beliefs i've had....

i'd love loads of responses....and i'm dating someone sweet and just want to break freeeeeeee lol

thanks guys for the input!!

spermer3 49M
1 post
2/2/2006 7:57 pm

No , I didn't feel ashamed after I lost it. In fact , I felt better about myself knowing , I could get laid and go from there . Sex is awesome , but if you hold for Mr. Right or Mrs. Right who in the real world does not exist ,then you are only fooling yourself . I'm Catholic and 37 . Everytime , I had sex , yes I felt ashamed but after my separation realized , what I was missing out on . Why hold back , you only go through life once , make it a good one .

Regards ,


ongoing2000 57M

2/3/2006 5:16 am

Don't feel ashamed about waiting either. There's nothing wrong with being true to yourself either.

lifeisablast333 55M

2/3/2006 9:21 pm

you will find what you are wanting, just hang in there....the redneck
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tulsaboy7 58M
4 posts
2/4/2006 12:03 am

Just do it , sex is great and only gets better.
Why Wait?

GraspCrownRusts 47M
780 posts
2/17/2006 11:47 am

go with your instincts... wait if you want, or go for it if you want. i would say to not worry about society and what their views are - because they are all different depending on the company you are currently in.

i do know for a fact that you will never forget your first time and person it was with, so make sure he's the one you want that memory to be of if you decide to go for it.

realistically, does anyone expect for their mate to be a virgin on their wedding night? really? omg, come on... lol

safe sex with a condom is always a good thing, but there are also other activities ya'll could participate in without actual intercourse if you still weren't sure. if you were worried about the condom failing you for some reason, then just wait until the appropriate time in your monthly cycle where you most likely won't get pregnant even without a condom and you have that extra amount of security.

(stevie says to go for

just my 12 cents... hope all works out good for you...

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