On the Subject of Cheating  

noordinarychic2 49F
510 posts
4/2/2006 11:21 pm

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On the Subject of Cheating

I am constantly amazed at the number of married men who want to "add a little hot sex" to a dull marriage...and think nothing of it. Yesterday I got a first hand glimpse of what happens to the wife when she finds out....which she will...eventually and coincendently to the other woman. A girl I work with has been seeing a married man for almost eight months off and on....now she says it's not all about sex...but this girl...radiates sex appeal...she's gorgeous...she has eyes that would stop traffic....hell she collects phone numbers like some of us collect change.... And frankly if it wasn't all about sex...why is he still with the mrs??? another subject entirely!! Well....the wife found out....seems she got suspicious and looked through his cell phone....what idiot doesn't erase damning text messages anyway???? Now...her next move...wasn't very smart...but hey...when our heart gets broken...do we think straight?.....she showed up at work to get a first hand look at "the other woman"....seems we women like to add some pain to our misery at times...and you could just tell by her reaction that she wasn't expecting "ms sexpot"...the pain was evident....the tears were flowing....she just asked for this girl...took one look at her...started sobbing....and left....now i didn't hear the conversation but was told she simply asked "how could you?"...........now the girl i work with...for the first time, according to her....is feeling guilt...guilt over sleeping with another woman's husband, guilt over making her feel less, just guilt......and he.....has suddenly stopped calling her....says he has to "fix things" ....hmmm..... guess whose hurting, feeling rejected and crying....much like the wife? never a good thing....this cheating......everyone suffers....everyone hurts....everyone pays....everyone loses. Trust, once broken, is hard to fix........even with the best of intentions and the strongest of glues!

8337 posts
4/3/2006 12:21 am

This has all been done before.

Nothing new here.

People cheat.

If the relationships was strong, it wouldn't have happened in the first place.

You have to want to cheat, to let yourself do it.

It's that simple.

Any other explanation is just an excuse.


"My every move is a calculated step, to bring me closer to embrace an early death." -Tupac Shakur

midwestboy1972 45M
659 posts
4/3/2006 4:16 am

The exact reason I quit seeing married women. But please remember, men aren't the only ones guilty of this. I have first hand experience and women are pretty bad as well. A women will tell you that she's in an open marriage until her husband comes storming into the resteraunt and asks her what the hell she's doing, she's got a husband and child at home that needs her. Leaves you feeling pretty shitty.

MildOne20109 51M
17 posts
4/3/2006 5:06 am

We humans tend to believe that the grass is greener on the other side of the fence. Men and Woman are both likely to look for outside engagement. For this I have first hand knowlege.
I am sorry that this has brough pain to the wife of the guy as well as your worker friend.
It does point out that some folks will always be looking, even with a ring on their left hand, and some folks will be willing to help them.
The pain will always some back to bit you in the butt. I think that is why there's this thing about not commiting adultry.

noordinarychic2 49F
242 posts
4/3/2006 7:15 am

Good Points Guys! and I agree...women cheat as well....and it takes two.....and midwest...kudos to you for not being a part of it......and i wonder how many people that tell you they have an "open" marriage really do???

rm_4nik8_4u 62M
2501 posts
4/4/2006 4:31 pm

If both husband and wife put as much effort into their marriage as they do trying to carry on an affair on the side they probably wouldn't find it neccessary to have the affair in the first place.

Shudderingthighs 48M/50F
3 posts
4/10/2006 12:27 pm

Yes this misery is felt by both sexes. Yes us men will do the same as this wife did and do something stupid like showing up and adding to the pain, but then we also have a tendancy to make it worse with a scene. Now for myself I have never, ever had a problem with the other guy in the deal, most times he knew nothing about me either, he was also played and lied to. My trust is to her and her only, and that is who my argument would be targeted. Though once I did catch my ex with another after I warned her I was going to. Made a scene with her in front of her friends, but told him I had no problems with him but told him the truth, and showed him who also lived there with her at times. Hard to question a guys skivies in the dresser drawers ya know. But then she came clean with him and I thought at the time tried to repair us. She told him to stay away, and well then he did something stupid. He showed up a few nights later, found us asleep in the bed. I had slept in that bed for several years. But then he grabbed my kids ball bat off the porch and busted out all the windows in my camaro. Now I had a problem with him. Filed a police report and issued a warrant. He showed up at her place a few days later not realizing I was there since the car was in the shop getting repaired. He took off, I followed at high rate of speed. He decided to outrun me to the police station. He parked on the curb by the front door and ran in to turn himself in. It was quiet funny at this point watching him try to get into lock up before I rearanged a few features. He was shot in the chest last year, when he was found in bed with someone elses wife. Some need that stupid sign to carry around I guess, because no one should be that niave twice. lol. It is primarily why I would only have my wife as a spouse. I TRUST HER. No doubts. We are open with each other. And when she desires another, she asks and I will try to get. She does the same for me. And OUR OPENESS will always keep us together. And lastly we do not play with any one person without a meeting with the spouse as well, and usually choose only a couple or bonifide singles. We would not want to be the other to cause what we have all been through before in the past. We cannot condone that hurt and betrayal. It will last forever even if you can one day bury it.

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