Being There ...  

nightstogether 57M
818 posts
5/26/2005 12:55 pm

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Being There ...

For a while I thought it was important to be in the Most Popular Male Blog List. I thought it would make a great difference if I was amongst those top 8 lucky ones with half a hundred comments and more to their names; visible to everyone all the time, and pulling in all the views imaginable.

Then I got to thinking about my Blog. I got to thinking about my reasons for writing here and what I really wished / wish to achieve.

Being Mr Popular isn't for me. It never was, it never will be. In Real Life I am content to have achieved something whether my name or my image gets published or not. Appearing in the local newspapers two or three times a month doesn't give me a hard on, does nothing for my ego; why should being in the top 8 here do it for me?

Being a male I'm never going to get the thousands of views [blog sexyfitwoman] goddessofthedawn and papyrina achieve with some of their posts; female blogs have more of a magnet effect anyway, considering the balance of gender on AdultFriendFinder.

So who exactly am I writing for? Why am I putting myself through the hassle of maintaining a blog on AdultFriendFinder when I could be doing it elsewhere and without the constant denials for no reason?

I am writing for me. I am writing because I enjoy writing; I enjoy putting words together and forming ideas into manageable chunks with a source and a meaning, a beginning and an end. I enjoy capturing my thoughts and my experiences through this medium whether anyone really takes notice or not.

It is enjoyable that people do comment; that people click on the link and glance through my words; that people comment in the chatrooms or through mails to me on what I have written, experienced or thought. But it is an additional joy and not the primary one. The primary joy is the capturing of those thoughts, the conversion of images into language, the reiteration of actions with hindsight. It is the capturing of an experience.

I enjoy the secondary purpose of this blog too; the companionship of sharing and being read, of receiving comments and being viewed. But, if those secondary gains were not to be there, I would still be here writing - or elsewhere - and gaining the satisfaction that I require without an audience and without that esteemed place in the most popular areana.

private-intellectual (.de)

redswallow777 49M
6811 posts
5/26/2005 3:13 pm

And thank you for putting that thought into thinks I am at about the same place but could not have said it so well.

expatbrit49 63M

5/26/2005 3:52 pm

Nights I think a lot of people read your post, I check each day some I comment on and some get me thinking (bad for comments but great ideas). I didnt set out to make the list and i tend to write stuff that I think is funny. Being on that list does increase the readership but I still think some of my best ones were way back and only got a couple of comments but hey, mostly we do this because is addictive...Blogs the crack cocain of writing

Thank You for Your Time and Attention

papyrina 52F
21133 posts
5/27/2005 5:11 am

i enjoy your posts and like ex says ,some are for for thought others for commenting.
I like the way you write,compared to mine your English and grammer is so much better and don't get me started on vocablary,after 18 years in greece mine is gone i speak English like a 4 year old,

Any way nice post

I'm a

i'm here to stay

cajunpet 71M
1185 posts
5/27/2005 10:26 am

I never considered being at the top most popular when I started to blog. I started blogging to meet new people and make some new friends. I have meet more people and made more friends with my blogs, then with any other options available here on AdultFriendFinder.

Another reason I started blogging was to help people if they need help. All my life I have helped people, so I continue to to do so in my blogs.Helping people gaves me great satisfaction and makes my life more complete.

I enjoy reading your blogs, and getting to know you better. I have learned a few things about myself, from some of your blogs.

Keep on blogging, and have a great day.

GoddessOfTheDawn 106F
11240 posts
5/27/2005 11:55 am

sheesh, now why wouldn't my comments stick nowadayz
The speakers before me said it well. I for one enjoy your blog and its diversity.

and I hope u'll have lots more goth fun

Philosophy_N_Sex 50M/48F

5/27/2005 1:02 pm

write your page for you. For once it can be all about you

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