The skinny on being fat  

nightstalker172 38M
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5/18/2006 6:56 pm

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The skinny on being fat

I was reading Dying To Be Thin by
And it got me thinking about things that can lead a person to being over weight. So here is my thoughts on it based on my own exspiences and the research that I have done over the past 3 years.

Habitual - Perhaps the hardest thing to break is the habit of eating poorly or even over eating. When I was a young boy I actaully never really ate that much. At least according to my mother I was a nibbler. I would never finish all my dinner and such. However as I got older my Father would force me to sit at the table and finish my dinner. I could not leave until it was gone. Even food I didnt like such as peas GOD I hate peas...and fried chicken. On top of that he would pile food on my plate. In his life he was lucky to get anything to eat. If he was late for breakfast he would have to go without. So I should be greatful that I get all this food and that I should eat up. Well eventually I think it trained me to eat everything on my plate reguardless how much food was on it. It trained me to eat until or even over full. I still have a hard time fighting that urge.

Genetics - This can have a big affect on how you metabolize food and such. Some people can eat what they want and stay thin because their metabolism is naturally high. Some like myself are at the opposite side. But understand how your metabolism works is important if you want to lose weight. It can be done. Its not going to be easy for the slower metabolism but its still possible. There are things you can do to raise your metabolism. Such as eating 5-6 meals during the day. and their are supplments you can get but I prefer green tea or a supplement based on green tea...most of the others are useless. Building muscle helps as well...I think in order to lose weight it is important to strength train. The most muscle mass you are the higher your metabolism will be.

Medical condition/disability - Now Ive heard that a thyroid problems can lead to being overweight. However I have not really researched much of this area because it does not pretain to me. The only medical problem I have is Ashma. An Inhaler pretty much takes care of that. With most disabilities there isnt much that can be done except exercise the best you can IF you can. and only if a doctor okays it.

Diet addictive foods - Like I said in my last post. Food can be a drug if not kept in check. If your body it used to a high carb diet and then you cut the carbs suddenly you are going to be in withdrawl which is what the atkins diet makes you do. Now If you have the mental fortitude to tough it out then go for it. But most of us do not. This is why binging occures. It is our body craving the junk we are so used to. The fact is you shouldnt deny yourself any type of food that you like. What you must do is control yourself and not binge.

Exercise - Ok for me I go for walks 6 days a week. I have not yet gotten back into lifting yet. Im alittle worried about my back. but typically starting out I lift 3 times a week. I split the muscle groups. Here is what a workout week would look for me

Day 1 Abs, Chest, Biceps and cadrio
Day 2 cardio only
Day 3 Legs,shoulders,abs, cardio
Day 4 cardio only
Day 5 Triceps,Back, abs, cardio
Day 6 cardio only
Day 7 Complete rest doing nothing

You need that day of rest for your body to regenerate and to have time to rebuild your muscles after you literally tore them appart during the week. Now you will notice that I do abs ever day that I lift. In truth you work your abs with just about every exercise you can do. It good to make them more of an edurence muscle than a strength muscle. beside if you work your abs like you would any other muscle you would have abs like Micheal Clark Duncan. He played the Kind Pin in DareDevil. He was also in the Green Mile the BIG guy...even though hes not that tall

In all truth I think everyone can lose weight and be healthier if they learn their body. There are different methods for different body type and combinations of genetics and disablilities...but the one thing you need most is the desire and will power to maintain and keep at it....if you dont have that you will fail PERIOD.

1ande4u 40F

5/18/2006 7:41 pm

Ther's a great book written by Dr. Dean Ornish. It's not about a new diet fad, it's about a healthy way of living. I got it and started following his suggestions and I have lost 11lbs in about 21/2 weeks. My energy level went up a whole lot, too. You should check it out.

complexlysimple 35M

5/18/2006 7:49 pm

Can't argue with that, though personally, my biggest problem is rmembering to eating on a fairly regular basis and not skipping/forgetting meals.... it generally a good way to throw your metabolism off...

NickRules999 40M
9464 posts
5/18/2006 7:53 pm

I saw that post, too. I added that one cause of obesity is depression. When you're depressed, you don't really wanna do anything. Which leads to overeating, and becoming overweight. I added that coz I have gone through it. I also mentioned genetics.

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themisskrissy 57F
2302 posts
5/18/2006 8:29 pm


you will find that sexually abused youngsters tend to the fatter side... in an effort to be "unattractive" is a theory i have heard a lot... being over weight is one of the recognized markers of sexual abuse..

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flagg134 37M
1582 posts
5/18/2006 8:52 pm

I saw the post as well I didn't feel it correct to add my thoughts there though except that its an unfair prejudice in some cases because people have no clue what caused in that particular person.

Habit I would think is the leading cause to people gaining weight. I think what happens when most people go on diets they take it to extremes. Such as Atkins the body is not meant to subsist on protein and limited fat alone. So it burns off the weight quicker but your body becomes depleted and seeks a new store thus forcing those cravings. Which is why people generally put back more on then they lost after they get off a diet.

The thyroid gives off a hormone which alters the metabolism if it is underactive they gain weight. Drugs like antidepressants and some painkillers can cause your thyroid to go out of whack. Of course an overactive thyroid is just as dangerous due to the threat of causing a heart attack due to insufficient weight.

Ultimately people should eat what they are comfortable with but limit their portions. It will be a slower go losing weight but your body will adapt to the change much better. Rather than going straight cold turkey where your body begins to need and crave things.


nightstalker172 38M
1258 posts
5/19/2006 5:18 am

1ande4u - I might look that up thank you for the info.

simple - Yea I have found that a problem too...but I try to remind myself..but I also find that I sometimes eat too much...which isnt good because when Im active my appetite grows to insane proportions

Nick - depression is no joke..I have found that when Im depressed I just dont care about anything...and I eat what I want and as much of it I want...which tend to be BAD...

Krissy - Well I cant say I have first hand exspeince in being sexually abused...unless you count beating myself sorry bad joke....I can see the logic to that though...I will not say that I didnt go through abuse phyiscally beatings and verbal abuse when my sisters ex BF lived with us...but never anything sexual..I seriously would have killed him in his sleep if anything like that happend.

Flagg - Yea I think thats where I was going wrong...I had too many cravings...but I think now I need an appetite suppressant...I dont want to end up eating like I did in high school...I ate 5-6 times a day...and my calory intake was well beyond 4000 cals a day...easy...Though..I weighed less then than I do now...I also had high blood pressure then from all the fast food I was eating...and high bloodpressure at 18....not cool...

rm_yukonpaul 52M
1120 posts
5/19/2006 12:19 pm

Yes, I also need to exercise, eat better and lose weight. Especially now that my weight has affected my health. If I did all of my laundry, I would definitely get a good start!

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