Web contacts  

nightriders40 63M/58F
28 posts
9/6/2005 11:44 am

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8/13/2007 2:32 pm

Web contacts

Thumbs up or thumbs down?

Your experiences, positive or negative.

Do people join and stay for years or quickly slip away again either having found the "right" match or having given up in despair?!

nightriders40 63M/58F

9/18/2005 7:00 am

Hmmm... 37 views and no-one feels competent to comment???!

rm_ukpete2 58M
2 posts
9/19/2005 3:54 pm

Great question! My position has been very up and down with AdultFriendFinder, I have been a member (on and off) for about 2 years. I've met some great couples and single ladies...most more than once...and as a rule has been wonderful. Recently I felt rather empty about meeting people just for sex, well, and friendship...but you know what I mean? that there was nothing else going on with the relationships. I have now been seeing a single lady for the last 2 months, both of us intend to make a go of it. It is tough!...I do still get the hots to see couples again as it is a massive turn on...3somes, cuckold, video/pics etc but I am finding the monogamous relationship exciting.
So, the answer at least from my perspective is....it works for virtually all tastes and desires....Gosh that can't be bad?

nightriders40 63M/58F

9/28/2005 12:06 pm

Thanks for the detailed, considered and lucid reply

nightriders40 63M/58F

10/2/2005 11:52 am

Anyone else want to let us know if we can live in hope of meeting someone compatible, or was ukpete2 just very lucky?

rm_jbs63 54M
2 posts
10/8/2005 11:47 am

Hi been a member for over a year and whilst I've had may members accept network invites thats as far as it gets! Like you I would like to strike up a friendship with others for the longer term and not just always on the sexual side. I'm not long out of a 17yr relationship which due to my ex's controlling nature caused me to loose touch with many of my friends outwith of business. I'm now trying to rebuild this social network and if you're interested in getting in touch on this basis feel free.

danni455 55M/60F
1 post
10/13/2005 6:50 am

hi im danny i had a relationship with a couple just like you many years ago im 42 5,8 slim to med trim and live in lancashire , i am quite discrete , i do hope you will reply , thanks . post 86084

rushaved2005 49M
1 post
10/13/2005 7:47 am

Would probably help matters if people used the instant messenger more. I have had lots of views and a couple of email contacts but that is about it.
I am one of the discreet people but finding others the same way and getting in touch with them is very frustrating.

red_smiles 46M
1 post
10/23/2005 10:42 am

just joined..... we shall see....

nightriders40 63M/58F

11/27/2005 2:07 pm

Sadly, we have once more experienced a disappointment.

We had an excghange of messages with a guy who seemed to be quite suitable apart from one aspect (which he said could be changed). WQE don't need to go into the details here. We agreed that we would see how he progressed and he should contact us again when he had changed this detail. We had a good rapport and had hopes that something might become of this.

It would seem that he must have become frustrated at himself, presumably due to inability to put the problem right, as he suddenly made a totally unjustified attack on us on this blog. We have deleted the details to avoid any nastiness.

This just goes to confirm that we are right to be careful and vet any prospective adult friends very carefully rather than just diving in. There are some very strange people out there!

nightriders40 63M/58F

12/28/2005 4:02 am

Another month on and still no luck

golfer1794 62M
1 post
1/20/2006 11:59 am

just joined for second try hope some thing happens this time

nightriders40 63M/58F

2/5/2006 12:22 pm

Nothing new here...

nightriders40 63M/58F

2/14/2006 10:33 am

Would welcome more feedback as we are really beginning to wonder about the sense in continuing on here...

Can someone tell Us of a success story?

rm_dman2999 42M

2/24/2006 12:14 pm

hello there, seems like a frustrated blog here. Strange isn`t it? you would think many people would be compatable on this site, especially as the usual niceties (is that a word?!) of meeting people in a bar or through friends before finding out any real personal sexual preferences is pretty much bypassed on this site.
i guess finding like minded people and then being able to build up a friendship or relationship is still the barrier, the main obstacle being the fact you can`t really get a feel for someone until you meet!
So, my philosophy on this is:
1. meet through normal social circles - can strike up a good rapport but without finding out the real sexual preferences.
2. meet through AdultFriendFinder, know all about the sexual preferences but can`t build a real rapport without a meet.
Its a vicious circle hey!!!!

brisy54 63M
1 post
2/27/2006 5:51 am

first time been here hope youve managed to get connected if you havnt and your discrete email me

nightriders40 63M/58F

2/28/2006 5:06 pm

The problem is that we can't seem to find anyone who tempts us to go to the actually meeting stage ‒ and, as you say, at that point there is still plenty of scope for issues to arise that make the whole idea uninteresting.

Yes, we are quite stringent in our criteria, but we know ourselves well enough to know what stands a chance of working and which people we would not be interested in. Just 'cos we're not interested that should not be taken as a universal condemnation but, FOR US, anyone who is e.g. overweight, a smoker or cheating on their partner is not suitable. That list is not exclusive ‒ we have other requirements too! Some may say we are too choosey but, in the end, it is our decision what restrictions we impose and personally we would rather fail to find someone than compromise and regret it. We just expected to find someone on such a big site...

rm_dman2999 42M

3/1/2006 11:11 am

I think people should respect any turn offs or restrictions which an individual, or in your case, a couple have. Everyone has tastes, likes, dislikes (if they haven`t then you`ve got to wonder why not!) i tend to agree with the no smoking,weight and cheating issues. These are all morals, personal preferences i have and as such its natural to seek out the same in a partner. How can you lose youself in the moment if your thinking about the smell of smoke etc....
One reason i`m single and my friends say this to me, i`m apparently too fussy. I don`t see the point in being with someone for the sake of "having a girlfriend" if your not happy with a partner then the tendency to stray will rise its ugly head. Much rather be on my own than cheating on someone who is probably a decent person but not compatible. i feel slightly justified in this at the moment though - 3 close friends who have been married or in long term relationships since a young age, with children, are now divorcing/splitting due to either cheating or wanting to have the youth they didn`t have!
If you have any more criteria - drop me line and see if i meet them, and likewise if you meet mine! if not, fine. If we do then lets chat more.
d. x


3/16/2006 1:40 pm

iv only just joined your group, so not really in a position to offer expert opinion, but i would imagine those who have either met on this site, or those open and secure enough with each other to experiment, will stay.. if youve had a couple of bad experiences though, it totally changes things...

dman im the same as you single, would love to be in a relationship, but with the right 1 though, not just a somebody to be seen with.. i would rather meet people who i can get to know, + trust, + then let things progress and enjoy doing whatever we want with no explanations owed to anyone

nightriders40 63M/58F

4/9/2006 7:51 am

Our disappointment grows...

Still no luck!

rm_shycumbrian 59M
47 posts
4/21/2006 11:31 am

I like the idea of web contacts as people have said you find out the sexual side but there must be a alot who would like to find someone or a couple who can be discreet as not all are single. A married man / woman must be discreet but would a married couple be discreet as they have nothing to lose. I would personally prefer a regular lasting contact than a list of one night stands. What do others think regular or play the field onthe web. The web also has alot more coverage not just your local nightclub. Night I hope you find what your looking for as I am an AdultFriendFinder virgin so far.

nightriders40 63M/58F

4/27/2006 10:47 am

Quote shycumbrian, "A married man / woman must be discreet but would a married couple be discreet as they have nothing to lose."

hmmm... don't think you really understand what "discreet" means here for most people. It does not mean cheating on a partner as you suggest; it means behaving in a way that does not suggest to anyone else that there is anything more than a platonic friendship. A couple most certainly canhave something to lose ‒ not every couple wants their family (e.g. parents or offspring), work colleagues or neighbours to know everything that they do in private... we don't!

rm_21lloyd3 33M
5 posts
8/8/2006 8:13 pm

Hi Im young m looking for new experience but nothin to sick an twisted i maybe young but no what i`m up for. if you`d like to chat sometime an see if we`re intrested in the same things either male me or i`ll look out for a reply on hear. Thanks for your time

nightriders40 63M/58F

9/26/2006 5:01 pm

Oh dear... nothing new

rm_tosh196842 49M

11/21/2006 5:26 am

Hi Guys-Nice pic-Not sure about if this sorta thing works-have had a few meets but not really compatible-wud be nice to cgat to u guys-Tosh x

neothechosen1 33M
7 posts
12/16/2006 3:06 am

Hi how you. you seem fed up in some of your comments. I new to this an could do with some guidence an advice. so if you don`t mind helping me out thanks.

nightriders40 63M/58F

1/20/2007 4:28 am


Our advice would be:

1. Read and take in what people say on their profile before considering replying. So many males do not and waste everybody's time with their inappropriate messages.

2. Fill in all your details on your profile and give a good description of yourself, your experiences to date and what you seek.

3. Photos, both on your profile and especially in your messages, will let people see if you are the type they seek.

4. Be honest, polite and frank, both in your profile and in messages.

5. Don't be pushy!

rm_shycumbrian 59M
47 posts
1/28/2007 7:24 am

Hi again Night
Been out of circulation hence no reply to ur comment on discretion.
I do understand ur concerns about friends/ parents etc finding out about ur private life. Most family members would not approve so yes it has to be kept quiet. I was meaning that when a couple are on AdultFriendFinder then there is no sneaking behind the others back so just the risk of family finding out which would be a nightmare. I would be very discreet so that hopefully nobody found out what was going on should I ever get that far.
As for reading profiles how are u supposed to get the info if u cant read profiles? Is it just a case of messages or blog as alot of people cant even email.
PS Like the pic well thought out.

nightriders40 63M/58F

8/13/2007 2:32 pm

Still nothing new...

Our visits to this place become less and less frequent.

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