I hate it, but I'm not really ashamed  

nightman448 47M
113 posts
6/30/2006 8:06 pm

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I hate it, but I'm not really ashamed

Over the years, this has been a pretty hard thing to admit, but not anymore. I am a virgin. I am 35 years old, and I have never had intercourse. It's not like I haven't been out there looking, wishing and hoping that would change. If I had it my way, i would have taken care of that part of my life when I was much younger, but that just has not happened. Now you can think it might be strange, think I'm a loser, and even think I am lying about this, but that is just the way it goes for me. I think of it as all the potential women of the past have been saving me for someone special. I am really hoping that chapter of my life will be written soon, and I'm sure that when it does happen, it will be something I will never ever forget. Why is it so hard for some people to admit that they are virgins??? You could probably get a murder confession from a mime before extracting info like that on most people. Now.... who wants to move to the from of that very short waiting list of mine?....LOL

Hippink 36F  
4498 posts
6/30/2006 9:39 pm

Reading over the last few of your postings, I'm inclined to offer a theory as to why you're still a virgin.
You're WAYYYYYYYy too picky, and for the wrong reasons. You shouldn't be looking for Miss PERFECT, as in looks.... you should be looking for someone you like, personality, and see her beauty inside & out. And she's got to like you, too.

I know a couple of guys like you, and I just don't get why they let themselves be so picky. They call it "preferences." Ok, so you & they are holding out for a Goddess?

Planning on dying a virgin?

Time to look at the beauty right in front of you, all around you.

The fact is, you're scared. You make the woman of your dreams truely impossible to attain so that you never have to actually try to win her, for fear of failing & being turned-down.

Or maybe it's more personal issues. You think you're un-likeable. You put a wall up around yourself that no one can penetrate, you dislike everyone, so that it doesn't matter if they dislike you.

What they say about loving yourself before anyone else can love you? It's true.
Good luck.
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NulloSpraySumac 41M
13 posts
7/1/2006 1:38 am

Well bro, you're not the only one who has held out. I was a good 27 years old before I had my first. I actually felt pretty good about myself to hold out for so long, maybe because it made me different. In school I focused on studies and playing video games and I knew that at my age it isn't a mature enough age to be responsible about my sexuality. Besides, I still studder today when I see someone hot.

Eventually I had to do something about it though, out of curiosity mostly. My first was something I was not proud of and if I could do it over again I would. If I could be a virgin again I would find someone that I cared a lot about to make that intimacy special. Then I would think back and it'd be a good memory instead of something I'm not proud of.

Going from hippie_square's info, my advice to you is to make a female friend, or hang around women that you can see everyday, get to know them, not necessarily as a girlfriend mind you, just as a friend. As you get to know them and make jokes together, other things will begin to attract you about them, not just their physical appearance. Something like this happened to me with a plain friend and she actually had me so attracted to her because of her "always happy and kind" attitude that just the sight of her arouses me.

Limit your exposure to porn, it will ruin your perceptions about how a female should look like. Use mature porn or plain looking amateur if you must get off on it.

It really is ok to be a virgin, people will make fun of anything and always have because of their own insecurities. But if you really want to end it, you have to start with yourself and work outwards.

Good luck.

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