Spring has Sprung  

nightis 54M
247 posts
5/3/2006 1:41 pm

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5/4/2006 6:31 am

Spring has Sprung

For you gals out there, you need to know and understand, AdultFriendFinder is extremely competitive for us guys. There are generally three types of guys on AdultFriendFinder. There are the ones that just can’t compete! They receive no emails or attention on this site and frankly, most don’t deserve it due to a complete lack of social skills. The second fits into the “near-miss” category. They certainly pique interest, receive a few emails and chat with a few women on AdultFriendFinder, but can’t seem to close the deal. Finally, there seems to be a diminutive secret society of men that are fairly successful on AdultFriendFinder; I have never met anyone in this category, but they are out there, currently taunting me! They have several dates a month and I talk with women that are dating them all the time.

That being said, I have been fairly successful on AdultFriendFinder. In the last couple of months, I have had a few dates, two for sex and two other introductory dates that apparently were unsuccessful. I had a five month drought between November of last year after and incredible summer of women and amazing relationships; now, I consider myself to be in another modest drought which I believe is cause in part by my work schedule.

I am truly looking for someone to befriend for the upcoming summer. Someone to possibly even take backpacking into the back country with me, but that kind of friendship and trust takes time to grow. Each time I get close to meeting one of several women that I am currently negotiating with (I know, a very business-like and cold word I know), a new problem has reared its ugly head!

“I also am not looking for anything serious at this point. I am dating though and hope that wouldn't bother you.”

I am not bothered by this turn of events but I have still not dated this woman myself. There is something more than meets the eye here! In the last couple of days, I received another email from a lady that I have been chatting with for a couple of months.

“I have been seeing someone the last couple of weeks and I don't want to blow it yet”, after I suggested a day to meet for lunch.

Well, spring has sprung and I am feeling like I am more like a guy in the middle. A gentleman getting a lot of attention, but no dates!

lustcurious42 58F

5/3/2006 9:20 pm

Ahhh, poor Nightis. A gentleman getting a lot of attention and no dates. My perspective, for what it's worth, but I might be different than most. I do have friends that are pretty much just a sexual relationship. I don't meet people from this site for the purpose of having sex. Most of the new people that I have met I meet at meet and greets and it just seems to happen over time. I also find that alot of people I met a couple years ago are for some strange reason getting ahold of me. I tend to shy away from the guys who don't seem able to concentrate on me. I'm an attention whore, I like attention, I need it to keep my interest. That doesn't mean I'm the only woman in their life, but I need to feel like I'm not in the middle or end of a long list. I pretty much want to be at the top of the list. And long is relative. Sometimes 8 is a long list. And for me personally, I don't want to sleep with everyone or just anyone. I'd prefer to find the man that trembles the earth under my feet but until then if it at least shakes a little we can take it from there. I don't know if my perspective helps, like I say, I'm probably different from most on here.

nightis replies on 5/4/2006 6:41 am:
Ya, you caught me! Whining again. I try not to do that, but when this happens twice within a week..well if it happens a third time, I will call it a trend. I can understand and respect that you crave total concentration; at least it should be preceived that way even if there is another friend in the picture. I can do that very easily.

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