How Far is too Far?  

nightis 54M
247 posts
8/9/2006 6:57 am

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8/23/2006 6:46 am

How Far is too Far?

Walking Away.....

We all have slightly different goals when we signed up for AdultFriendFinder. Mine were simple; make a few friends and connections that may lead to occasional sex. Call it an intimate friend, a "fuck-buddy (god I hate that term), female companionship or whatever. I have done well on this site.

Recently, I have done really well! I met a dear, sweet, "girl next door" type woman that has a fire engine red streak of sexy to her, that was better than I could have ever imagined. For a few months, she was my best friend, an amazing lover and a great backpacking partner among other things. Time, distance and the ghost of my ex-wife took their toll.

What surprises me is how far I let the relationship get. I had no intention of letting any AdultFriendFinder or other relationship knock me over or pull at my heart strings. I remember boldly saying that I was "unobtainable" for at least two years do to a very delicate job situation which became even more so this week and of course that ever-present shadow of an ex that lives 75 miles away. Don't let me fool you, she may not have intended it, but I was almost obtained.

I didn't and wouldn't give some seemingly simple things and that is what ultimately terminated the relationship. We were addicted to each other, but some big time choices were just ahead of us. She told me that it takes "30 to 60 days for an addiction to wear off".

She has almost always been right, so I will trust her on this one too.

Well, I guess for the time being, I will go back to writing fantasies rather than real life adventures.

The bottom line is that AdultFriendFinder can deliver relationships that are real, genuine and powerful. Maybe I let it get too far, but the experiences, growth and memories that I have had are something most guys only dream about.

Thanks for reading today.

SuzieQ4U60 62F

8/9/2006 7:47 am

and thanks for writing and sharing. Hopefully I will find what you did, but I am ready for it. I will embrace it lovingly and willingly.


nightis replies on 8/9/2006 12:30 pm:
I am glad that you stopped by and thanks!

bipolybabe 56F

8/9/2006 7:25 pm

I'm happy that you "let it get so far." I appreciate people who don't create artificial boundaries around their hearts. Sometimes it happens. Sometimes it doesn't.

Bravo to you,


BTW, I agree that AdultFriendFinder can deliver powerful, real relationships with people who share the open interest in sex. How great is that?!?


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nightis replies on 8/10/2006 12:05 am:
Thanks Poly for coming by...I am honored by your visit. This relationship was clearly the most thrilling, passionate and affectionate I have experienced on AdultFriendFinder. It is clearly what we look for on a site like AdultFriendFinder. The only thing wrong with it as that it is not ongoing at this time!

Thanks again for your visit!

lustcurious42 57F

8/9/2006 10:49 pm

You let it get to far???? Seems to me you didn't let it get far enough. Some people in life are rare roses. You should cherish them when they come along and believe there will never be a more rare, more beautiful one in this lifetime. Other things like distance, job stability, they work out. And really, when I die, I want to be remembered for the love we shared........not how far we drove to get it.

nightis replies on 8/9/2006 11:46 pm:
You bring up some really valid points Lusty. I have had no problem with the distance, but it and the time factor is a hard reality. When it comes to the happily ever after concept, I guess I may not be a fan. Gasp...a little too much baggage.

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