No head games for me please.  

newsready 50F
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3/9/2006 4:59 pm
No head games for me please.

I am amazed, almost in shock at how some men can have one conversation with you and then become possessive almost it seems. Not sure if it is because they have no personal lives to speak of or if they are that crazy that they believe that just because I may strike up a conversation with them and even tease and flirt a little that in their minds some how that is a commitment of sorts.
Had an experience with one individual like this not too long ago. Yes I met him on AdultFriendFinder, no I am not going to tell you his ID because I don't believe in doing things like that. Now if he had been threatening or abusive in anyway I would have reported him to AdultFriendFinder but that wasn't the case.
He did however piss the hell out of me and that is the topic of this blog.
I had spoken to him one occasion and given him my handle so we could chat, and we did a few times. We exchanged pics and talked about different things, likes, dislikes, jobs, sex, and what not. We had discussed hopefully meeting someday, and like with all guys I talk to, I told him that I am not looking for anyone to commit to at this time. I have other friends that I do have sex with and will continue to until such a time "I" decide not to.
I always make sure to make that very clear to anyone I meet because I am honest and open and wish the same of anyone I might happen to become friendly with. Makes things much less dramatic.
Anyway, I had not heard from him in about a wk or so when the day before yesterday I get an instant message from him, well I reply and we start to chat. He tells me he had been with someone and had some fun that is why I hadn't heard form him. Well "that's great" I say and let him know that I too had, had some fun and met a few new people, when his tone changes. I get this sense of a jealous attitude from his next line "Well you don't need me for anything then" Something like that. Hummmm I try to play it off but his responses start to bug me, I let him know that we haven't even met and that just because I see other people doesn't mean I am not interested.

Then things calm for a bit, we talk again and during this whole time he is bragging to me how good he is in bed and how he made this girl orgasms so well and how she was bragging about how good he was. (blah, blah, blah) Ok, already, so I say then prove it to me this Friday night, he says ok. I give him my number and then the attitude starts again, I tell him I have to log off and I will see him on Friday, when I get "Well I won't hold my breath" Now what the hell kinda attitude is that? It is almost as if he wants to piss me of so I don't see him. Well to make a long story shorter, I tell him not to bother and put him on the ignore list.

I don't have time for drama in my dating life, I want romance, fun, laughter, pleasure, great conversations, honesty, trust and above all great sex. NO HEAD GAMES, PLEASE!


Kaliedascope61 42M
4084 posts
3/9/2006 5:28 pm

I like this post, very well written. Thank you.


sedd_gurl 40M/40F
40 posts
3/9/2006 5:35 pm

What a creep! Sorry you met a jerk on here. The good I'm sure out weighs the bad- but ladies, and gents- be careful who you give your # too- Have fun- but be aware of what you are doing, and who you are doing it with...


newsready 50F

3/9/2006 6:43 pm

Thanks for the advice sedd_gurl sometimes we tend to forget ourselves and are swayed by smooth talkers.

Kaliedascope61 Thank you, I always enjoy seeing your comments.


muffdivinking 56M

3/9/2006 7:09 pm

A jerk like that makes the rest of us men look bad....Sorry you went through that crap...We are all NOT like that...


newsready 50F

3/9/2006 7:54 pm

I know your not like that muffdivinking, but your right about him making all the other guys look bad. Still there are women out there that do the same for the rest of us. It isn't just men that can be jerks. Just have to live and learn and hope we find the goods ones in the end.


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