What are you looking for?  

needu2play4fun 54F
357 posts
3/12/2006 2:51 pm

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5/24/2006 6:05 am

What are you looking for?

After being on this site for close to a year and having met a great deal of people from the site I would love to hear what some of the guys and girls as a matter of fact are hoping to find on AdultFriendFinder ...

I have made some really awesome friends, have had a lot of fun and have had some of the best sex of my life ... met some real jerks and even probably pissed off a few people because iam so straight forward and all because i presume have not expected much.

I believe by being yourself and getting straight to the point works far better for me than someone who is pretentious and who are not even sure that they wanna be here ...

How are some of you coping with the emotional side? I find that that is the most difficult part of being on AdultFriendFinder ... Even though I have been in a relationship for the past six years (and all he presumes is that I am chatting - lol) I find that this the most difficult especially when you seeing someone on a very regular basis for a while already ....

Would love to hear your view points ...

brasko1958 60M

3/13/2006 2:15 am

Well, i have only just joined and trying to navigate the site. Me? I'm married but the sex side of things is somewhat lacking. So I am hoping to find a "F#*k buddy. As to the emotional side of things I don't know as I have been faithfull to my wife and would like to keep the marriage as she is really a wonderful person, just has no interest in sex anymore.

rm_jonseagull42 53M

3/13/2006 1:28 pm

Hi need
interesting point you mention. Can sex go without emotion? i really doubt it there is always a momentum in it. Its just that you learn some time in your live that you do not have to love someone to bits to get along with each other in bed. And the worst i think is to discover that i works out being even friends AND go to bed with without having a relationship together or being even in a relationship apart of it.
This idea messed me up at the beginning as well and still does. The whole thing is so complex that its meaning to everybody something different. What makes it even worse is that all of us seem to have different unique demands in closeness to our partners and how you deal with each other. Cutting out the freaks right at the beginning and counting only the people which are interesting enough not to book the time you spent with them as a complete waste.
Ive also met all different kind of women i would never ever have got to know outside the internet. And when you approach it unbiased leaveng the outcome open its always an adventure to get to know somebody new. Some i had only a coffee with and was glad to get away after it and may be vice versa in some cases. With some i had a good times in many different aspects, sex included or not. And with the few you get closer with might very well endanger your satisfactury existence as a lonesome rider or as a tied up herd animal. The fact that you got together on the intention of your mutual sexual interests and not just for pure luck within the society mix up game gives it a spin that might as well leave you breathless when the intellectual and emotional attraction go along with it.

Do you still get it sorted out?
I would never be so assured about it if you ever really unchain yourself to the last degree

rm_free2play88 49M
14 posts
3/14/2006 6:06 am

Hi needu. I've been married for about 13 years or so, sex with us is so great that we decided to explore futher with other people. Nothing was really done about it untill a friend approached my wife on the side ( it happens often, she's a sexy girl )this was the open door we were looking for. Well my wife has been fucking him for about seven odd years and the sex only seems to be getting better and at a more regular bases. At first it was scarry but after time our relationship has strengthened and has proven to be more solid than ever. One of the criteria is to be absolute honest and that is great, my wife shows me all the corresponding sms's. After about two years only did he find out that i knew about the relationship ( blew his mind ) but since fucks her more often as he does'nt have to do it behind my back.
I understand that it's not always possible to let all outa the bag as his wife has no idea that he's fucking arround, he has no idea that she's fucking arround and they would be horrified to find out about eachother. I find that a waste as those two can add a whole lotta more fun to their lives if they were more open and less stingy with one another.

Stereomuffking 38M
1 post
3/17/2006 2:02 am

Why is just so difficult just to find a female to have great sex with and then just leave it be? Does'nt any females have great hot steamy one night stands (protected off course)any more! Common there gota be someone out there that shares my view!

TooLittleFun 42M
57 posts
3/24/2006 5:15 am

I like to dance ! milonga ?

Toodela 60M
1747 posts
3/24/2006 8:06 am

Need, I agree with what you say. The emotional side gets very bumpy at times, but it is a great experience and I learn a lot, it just takes so much time and I also like to get to the point, so I loose interest if things linger too long. That's why *I TAGGED YOU* and that means you should look here toodela


Honor has not to be won; it must only not be lost.

~One Minute in Life~

rm_Magnet2Mind 54M

3/27/2006 1:55 am

Hi..I've been around for a few weeks and there are many valid comments above, especially those from Brasko and Stereomuffking. I am also in a marriage where I love my wife but her libido is near zero & declining. But, finding women on AdultFriendFinder who are able to look beyond the obvious and who are willing to put there money where there mouth is after issue a challenge to contact them, is a rare find. Something that another popular female blogger agrees with after chatting to her. So, what DO women want on AdultFriendFinder? I also find it interesting that the majority of SA women are standard members with little info about themselves...how do they access the profiles of would be candidates? And then they don't even respond to emails, even to put you out of your misery!!

Any other insights...maybe answers?


needu2play4fun 54F
63 posts
3/28/2006 12:20 pm

Magnet2mind iam on AdultFriendFinder purely to have fun ... married and divorced twice so definately not looking for a serious relationship and if you read my latest blog iam sure it would answer many of your questions ...

Why not drop me mail or call me on zero eight two five zero five triple three zero if you would like to see that there are indeed very genuine ladies on this site ...

honeypotza 49F

3/28/2006 12:53 pm

hi need i must agree with what u say..... dont waste ppls time.... either stand up to be counted or join thunderboltcity....lol.... im very new to all this but im finding it to be very rewarding... and as to the emotional issues... well i havnt had any yet....lol... but maybe because i have no restraints put on me.... and being a mature woman.... who doesnt have to worry about the past coming back to bite me on the ass.... i have the freedom to be who i am and do what i want.. with no regrets Its actually great to find a place that feels like home......yaya..... and to make contact with like minded ppl.... so heres to great fun and friendships..... and lots of great sex!

rm_Magnet2Mind 54M

3/29/2006 2:44 am

Hi need! Yes, your latest blog does shed much light on the subject & I'm glad for you...you have definitely become an icon of open mindedness on AdultFriendFinder (SA only?) and yes, I have taken time to learn the "tricks of the trade" here on AdultFriendFinder. I have actually met an amazingly like-minded woman with whom I am chatting with and hopefully will meet at the first available opportunity. Thank you for your invite, I will certainly keep it mind and I trust you will continue to play the great role you are playing in the blogging arena; I'll certainly pop in regularly. And to honeypotza...Go girl..that's the spirit!!!

Indulge_me101 55F

5/10/2006 2:00 am

Needu, thanks for sharing your thoughts with us babe. Yes, I do agree, emotions in relationships on here are very dangerous, but unfortunately we are all ppl, and not machines, so we cannot really devide those two. Even if u feel just lust for this other person, it is still an emotion, or when u feel disgust at a person it is an emotion nevertheless. The first man I started talking to while still so unsure, and insecure, and met afterwards got my emotions all running around I am afraid...lol...but I have learned in this process to let my lust\emotion just go.....like a wave.....let it get higher and higher....untill it dies down on the beach after a while. Oh believe me some waves just makes a ripple.....and dies down...and others take u to the highest of thrills.....untill it finally burst onto shore.....well spent.....lol....

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