Desperate Housewives  

needtoknowu1000 48F
225 posts
4/10/2006 7:48 am

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4/25/2006 12:58 pm

Desperate Housewives

I was kind of alarmed that Desperate Housewives wasn't on last night and Grey's Anatomy was a repeat. I dried my tears and painted our upstairs bathroom. It looks so good! Now I’m thinking about what electrical wiring I’m going to need to get done soon!

I’ve received dozens of emails, many from some really interesting people. In some cases people I want to definitely get to know. I try to answer email, but don’t have enough time to get it all done. If you’ve written me and haven’t heard back, don’t assume I’m not interested. I’m sure the volume of mail will die down when I’m not new anymore. Then I’ll be able to get back to everyone.

My husband was around all day yesterday and had me three times during the course of the day. It’s strange with him, he gets that way in bursts and then doesn’t seem to need much for a while. Of course, I do know how to turn him on any time I want to. When we were first married, we were all over it 24/7. It’s not the same now. I think we’ve had so much stimulation together we’ve past the point of no return.

When we make love, it’s awesome and we love each other dearly. I will always have him in my life, but I’m not absolutely positive we’ll always be married. At least not as far as the paperwork goes.

Since neither of us want to be mutually exclusive, would it be better to be divorced? We’re thinking that way dating around won’t seem so unconventional. People understand cheating, but few understand open marriage. Maybe open marriage does not work in this culture. Any thoughts on this anyone?

rm_WMG2424 45
15 posts
4/10/2006 8:33 am

Life is your choice...there must be a way to get the stimulation back to your a lover to him..not a wife!!!Men need a lover who can desire his sex life 24/7 and a good wife is just a bonus in mens' life!!!

rm_gorilla062 51M
232 posts
4/10/2006 8:36 am

OPen marriage works in most cultures.... harder in rural areas where everyone knows eveeryone but still attainable. As long as the married couple understands it who cares what eveyone else thinks.
Other option is keeping open know that one or the other may keep time in another town or city at times. How ever it works.
Splitting could mean a big change.. one or the other may get involved with another an fall in love again geting into another exclusive relationship with that person... then you could be with out the things you know all of the sudden....hope it helps

needtoknowu1000 48F

4/10/2006 9:50 am

It is kind of confusing right now. We love each other, but want to experience more of life as individuals. This culture isn't really wired for married dating.

FriendlyFuk66 51M

4/10/2006 5:27 pm

Divorce is a major step. There is a lot more involved than just your sexual independence. If you are able to split everything pretty evenly and don't have any children to worry about, than you may have an easier go of it. Personally I've found that splitting things evenly is very tough.
Hope you are happy with whatever you decide.

needtoknowu1000 48F

4/10/2006 6:09 pm

Oh, I'm just thinking of divorce so we're not "legally" married. We'd still live together and wouldn't have to split anything up. It's probably a silly idea. It's just like people have preconceived notions about married women who date.

Love_My_Toys 54M  
32 posts
4/11/2006 8:45 am

I think that there's a big difference between cheating on your spouse, which I define as going behind their back without their consent, and open marriage. Have you tried threesomes and foursomes? That could put some serious sparks back in your marriage while still being inclusive to all. Good Luck!

needtoknowu1000 48F

4/11/2006 9:11 am

Threesomes are a good idea and worth thinking about. That may just be a good way to get things heated up again. Thank you for your considerate suggestion.

creamonthisone 64M
4 posts
4/11/2006 10:14 am

It's up to the two of you, individually and together, to define your relationship. Nobody else. A piece of paper is just a pice of paper.
Live however you want to.
Don't worry about what anybody else may think.

Catharsis33 45M

4/11/2006 4:59 pm

My wife and I have been doing this for awhile and I could not think of life without her. If it came down to closing the relationship or divorce. I would close it without looking back. You two have to decide if you are in an open marriage to experience new things and share with your spouse or if you are looking for new experiences without your spouse.

My wife is the better one to ask about this sort of thing. Our couples account (the one she uses) is Bluejade2832. I am sure she could give you her opinion from the female's point of view.

needtoknowu1000 48F

4/11/2006 5:43 pm

We can't imagine ever being without each other either. Paperwork or not, our love is real; soul-love. I would love to get your wife's point of view Catharsis.

SirMounts 103M

4/25/2006 4:40 am

Well, going outside of the relationship makes it better for some. But for many if not most, it can turn into the first step toward ending it. Ask yourself what you really need, and you will have the answers to your questions.
Welcome to blogging, needtoknowu. *smiling*

needtoknowu1000 48F

4/25/2006 12:58 pm

He'll always be the big part of my life, paperwork or not; we're connected at the heart and there's not another man like him.

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