DOES A CONDOM REALLY TAKE A TON OF FEELING OUT OF SEX GUYS???  

needlickedsobad 49F
97 posts
2/13/2006 7:35 pm

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DOES A CONDOM REALLY TAKE A TON OF FEELING OUT OF SEX GUYS???

I DON'T HAVE A COCK OBVIOUSLY SO I WAS CURIOUS TO KNOW HOW MUCH FEELING DOES A GUY'S COCK LOSE WHEN WEARING A CONDOM??i PERSONALLY HATE THEM, BUT NO SEX IS WORTH DYING FOR EITHER, I MEAN I HAVE HAD SOME GOOOOOOD SEX TOO, STILL, NOT WORTH DYING FOR.I PREFER TO FUCK THE SAME PERSON FOR LONG PERIODS TO ASSURE SAFE SEX WITHOUT CONDOMS, THAT DOES NOT HAPPEN ALWAYS, SO CONDOMS IT IS. I JUST CAN'T IMAGINE HAVING TO LOSE A BUNCH OF FEELING IN MY PUSSY TO BE SAFE.HEY, I'M NOT CONDONING CONDOMS HERE, ALL I WANT TO KNOW IS IT REALLY A BIG DIFFERENCE WITH A CONDOM ON? ALSO, WOULD LIKE TO HEAR FROM YOU LADIES WHAT YOU THINK ABOUT CONDOMS? DO YOU MAKE STRANGERS WEAR THEM? IF NOT, WHAT MAKES YOU DECIDE THAT? AND IF SO, WHAT MAKES YOU DECIDE THAT? CAN YOU TELL IF SOMEONE HAS AIDS BY LOOKING AT THEM ? I HOPE WE ALL KNOW THE ANSWER TO THAT!! I HOPE EVERYONE ON HERE IS HAVING SAFE SEX.I MEAN IT'S THEIR CHOICE BUT IT SURE DOES SAVE A LOT OF PEOPLE FROM DYING IF YOU REALLY THINK ABOUT IT.IT SUCKS THAT IN OUR SOCIETY TODAY WE HAVE TO BE CAREFUL LIKE THAT OR DIE!!I MEAN WHO WANTS TO DIE THAT WAY, AND REALLY NOBODY EVER AGAIN SHOULD HAVE TO GET HIV WITH THE KNOWLEDGE THE WORLD HAS, BUT I HAVE NO CONTROL, SO I KNOW IT WILL CONTINUE.PLEASE , LADIES , MEN LET ME KNOW YOUR THOUGHTS ON CONDOMS PLEASE!! AND PLEASE HAVE SAFE SEX ON HERE, AND HAVE A GOOD TIME TOO!! HAPPY VALENTINES DAY TO ALL MY FELLOW AdultFriendFinder BUDDIES, AND EVERYONE ELSE AS WELL."ROCKIN'"




omahaboy2005 39M

2/15/2006 7:04 am

Did you see the question I posted a few days ago? I aske women a similar question. My wife and I don't need to wear condoms, but we do. The roll at the end of the condom hits her right in the clit. And she cums harder when I wear one. I have become a condom expert now. The Trojan warming condoms are really fun. The Durex Tingle are amazing. It is a cool sensation. Trojan makes Her Pleasure. It is a ribbed condom. My wife enjoyed it for that and it was a very thin condom so I noticed alot more sensation. Sensation wise it still feels good wearing a condom. I have noticed I do last longer wearing one.


needlickedsobad 49F

2/15/2006 6:45 pm

Very cool,I never would have looked at this this way without your knowledge and input, very cool to learn somrthing new ha ha!! Thanks very very much Omahaboy!!!


RedMenice 47F

2/16/2006 6:06 pm

I will tell you what a very nicely endowed man I was seeing at one point said when I asked him the same question....of how different it feels.
He said.....stick your finger in your mouth.....suck it.
Now......get a ballon (or condom)..stick your finger in said article and repeat gesture (sucking).....you'll notice a difference.
Now you should have some idea of the loss of sensation.
I was rather impressed with his ability to relate it.


rm_olim1243 48M
1 post
2/18/2006 12:27 pm

No doubt...it's just not as intense of a sensation.. for me at least.
Haven't tried all brands and types. Thanks for the info. on the ultra thin Trojans. I'll have to experiment.


needlickedsobad 49F

2/26/2006 11:14 am

HERE HERE THE WANT OF A SAFE REGULAR PARTNER HUH?? IT WOULD BE WONDERFUL REALLY, EVEN IF IT WAS JUST SEX, ANYMORE YOU GOTTA START FEELING THAT WAY.THANKS FOR THE COMMENTS GUYS, AND I DID CHECK OUT THAT FINGER THING , THERE IS A REASONABLE DIFFERENCE BUT ,LIKE I READ ABOVE, THE INTIMATE, WETNESS HEAT ,THING WOULD BE WHAT WOULD SUCK FOR ME...ON THE OTHER HAND IF A GUT CAN'T LAST,BUY SOME CONDOMS-I'VE NEVER REALLY HAD THAT PROBLEM, MY EX COULD STAY HARD ALL DAY,AND CUM WHENEVER HE WANTED, OH BUT WE WON'T THINK ABOUT THAT!! HA! LOL THANKS!


rm_camz74 55M

3/1/2006 4:22 pm

I myself cannot cum with a condom on and have been known to break a few trying to cumm. also its hard on the woman when she has had her orgasm or two or three by the time i get my condom on and inside ot rubs her pussy the wrong way and some girls can't hang to hold on for me to get off. I last long enough anyway and then to have to wear one stinks I will if asked but do not like them.


swiguy11 53M

3/6/2006 9:59 am

It's a respect issue... If she wants, I will. I also have regular check ups and don't sleep around! That helps to. I would have to agree though, I find it very hard to cum with one on. Staying power is not an issue, at least at this point in my life.


playfullcougar 61M

3/6/2006 2:43 pm

Here’s the deal on condoms. The Suck! Now that I have stated my option let me tell you I wouldn’t have sex with a new lady without one on! The problem is, you don’t put them on at the start of the love making, normally it is just before you enter. That means everything seems to stop; you have to find the darn thing, take it out of the package, and than try putting it on in the dark. You kind of loss a little of the excitement of the moment if you no what I mean. And yes a man losses the feeling of skin on skin. Even the orgasm is different, still pleasurable, however it’s like there is a cork in the end.

First make sure you have the right size condom. I have found that with the lady on top, and thrusting up rather than down it seems to help. Another suggestion is for the lady to help putting on the condom. This can be very pleasurable for both if done in a sexy way using fingers and lips. This will allow the excitement to continue to build and help the man feel less awkward. What to do with it when it’s over is another stressful time, ladies you can also help with removal in the same manor it really makes up for the loss of feeling and fun for everyone… Hope this helps


Serenityluv69 38F
2 posts
3/16/2006 8:38 pm

I just want to emphasize the extreme importance of wearing a condom. I work with people that because they were unsafe sexually have to pay for the rest of their lives. It is not worth your life for a little more pleasure. It can and will happen to those who are unprotected. There are many people in Omaha and in Nebraska who are HIV+ and who have AIDS that would tell you that if they could exchange their illness for that one moment of intensity they would. HIV/AIDS as well as STD's are very real.


needlickedsobad replies on 4/26/2006 12:00 pm:
THANKS SERENITY THE DANGER OUT THERE FOR UNPROTECTED SEX IS ALL TOO REAL, IT WORRIES ME SOOO MUCH I GO WITHOUT, AND I HAVE A 15 YEAR OLD I WORRY ABOUT EVERY DAY, THANKS FOR YOUR INPUT IT WAS SMART AND NEEDED!!!

silvereclipes2 51M

4/27/2006 10:40 pm

well i am of the mind that i will wear one till i know for sure if the woman i am with is safe. and i would do the same for her as well i get checked out regularly and i respect the woman i am with as well. as for feeling i agree its real trying time when i wear one too since i last longer then most do i am no longer a young buck any more and have learned how to keep it going till my partner is very well satisfied. and when i use one it takes forever and a day just to get to the point of no return but i would rather be safe then sorry and i would rather respect the woman i am with then give her any thing she didn't want as well that includes a baby not only a std.well i hope like needlickedsobad we all be safe when having fun.


rm_Vader69101 45M

5/10/2006 10:57 pm

Well heres my opinion they do take away sensation. But it better to be getting some while using them then to not be getting any. I will give up a little feeling. To keep me and my lady safe.


crazyhorse19682 50M
5 posts
5/25/2006 12:42 am

i can wear magnums,but lose some sensation,magnum xl is just right,maybe regular ones are just too damn tight,try a size bigger.


iaimtoopleeez 45M

6/17/2006 10:05 pm

A condom has dual effect on me...On one hand you loose some of the sensation particularly during the initial entry when the head of your dick is stimulated. The condom also cuts down on the warmth, wet sensation which drives me wild.

On the benefits side...It (the condom) acts somewhat like a cock ring. I'm not the thickest guy in the world, but I'm ample enough where the ring provides a stimulating effect.

The benefit really depends and is inconsistent. I've had some of the best orgasms ever while wearing a rubber, and I've also gone so long that the girl gets worn out.


rm_camz74 55M

10/19/2006 9:35 pm

yes all in all condoms suck but iwear one all the time unless i have been with my partner long enough to really care. But the one thing i don't understand is everyone has oral but yet you want the man to wear a condom during actual intercourse. explain the difference to me


ThickAndFilling 43M

10/27/2006 1:15 am

The key is knowing and trusting who you are with, starting with a good friendship. I personally dont like condoms as they do detract from feeling, which I have been told from the womans perspective also takes away from feeling my cock definition, until I swell more right before I cum. So I think the totter teaters both ways on this one.


gotcathavetongue 48M
1 post
11/6/2006 8:16 pm

they dont ruin everything, but do take away some of it.... think of it like giving a guy head... your WET mouth is felt.. its not just the tongue and lips.... but the moisture that gets me writhing... and its the same below... not that i dont use condoms.... i too prefer longer relations, and am a bit choosy in the kind of person i like to be with ....

one thing i never have tried, but did once send for samples of.... female condoms.... just had to see what they were about..... only 5-6 inches deep... big enough to wrap around a popcan..... and you have to put lube in it to make it work better..... id worry about getting it stuck in the woman.... but it is an idea that i like.... giving both sides the ability to give for the take....

on a serious note relating to the dieing issue.... when is the pharmacutical companies gonna get their heads out of their asses. there is 1% of humankind that is immune to the AIDS virus. it is due to a deformity in the C4 white blood cell. one of the nodes to attach to pathogens; the one the AIDS virus uses to infect the C4 cell. when AIDS enters one of these peoples bodies the C4 cant be infected and thus cause a spiralling geometrically increasing advancement to total infection. with this stall on the diseases progress, the C8 white blood cell is released to perform its duties. the C8 is capable of handling the problem, but is not an "always on call" white blood cell. from talking with a few professionals in the medical industry, my idea of creating a retro-genetical virus to produce the same deformity in all humans is worth a try. or maybe just a drug to hinder the production of C4's and induce C8's..... damn they should do something for all the infected.. and all of us others living in fear ..... NO this is not all bullshit... check your old issues of popular science, scientific american, and whatever else ive read just to keep learning ...... and if ya wanna argue they are doing the best they can??? in my early years of college my botany teacher, who wasnt just interested in teaching us of botany, showed us a cure they had..... just like any other disease... an injection of dead virus cells will allow the body to work out a way to kill the virus should it show up alive..... problem was... if just one lil fucker was alive..... it worked the other way....


rm_Ptalk1155 35M
3450 posts
11/7/2006 11:56 am

Depends on the type of condom, some of the ones with the ridges and other stuff have additional sensations which sort of balance the lack of sensation from the condom itself. Better to be safe than sorry either way. And, the reduced stimulation certainly can help a guy's stamina.


SeekBiFem4mffLTR 59M/58F
60 posts
11/13/2006 5:13 am


You've visited my blog, so I thought I'd come take a look at yours.

On this particular topic I have a few things to say. First, for me, without a condom it can take me more than an hour to come. With one, never, not at all.

But the feeling is only one issue. We enjoy sex which mixes PIV with oral, cum with pussy juices, ya just can't have that with a condom. Things like having one woman ride my cock while another sits on my face, and then after we cum, trading places. Now that might be warped, but I like it, and condoms would just ruin that experience, and quite a few others.

Finally, I know I am odd in this, but I do find the very act of cumming inside a woman and knowing that my cum is in her to be very intimate and satisfying, not at all the same as cumming in a balloon.

Now, you have to look at the real risks involved and to what degree condoms mitigate those risks. I do think people in the swinging community like to fool themselves into believing a condom allows otherwise totally dangerous activity such as having sex with dozen strangers at a party, safe.

First lets consider the disease that seems to frighten people the most, AIDS. Wearing a condom reduces the risk of transmission to between 3% and 10% of what it would be without a condom. It does not, contrary to popular opinion, totally eliminate the risk.

Now lets look at some specific sex acts. Receptive anal sex with an infected person has around a 1-in-6 chance of transmitting AIDS to the recipient. If the person receiving is infected and the other person is not, the odds of transmission is around 1-in-20, and this is if there aren't other diseases present, but having other diseases increases the chance of AIDS transmission.

Receptive vaginal sex on the other hand, in the absence of other diseases and in the absence of an African practice known as "dry sex", in which an irritant is introduced into the vagina to discourage lubrication, with an infected male, has a chance of transmission between 1-in-200 and 1-in-1000. Transmission from male to female is around 1-in-10000.

So having receptive anal sex with an infected partner with a condom has between a 1-in-60 and 1-in-180 chance of transmitting AIDS to the recipient, which is worse than vaginal sex without a condom. In the reverse direction, anal sex with a condom is far worse than vaginal sex without.

There are a number of reasons for this, among them is the fact that the vagina is lubricated and under normal conditions you do not have the tearing and direct exposure to the blood stream that results from anal sex. Second, the vagina has a layer of another type of cell that the rectum lacks, that provides additional protection against transmission. The vagina also has some immune system responses not present in the rectum.

Why I bring this up is because many people who will not have vaginal sex without a condom will gladly have anal sex with one even though the actual risk is greater.

Then you have to consider what the risk of actually having sex with an infected partner is. One thing to know, the risk of having sex with an infected partner is directly proportional to the number of partners you have sex with. If you have sex with 100 people, your chances of having had sex with someone who is infected is ten times greater than if you had sex with ten. So increasing the number of parties by a factor of 10x to 30x undoes all the protection a condom provides verses having unprotected sex with one.

Then, what is the actual AIDS prevalence in your area, and is the person you are having sex with in a high risk or low risk group?

Here in King County, the prevalence of aids is .2%, that is 1-in-500 people are infected. Of those half are homosexual even though homosexuals only account for between 3% and 10% of the population. This means the prevalence in the heterosexual population is actually around 1-in-1000.

But, even that isn't an even distribution, about half of those infections is in black people, even though they are here about 10% of the population.

Of the heterosexual population, the majority who are infected are either intravenous drug users, partners of intravenous drug users, or partners with someone who has receptive anal sex.

You can gain a lot more in terms of safety by knowing AIDS prevalence and distribution, avoiding high risk partners, and limiting the number of partners, than condoms will provide. But of course condoms combined with those precautions will provide even more protection.

Moving on to other nasty diseases, Herpes infects between 25% and 50% of the adult population. Exact numbers aren't known because many people infected with Herpes will remain asymptomatic.

Because outbreaks happen in locations other than the penis and vagina, condoms provide minimal protection against Herpes transmission. The only effective protection is not to have sex with an infected person.

HPV, there are 102 known strains of HPV, only three of them are known to cause medical problems, two can cause cervical and prostate cancers, and a third causes genital warts. The other 99 strains aren't known to cause any symptoms or disease. There is now a vaccine that protects against the three dangerous strains.

Hepatitis is another disease that can be spread sexually, but it can also be spread non-sexually and again condoms don't provide real effective protection. Exposure to fecal matter is a larger risk. I've heard there is now a vaccine available for this as well.

Other sexually transmitted disease are largely bacterial and can be treated with antibiotics. Not necessarily pleasant but generally not life threatening.

Given that I don't like condoms, for all the reasons I've stated above, I take other precautions which include limiting the number of partners I have (I have had a total of four in my 48 years and of those four only two did I have penetrative sex with more than twice and on a regular ongoing basis, and that is my wife, to whom I've been married for almost 30 years now, and the woman that lived with us for a couple years, and that was during the era when AIDS hadn't really gotten widespread in the general population yet. It's been almost twenty years since she was with us and I've had no outside sex since.

Now, we want to find a bi-female to join us, and we want someone who is low risk going in and willing to commit to a closed long-term relationship. If we're successful at finding someone, then my total sexual partner count will be five and with again, a closed relationship, one involving three people instead of two, but still closed.

You contrast that with someone in the swinging community having regular anal sex, and my chances of being infected without a condom is far less than theirs with.

But, the reality is even worse than that. I have done surveys of the swinging community here on AdultFriendFinder and found condom usage was only 50%, I did a similar survey on the OpenMindedAdults mailing list and found the same thing, approximately 50%. There were even women there who participated in gang bangs at parties, claimed to have sex with 30 men in four hours, and they did not use condoms, and so far they've managed to escape infection. Now, in their case, the particular club they were members of required testing once a month and required the more expensive PCR test that can detect infection within a few days of seroconversion, where the cheaper antibody test may not detect HIV presence for as long as three months after seroconversion. I suppose if you can afford to spend a couple hundred on testing every month, that is at least minimizing the risk of HIV, but does little to protect against the litany of diseases not tested for.

In conclusion, while condoms offer some additional protection, you can reduce your risk much further through other behavioral modifications. You have to decide what is important to you and what level of risk you are willing to accept.

For many people on AdultFriendFinder, having sex with many people, most of whom they do not know well, is important to them, and in that context then you want every protection you can have, including condoms. For many people here, being able to actually cum inside a woman's body, being able to have the juices mix and enjoy it orally, is not important, and for many people here, premature ejaculation which is aided by the reduced sensitivity condoms afford, is far more common than delayed ejaculation that condoms aggravate, so for those people condoms don't represent much of a sacrifice, a minor inconvenience and a loss of spontaneity is about all.

For me, having sex with a large number of people is neither important or even desired. I prefer having sex in a loving relationship and I prefer emotional stability that comes with stable relationships. So limiting partners is not a sacrifice for me. But being able to do the things I enjoy sexually is important to me, being able cum at all, is important to me, and being able to enjoy it fully when I do is important to me, so for me condoms are an unacceptable form of protection. Sex becomes un-enjoyable to the point where I'd rather not have it at all than have it with a condom.

So I do other things to reduce the risks. I'm not against people using condoms if they want to, but I will not and if someone won't have sex with me because of that, odds are good that they're living a high risk lifestyle and should be avoided anyway. I'm not trying to carve notches in my bedpost so that's fine.

All I need to find is one bi-female willing to commit to a closed long term relationship with barrier free sex and I'm set for life or at least as long as the relationship lasts.

My wife and I have been together for thirty years, in spite of being married as teenager, because we are open and honest with each other and communicate well, we love and we respect each other.

If we can find a bi-female who shares those qualities, I'm sure we can have a relationship that will be stable in the long term.


rm_rthomas68 49M

3/4/2007 5:48 am

If both partners are clean, and you only want to prevent pregnancy I HIGHLY suggest the Ramses Naturalamb condoms.

They are expensive as heck, at about 3-4 dollars a pop, but they warm up, are wet and slippery, and you don't even notice they are on.

They do NOT stop STDs, only sperm. Oh man do they feel GOOD!

I always use a condom when not in a relationship, and I use a lot of gel. So if I am to the point where I need to come but cannot with the condom on, I pull out, pull it off, put on some lube and go manual. Some girls love to to have you sit on their chest, whip off, and shoot on their face, or ask her to do it for you...


BruteCiderMonad 60M
2 posts
3/18/2007 5:58 pm

I don't really mine. I get the really good feeling from getting oral. So when it comes to the putting on the condom. I'm ready to give it to you. You take care of me I will take care of you.

Ken


Billybam69 65M

2/16/2008 7:49 pm

Some condoms tend to cut off circulation, actually acting like a cock ring in a way. But that also reduces some sensations. A properly fitting condom initially doesn't quite feel the same, but a few drops of a lubricant like Astroglide inside the condom and things start feeling just fine real quick.


Finding69here 44M/47F
4 posts
4/26/2008 12:03 am

I think that as long as the partners have a long lasting relationship that it's fine without them. If you should have a third partner in your relationship and they are there for the long haul....there shouldn't be a need for it. However, if it's a fling or on a few occassions only...you should.


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