Today I Realized how Lucky I Am...  

mysticdreamangel 62F
1119 posts
7/11/2006 4:19 pm

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Today I Realized how Lucky I Am...

Working as a Paralegal in a law firm I see and hear a lot of sad things, but today along came a case that touched me more than most.

My specialty is bankruptcy and foreclosure and the firm I work for handles both sides of the fence. The hardest is the regular people, no different then you and I, just in too deep financially. I have jokingly said that I feel like a Paralegal/Psychologist...sad thing is they don't offer Psychology classes in college for Paralegals.

Today a gentleman came in to file for bankruptcy. Nicely dressed, good job, very articulate…you know the kind of guy that you would think had the world on a string.
The attorney and I looked at each other questioning why he was here and then the story started to unfold. I, of course, cannot give details but this is approximately how it went.

Up until three months ago he lived in the South, was married and had one child. Having a secure life he invested in rental properties which paid off handsomely at first. He thought he had the perfect life. Guess what…he didn’t! Wife announced she wanted a divorce…okay he thought, I can make it through that and then Katrina hit. Being the kind hearted man that he is, he contacted the government and said he had vacancies in his rental properties and he brought in families that were victims of the hurricane. Now here is the kicker…the government has not paid him the rent owed since they moved in. Needless to say he could not keep up with the expenses and now all four properties are in foreclosure.

Just when he thought things had hit rock bottom he got a call from his first wife with whom he had three children with. Yes…the kids were healthy but she needed him closer because something had happened to one of the girls. She wouldn’t go into detail on the phone so he flew to where they lived to find out his 15 year old daughter had been . Good news is they caught the SOB and he is jail. Bad news, they just found out a few weeks ago that she is pregnant!

All of his life savings is now gone…high child support which he is not complaining about; money owed by the government, but at what expense…the lose of his rental properties; working in one state while he has 4 children…one in a state far away and three others in a state close to him, but not in the same state where he was transferred to be closer to his daughter in her time of need.

Once he was finished talking you could have heard a pin drop in the room. The attorney and I couldn’t even look at each other. I knew if I look him in the eye the tears would start. All I could do is take notes and try to keep myself in control.

At the end of the meeting, he rose and shook our hands…smiled broadly and thanking us for helping him, but you know what…it was the attorney and I that should have been thanking him. All the complaining I do, day in and day out, about how unfair life is has got to stop! This man in one 45 minute meeting had an effect on me that few have ever had. No matter how tough things are there is always someone who has it tougher and yet can still smile in the face of adversity.

Our time with this gracious man will be spent in helping him get back on his feet, but in the end, it is he that helped, I at least, get back on track. Will I thank him…you bet…because today I realized how lucky I am!

FrogsDefogMenta 64M  
84 posts
7/11/2006 7:30 pm

Life certainly can throw curve balls and toss you on the roller coaster of uncertainty, loss, frustration and utter dismay. So many of us, me included, take so much for granted, at times, until an event changes ones perpective on what we really do have, being more important than what we don't have. Some things are not replacable(in absolute)but substituded as best can be,
my "life" lesson came with the passage of my dear and loving wife, partner, confidant, and mentor... I, with her "spiritual" guidance am starting to realize how truely lucky I am to be here and have what I have.
My feelings go out to this individual and may he continue to move forward, head high,knowing that tommorrow is another day to smile, to cry, to learn, to BE.
I remain,

mysticdreamangel replies on 7/11/2006 8:30 pm:
Again...I have been fortunate to meet a man like you!

Sweet dreams my friend,


kenlpn2 60M  
31 posts
7/12/2006 11:58 am

Hi Kit, Once again the beautiful person that you are is visible to all. Don`t ever change, you truly are refreshing...Ken

mysticdreamangel replies on 7/12/2006 3:19 pm:
Thank for one should know that I don't take compliments well...but thank you...xo

kenlpn2 60M  
31 posts
7/13/2006 8:49 am

OK Kit, That was my response from the heart, on the analytical side. The hardships we undergo in life are relative to our experiences. I`ve actually upset people because of the upbeat demeanor I usually present. Not that I don`t have problems or concerns, but after dealing with death and dying for 30 years, they manifest themselves in a different manner. I take nothing for granted, even the cool glass of milk from the refrigerator! This guy on the other hand is truly a victim, and is truly worthy of national attention and the response of the people. He`s been dealt an injustice. As to his daughter? My god, I couldn`t even begin to relate. Not knowing the circumstances, my initial impulse would be one of vengeance and retribution. Every parent feels the need to protect their children, failing that.....? No blame on his part for sure, but think he`s in a mental hell. If I`m in a position to assist in some way, let me know.......Ken

curvymeli 40F

7/13/2006 11:07 pm

Thanks for sharing this story, it's a sad but beautiful reminder for all to stop taking things for granted and to be compassionate towards others.

mysticdreamangel replies on 7/14/2006 4:47 am:
Your welcome and thanks for the response!

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