Older, Younger,Older, Younger, ummm help!!  

JeersPilarSaver 36F
1726 posts
4/23/2006 7:00 pm

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5/3/2006 8:19 pm

Older, Younger,Older, Younger, ummm help!!

ok, now im completely understand why women mostly choose older man than man
of the same age as ours.

i had no idea at all about what its like or whats the difference between man of my age (im 25 this year) and older man. i think, nah...i wont be that difference right?
the only relationship that i had in my life was with a man in same age with me, so u can see that i never care about the age.
but...if im looking back to where i was bfore in that relationship, i can see that my relationship at that time was childish. and im not proud of it.
but its just that i never think that mostly men of my age will react that way. no, never think like that at all. then i've dated some older man and without relating to past relationship, i think...woww, some men r just know how to treat a woman. i never met any men of my age anymore. usually, at least i met 2 yrs older than me and that man also very good at treat a woman.

until one day i met this man of my age. yeah he's only couple days older than me.interesting right. what attract me first was his smile in his pic although its not too clear. yeah, great smile from a man will always make me melt.
then we exchange email. and i thought...wow, this man have same interest with me. and its so fucking hard to know a man that have same interest in me.
we agree to meet. we also exchange lots of messages about our desire. i think this would be good, for the sex..of course.
the day when we meet...i think hmm, this man have wild side that need to be brought out hehehe. im excited but then...god, he remind me of my ex so much. i mean from the attitude side, the way he treated woman..arghhhhhhhh!!!!!!

the sex was okay.but he didnt even try to please me , or at least keep his words about what he already told me to. he wanna spent couple days with me and i agree. i had lots of plan to do to him (in sex, of course ) i even prepared some naughty things for him cuz i really wanna see his wild side but he just ruined it all. he ruined it all just bcuz he wanted to go out with his friends.
hahahaha that made me laugh,eventhough its right. god...i met quite a few man from AdultFriendFinder and there's always some men that made me shocked.
like i said many times...all i need is the truth. u dont like or click with me..just said it. u dont feel the chemistry..just tell me. im perfectly fine.

so i ask to my girl friends, i ask to my parents, i ask to younger men, i ask older man, i ask my colleagues, i even ask my gyno doctor...and they all said one thing: a girl usually more mature than a man if their age is same. men's mind usually will think younger than his age. thats why most girl prefer with older man, bcuz their mind will at least think the same thing. do u understand my explanation?? hahahahaha i hope so. but again like i said not all men of my age act that way. just mostly
i get it now...

i dunno...i just never learn i think. but maybe i'll be more careful from now on.
Disappointed?? yes, of course cuz that man had no idea what i'd do so we can met. Regret?? no, we have a bit good time. im glad he made me more aware now, in some way.

end of word, i have great and nice experience, also the not-too-good one. well, thats a part of meeting people right??

(anyway, thanks mr.blindfolds for one fine day really appreciate it, n thanks for covering me with blanket that nite)

ps. i welcome any comment or critics or more explanation since i need to learn more

prettyrick26 35M
1 post
4/23/2006 7:40 pm

hey beatuiful i feel where u r coming from because one mess it up 4 all i cant say im different cause i dont know how he is.but i have an intress in u so if ur up 4 conv just holla!lol!

rm_LilBlondeNZ 41F
1028 posts
4/23/2006 7:46 pm

Personally, my rule last summer was not to date anyone younger than 40. Everytime I broke it for some "hot young stud" or someone I thought I would have a lot in common with because we were close in age, I usually ended up disappointed.

I think guys don't realise until they are older how rare a tuly good woman is; someone who's attractive on the inside as well as the outside. I think it takes time to experience things and find out what's important in life. At 25, watching pay per view boxing at the bar with the guys is an event not to be missed. At 35-40+, you've been there, done that, and crave more from life than a hangover. Older men often have been married once already or maybe have had more long term relationships and have the benefit of looking back on all the mistakes they made.

Those mistakes become the basis for better decisions in the future and different priorities. You then become the beneficiary of the experience gained by all the women they previously disappointed so you're less likely to be "that girl"... the one all dressed up with nowhere to go, the one waiting by the phone, the one being awoken by some dumbass calling at 1 am for a booty call after blowing you off the previous week, etc...

So personally prefered older men for that reason, and had little patience for the annoying crap most 25ish men have to offer. Resulting, I'm very happy now with someone almost 9 years my senior, and I'm 30 last month.

But to each her own...

rm_LoyalCumpany 47M
3204 posts
4/23/2006 8:19 pm

I have no idea what the guy above me said. So I'll post a male view, since that's what I know best.

Yep, older guys are the way to go. 35ish, skinny, smartasses, living in Arizona, U.S.... great guys to be with.

Seriously, as we get older, the majority of men get less afraid of commitment. I could be completely clueless about other cultures and still be willing to back that statement up. Most guys, if they haven't already, get the urge to settle down somewhere between their late 20's and up, maybe, depending on their culture and religion. Women get the urge earlier. You just have to find the right balance.

I am JoJo the Circus Boy!

JeersPilarSaver 36F

4/23/2006 8:25 pm

dear prettyrick26
i hope ure really are different

dear LIBlonde97
wow...that kind of explanation that i need. yeah i think ure right...sometimes men r a bit late to realize everything. im very happy for u now. and thank u

JeersPilarSaver 36F

4/23/2006 8:54 pm

dear loyalcumpany
hahahaha promoting ureself??
heyy ure right...thats what i mean...women tend to get the urge to settle down earlier...hmmm....so what we can do with younger men is just for fun??? hahahaha kidding! thanks anyway...that help me a lot!

SecretFuns99 42M

4/24/2006 12:45 am

Ladies you r right. Most man also tend to look younger woman. But I do know, some men really into older women, I guess they need to be guided (may be first at sex than later in.. life ? hehe).

As I understand it, biologically women is getting older faster than men too. Especially when the couple have more than 1 children. WOuld you agree ?

JeersPilarSaver 36F

4/24/2006 4:11 am

dear secretfuns99
yeah i got it now..well, a bit sucks right hhehhehehe!

rm_LoyalCumpany 47M
3204 posts
4/24/2006 6:28 am

Hi again mystic, thanks for your post on my blog. My promoting myself worked, didn't it?

For women, younger guys are candy. Older men are a whole meal. Bad analogy, but close enough.

I am JoJo the Circus Boy!

JeersPilarSaver 36F

4/24/2006 7:20 pm

dear loyalcumpany
hahaha yeah it worked

hotrodder1949 68M
7 posts
4/25/2006 8:05 pm

As and older man Thank you.
I have dated ladys who are my age who have gone out with much younger men and said yes they were good in bed but it was just sex. As these ladys put it. It was get in bed pump away for a few min. Orgasum get up and leave for the young stud. Not caring about what the woman needs.
I think with and older man they take there time and treat a woman with respect not like a cheap slut. We try to make a woman have as much plasure as he can. I know as for me I enjoy seeing a woman getting aroused as I peform oral on her as part of 4 play. From what these woman have told me is they want the woman to do oral on them but they won't do it on them.
Another thing is that most younger guys arnt willing to take there time. There Idea is Sex on a first date or hit the road. One lady said she went out for dinner at a place about 50 miles away with a guy who was about 10 years younger then her. As they were having dinner the guy started talking about sex. She told him that she did not belive in having sex on a first date. He looked at her you must be kidding. She said no. This guy went into a rage saying who did she think she was. He then said I don't take a bitch out to dinner unless I am going to get some. He then marched out and left her there and the bill.
I can't speak for all older men but as for me I like making love to a woman. Its not just sex. My thing is for the lady to get as much plasure and hopefully and orgasum before me.

JeersPilarSaver 36F

4/25/2006 9:36 pm

dear hotrodder1949
well thank u so much for appreciate woman the way u did. yeah i agree with u..the example what u write above about younger men take out woman for dinner happen a lot, im sure!
but again,like i said, although some of young man good in bed, but not all!! and im also sure that not all older man can appreciate women they way u do
yeah...it makes me understand more and more..thank u again!


AkuStrong 50M
1 post
4/29/2006 8:44 am

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JeersPilarSaver 36F

4/29/2006 10:28 pm

dear akustrong
thanks for the offer!


5/3/2006 11:18 am

As an older man i just want to get back what i give in bed.Yes some older women want a younger man in bed because they hit thier sexual peak arond 35-40 and they only want a younger guy cause they raised the kids did the housework ,was the happy homemaker and the the man who starved herof affection for so many years split.So now a man in the same age range can't get a chane to enjoy a woman his age cause in the back of her mind he remindes her of ex-hubby so no go .Well then we a left to search for the younger females and in doing so we have to compete with the young studs for a woman.Most young girls would gag at the thought of being with a younger (the crew would belittle her) but when a younger female finally goes to a older man she finds someone who is more paitient,and concerned about making sure she is satisfied .We have to do it right if we want a return meeting with her again.plus we like to lay in bed and talk an only because a younger man can "reload" fast ,but with an older man ....we last longer cause we do have to be in before dark..!

JeersPilarSaver 36F

5/3/2006 8:19 pm

hmm interesting explanation...
this whole thing become more and more clearly now
thank u

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