What is it with men????  

mylittlesecret04 41F
36 posts
7/15/2006 7:14 pm

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What is it with men????

This is probably going to end up being a Male bashing blog, so if you are a man & get offended easily you might not want to read this!!

What is it with men? Yes this is a SEX SITE...I totally understand that, but I know that not everyone on here is only looking for sex! Don't get me wrong, I love sex & having lot's of it...but that is not all that I am after. I would like to meet a man & get to know him to see where things could lead.

I know that I am rambling, but my point is-I am a nice person & maybe a little to trusting. I believe someone when they tell me that they feel like they have a connection with me & would like to see where things can go with us. All the text messages that told me how much I was wanted, etc. ALL BULLSHIT!! I also believed all the other crap that I was told, and because I am nice person I decided to continue talking to you (YOU KNOW WHO YOU ARE)! Then come to find out all you wanted was a good FUCK! Why not be up front about it to begin with...it would have changed things, and maybe it wouldn't have happened..but the feelings would not have been there!

So for all you Men (and women that do it too) why not be honest...you won't hurt someone if you are. Yes, you might not get that specific piece of ass-but you will meet someone that only wants SEX like you do...especially on this site. There are some of us that want more...so all I am asking is keep that in mind!


7/15/2006 8:01 pm

Let me know if you find the answer to this one darlin'. I've been wondering this myself.

RocketMan_Len 53M
2325 posts
7/15/2006 8:06 pm

Some of us aren't like that...

timberwolf6972 45M

7/15/2006 8:11 pm

Sorry about your luck sweetie. I think we all go through similar things. We just have to be a little more selective with who we deal with. I'm not saying that I don't trust people but whenever possible I try to double check their stories. I don't think that it's any one particular sex that does these things the most. I happen to know for a fact that females lie, cheat and take advantage of people the very same way that men do women. I try to to start everyone that I meet with a clean slate and not judge them for what the one or two before them did or didn't do. It becomes increasingly harder to trust people when bad things keep happening but you have to keep trying or you might not trust the ones that are honest and miss out on a potentially good thing. Once again, sorry about your luck, mine is no different and I wish you luck in your search. {=}

amoldenough 71F
16436 posts
7/15/2006 8:28 pm

I'm sorry you had a bad experience and I truly hope it is the only one you have. LFLeks said it best, they are not all like that. I have met several very nice men here. Unfortunately, we all live so far apart that we can only be friends.

"Don't cry because it's over; smile because it happened."

DaireC 32F

7/15/2006 8:37 pm

You know what, girl i totally feel you.

Djeeper1987 48M

7/15/2006 8:48 pm

Well said. I sometimes get confused as to what I want. However there is more to life than sex.
Good Post!!

Carpe Diem

Cowboy_Deluxe 39M

7/15/2006 8:49 pm

You call those who don't look for something more than just sex men?

Okay I'm confused as well!

rm_Pervy_Nudist 53M

7/15/2006 9:07 pm

SEX...what the hell is THAT
I would like to think it would be nice to meet someone in one of these kinda sites however I am more realistic in my thinking than most. There are too many expectations involved...and as you have pointed out a lot of horseshit (to paraphrase of course) on both sides of the isle.
Maybe I too will meet someone...an artist would be great. Someone who likes to dub around and be a kid but also somewhat serious and way more than halfway intelligent. Doesn't seem to be to much of that happening here @ AdultFriendFinder but there is always that possibility that someone may peek through and say hello...never know.
Anyway...good luck and hang in there. I hope you find what you are seeking.
As a pessimistic optimist I am not dissapointed when things do not work out though I always hope they will...weird, I know.

Be Well - Wolf

mylittlesecret04 41F
4 posts
7/16/2006 12:50 am

Thank you all for your comments...I really was expecting some mean ones. I could tell by one comment that there was some confusion. Let me clarify what I am saying. I am not saying men are the only ones that are only looking to get laid-so they feed you with some crap, just to get you in bed! I am sure that there are women that do the same thing. I was just wanting to get the point across that alot of people are on this site to find more than just someone to have sex with. They are looking for relationships....so just keep that in mind, and be honest. Everyone has feelings!

TXhorneyhusband 61M

7/18/2006 5:25 pm

If you want to understand men, re-read the reply from 1HARDAZZ. Once you understand that ALL men are like that you'll feel better. Men are simple...........now just image how it feels to be a man trying to understand a women!

I've met some great people here, and have had a lot of fun. Yes.....every once in awhile I meet someone who is less than honest with me (like women who have bigger dicks than me), but they are just a few. I've kept in contact with a lot of people from here from a lot of different places.

Don't worry, things will get better......but then again...I'm a man so you shouldn't trust me anyway!

MasterLoPhat 44M
1 post
7/26/2006 6:35 pm

I have to agree with 1HARDAZZ. At the same time, he is speaking "in general." So the average man fits 1HARDAZZ's description. However, there are also many men who fall outside of the average, both on the nice side and the extremely predatory side. But commenting on the whole Mars vs. Venus thing, many men also have to learn, just as women can't be too trusting of men, so men can't be too nice to women. You have to have a little of that predatory nature to be considered a "real man." So, as much as I lament your bad experience, in my opinion, it's part of learning the game that is dating.

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