Simple things that feed denial  

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4/20/2006 5:45 pm

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Simple things that feed denial

"Everything that happens happens as it should, and if you observe carefully, you will find this to be so."
- Marcus Aurelius

I went to a friend with some questions about this dilemna and I will keep my comments private out of respect to all involved. To say that there are a ton of details missing from my series of questions would be a bold-faced lie.

Q: I tell her I love her and it seems she thinks I don't want her.
She wants the truth, I give it to her - then she says she can forgive if I was honest.
She says I never loved her -- all i do is think of her.

I am not a loser, I could have almost any woman I want ... what the fuck am I doing wrong except failing to give up trying?


A: Life doesn't always seem fair at first, but when you take an honest look you'll see things happen the way they do for a reason. I don't think the anger or self-doubt or frustration has anything to do with your real feelings. It is more of a reflection of what you think she's doing wrong. Seeing the same insecure questions and hearing allegations born from jealousy or imagination makes it more obvious to the both of you. Unfortunately, we can't make a relationship work with only one side willing to fix it. Don't wait for her to tell you whether you have a relationship or not. Your life is in your hands. If you're not happy with the way things are, say so. If she's not willing to get back together or help fix the problems you both are experiencing, initiate the choice yourself and get closure before you say goodbye. You have had enough time with this woman, but it doesn't mean that people don't change. You can love the woman she used to be, but don't confuse that with the woman she is now.

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