Feb. 14th (of all days): It Begins  

mjtrcc 54M
93 posts
2/22/2006 4:52 pm

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Feb. 14th (of all days): It Begins

e-mail to friends entitled "All Good Things..."

There's just no easy way to do this.

D (initials used here for privacy) and I have decided to end our 14 year marriage.

The end came during dinner Tuesday night - quietly, poignantly, tenderly. As many of you know, D and I have been struggling for some time. We had hoped that moving to Florida and being together more as a family after a year of work-enforced separation would strengthen our marriage, but instead it revealed just how badly things had deteriorated.

I know you have questions. Let me try to answer some of the most obvious ones:

Yes, J has been told. We told her while out for a walk Sunday night, so that the house wouldn't forever trigger a painful memory. She was upset, of course, but has come to realize that very little will change for her.

No, this is not a result of infidelity or abuse. In fact, D and I have been getting along better since Tuesday than we have in a very long time. We started together as best friends, and are committed to rebuilding that friendship.

Yes we have agreements in principal over distribution of property, support and visitation, all of which will remain private. We came to these agreements easily with great respect and concern for the other's well-being, and none of the rancor that has puncutated even our most trivial conversations for months.

We will file with the court in May, once D can prove six months residency. We hope for your best wishes and prayers during this difficult transition, and both wish very much to remain in all of your lives.

rm_PurryKitty2 49M/51F
9753 posts
2/22/2006 5:26 pm

I wish you both well....

Purry {=}


angelofmercy5 60F
17881 posts
2/22/2006 5:38 pm

Sorry to hear that. But it sounds like you are both acting like adults and thinking of one another as well as your children. It will all work out...and hopefully you will remain friends. Thats all you can really hope for. And I'll be following your transition as I may be doing the same thing myself in the near future. Best of luck to you both.

mjtrcc 54M

2/22/2006 7:32 pm

Thanks for the support, Angel.

piamatter 45F

2/23/2006 12:08 pm

I ve been trying to get my husband to come to terms with the big D. He s still in denial though. Best wishes for your family to work out this new phase of life.


mjtrcc 54M

2/23/2006 12:31 pm

Thanks for the support, Pia. D had her year where she wanted out, but I didn't, then two years later, I wanted out, but she didn't. The fact that we both want it at the same time, that we don't feel so much sadness as relief, and that I'm excited that her new boy toy makes her giddier than I ever did, makes me feel that this is the right time. I hope you can come to the same conclusion with your hubby, but in the end, you must look out for you and what will allow you to find the joy I hope you feel you deserve.

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