Get Drunk!...and Get Fucked!  

misterme1960 57M
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4/26/2006 8:24 am

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Get Drunk!...and Get Fucked!

A couple that is very close to me seems to have the perfect marriage....Their kids are wonderful, beautiful house, successful business.

But in the past 3 years a part of the wife has surfaced that I have never seen before. She has always drank everyday, but now she gets drunk and dosen't even remember things she does. This couple is so trusting of each other and she is so naive! She ends up getting taken advantage of by perfect strangers that she calls friends.

I've tried to talk to her, but she denies any of it. Explaining that she has friends that are very close to her, and they would never hurt her. But I know what goes on! She's a real sweetheart, and it would destroy their marriage if it was known that she has been having sex with other men. And most of the time I'm sure she dosen't remember. Sober she isn't like this, but enough liquor and she'a a different person.

She realizes she has a drinking problem, but refuses to believe that she does what she does when she drinks.

How can a person be so different when they're sober? I know for a fact that she has a good marriage. Cause I have spent alot of time with these people. And "NO" I haven't had sex with her! I wouldn't ever do that. But these so called friends of her's do on a consistant basis, and in a sense it's almost date . She's even been passed around between them when she is in a black out state. And these friends of hers know how to manipulate her.

I know all this because I have played along with it a couple times when she wasn't aware of it. Just to see what was going on, and was told to stick around and enjoy the action. Since these friends of hers don't even know who I am, it was easy to play along.

Can a person really be like this?
And, what advice can you give to help?
I really hate to see this go on!

MysteryDreamer 58F

4/26/2006 10:20 am

I have heard people use the term "black out" and I always thought it was just an excuse. That is why I have never drank much, I would be afraid I would do something I shouldn't, lol. The marriage may seem fine to you, but she could be the type who keeps it all in and drinks her pain away. I have a friend who is like that. A really nice person, then starts drinking away pain, instead of talking or facing it. I dont know what to tell you hon. The only thing I have to add is that ......NOBODY should ever take advantage of anyone when they have had TOO much to drink. Anyway, I will watch your post and see what advice others give. Hang in there hon.

misterme1960 replies on 4/26/2006 11:03 am:
Thank you for your comment!..I sure would like to help these dear friends...It's so confusing how a person can be so different when they drink. I have other friends that have drinking problem's and they to have dramatic mood swings...I hope to hear from you again.

safereturns 48F

4/26/2006 12:18 pm

Hard to believe.

Tell the husband and law enforcement.

misterme1960 replies on 4/26/2006 1:29 pm:
Now I have thought that!...It can't be legal to do this to someone!
Like I said isn't it date ?....Thank you very much!


4/26/2006 8:13 pm

This is truly horrific..I myself have never had a black out or even passed out..But it does happen.. A person can seem just drunk and be walking and talking But really not be aware of what they are doing.. They can even just black out for a short time and not be aware of what happened minutes prior...
So it may not be an excuse.. or could be.. no one really knows.
My heart goes out to you.. She is in denial.. she needs help but unfortunately she may have to hit rock bottom ..

Its really hard for the ones on the outside.. I have been on both sides but the worse thing you can do is enable her... She needs to face the truth one way or another.. She is putting herself and her family in danger with the so called friends that are no way friends..
they may be suppliers.. they are not friends.

I'm glad you came to my Blog..But I'm no expert.. I do know she is helpless and has no control if she is at the state of blacking out.. She needs her real friends to give her a dose of tuff love.

I will add you to the 8:30 pm stars with warm blessings...

keep me posted

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misterme1960 replies on 4/27/2006 7:25 am:
Thank you so very much!...I am glad I have found a new friend, and I will keep you informed!...You have enlightened me and I can tell you have a wonderful character!...

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