on the issue of what this site is for  

milady_de_winter 45F
938 posts
7/28/2006 3:58 am

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on the issue of what this site is for


ok...now i just had an intellectual discussion via blog with a cyber friend...its about AdultFriendFinder...

she feels that since she had bad experiences here she ought to charge for sex- thats not a problem with me....i don't judge her- after all if shes gonna meet schlong here she might as well charge the fuckers for wasting her time.

she is a nice person and i am ok saying hi to her in the chatroom despite some really nasty characters who PM me and pass comments about her- beleive me- the last thing i need is to get dragged into some dumb chatroom politics

I am here in AdultFriendFinder for my jollies- i don't judge anyone..and am not here to prove anything- just having my happy humpings...

I mean AdultFriendFinder is a swinger site- its full of people who wants ex- for sex - carnal pleasure...
no matter how you go about it- its just sex... don't expect to find your soulmate or true love here...

some gals like the thrill of dating...and AdultFriendFinder seems convienient..as for me..i have met men via 3 different internet sites- AdultFriendFinder, match.com and a business networkinmg site- believe me the men are all the same- they want one thing...at least the AdultFriendFinder guys are open about it...and i am ok with that...

what sickens me is the match.com guys- they say they want a relationship- but they are no fucking better then their AdultFriendFinder counterparts

ok- now if you want to fuck for jollies and meet a few nice people - then AdultFriendFinder is ok- but remember have no expectations of a relationship or financial gain etc...

having said that i get sick of guys here esp from overseas who think they can just get a woman to come over for a fuck in their hotel rooms...now thats a bit crude- least thing they ought to do is buy her dinner and not treat her like a free escort- i am talking about this friends experiences as quoted in her blog

having said that- i think its about expectation- if u have none to begin with except fuck someone- then you don't feel used...it has to be mutual

mutual in the sense that you both want a fuck...both are horny...so go for it...

the problem many women face - esp asian women is the fact they feel used if the man has sex with them and they get nothing...i think its the asian mindset that sex is something kept for marriage and if he does not marry you- then make sure you are compensated...

to me - if you just wanted sex and it was mutual- even if you never saw him again- its not skin of your nose...its was a thing both people wanted at that material time

having said that i am very fussy and don't just fuck someone unless there is serious chemical animal attraction...

to me- unless the man is a bastard who dangles with you emotionally- with false "promises of a relationship" blah blah hubba hubba "i love you" crap- i don't see casual sex as being used...

but i do dislike the attitude men have here esp caucasian men in asia and the way they treat girls so badly...

i prefer a man who has the galls to be honest with me- no promises and such...

and that to me is enough

Ciao Ciao

ShyWhisper2006 54F
15175 posts
7/28/2006 5:12 am

Very well put..*smiles*


leongkok1 42M
9 posts
7/28/2006 6:10 am

cool


rm_bandito1711 44M
44 posts
7/28/2006 6:50 am

Hello Milady....i've read your blog these past few days....and may i say....impressive. Would you give me the Honor my fair lady...to be a bit more intimate with u. *smile*

I hope you don't mind me....as i have these to say to you and all who wishes to read it...for i know no other way to express myself.

I'm extremely new to all these....and frankly speaking....i'm impressed but a bit skeptical. To tell the truth....i'm a bit lost as well..he he. I've been going in circles for the pass 3 days...and i need a little help from the members in here...to show me how things r done in here.

Anyway...let me introduce my self....I'm a 31 yrs old straight guy just recently single....born n bred in k.l. By all means...i'm not some sort sex maniac, trying to screw all the women he can get he's hands on....but i must admit, i do have a very high sexual appetite. NO....I'M NOT looking for just SEX...what i want is that elusive, magical pleasure....that tingling sensation that trickles from the mind...down through your spine.....and flows out all over your body .

I wanna 'do it' to the mind...to the body...to the soul. And i assure you....i've experienced it before....and so did the women who gave it to me...

Now...by saying all these...doesn't mean that i know everything of everything....hell...i've never even experience a threesome before....not once.

I've only had a few 1 night stands....no, i'm not very good at 'trying' for a one night stand.

I've tried call girls a few times...and i don't enjoy it that much.....i find it hard to be aroused when i have to pay and believe me all guys out there....DON'T PAY!!!

I'm not into cybersex...i don't really get it....its hard to be turned on when 1 hand is on the keyboard...and the other hand is holding a mouse

And at these age....i don't have the luxury of time...to go out at night...just to get laid.

So...I would welcome all the ladies in here...whether young, mature, married, divorced...of any race...whose looking for that sensual excitement that we rarely find....to drop me a line ...if u r interested in us being 'friends'.....

We don't have to rush into things....we'll get to know each other....be comfortable together...and see where it goes from there.

We'll keep it discreet...keep it safe....make it MIND BLOWING! Just the 2 of us...or with a friend...a special secret....cause all forbidden pleasure r always
kept secret.

Anyway...enjoy your weekend everybody....see ya soon. A VERY GOOD NIGHT AND THANK YOU TO MY FAIR LADY *smile*


ZZ_Todd 61M

7/28/2006 6:50 am

I get so irritated when people say stuff like "well after all... it IS a sex site!" It's not, really. Sure, the expectation is there, but the last time I checked the site's name it was still AdultFriendFinder. Friends have sex, yes, but for me, finding friends is what this is all about. Too many people think this is some on-line catelog... Pick-A-Fuck kind of thing. Well... different strokes for different folks, I guess. I'd much rather have the "sure thing" of friendship than the hit or miss of "maybe sex."


rm_sexonlycpl 45M/39F
8 posts
7/28/2006 6:57 am

well said i couldn't agree with u more....


SexDriven75 42M

7/28/2006 10:47 am

My take [post 425959] . I love your profile pic by the way milady

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rm_RedHanded62 55M
4 posts
7/28/2006 11:42 am

First of all: LOVE YOUR PIC !

I so agree with what you say about AdultFriendFinder. Feelings get crushed by wrong expectations. So many people in AdultFriendFinder say they are looking for just no strings attached sex, but when you meet them its so obvious they are after so much more.

Even with apparently very straightforward people it can suddenly get onto a different plane and complicated.

Refreshing to hear your crisp view on sex for sex's sake.

So....

Are you doing anything on Wednesday?


IviesBidesJuste 56M
3658 posts
7/28/2006 4:41 pm

Sounds like some of the ladies there are choosing to see the wrong foreigners. As well as some guys that are making the rest of us look real bad.

I've been over there many times, and made many friends, but have only had sex with two. One I have been in contact with for 7 years now, and she flies here about 2-3 times a year to see me. So much for the quick fuck and dump, huh?

The other, I lost contact with, last I heard she was in Hong Kong, but may be back in KL. If she wants to contact me, she knows how.

But you are right. It's what you make of it, and who you choose to have sex with. It works both ways. I have to bow out of situations myself all the time, only because I had no sexual interest at all in the woman, even if she was ready to go.

It's the same for anyone I meet on here. If I go over again and meet some people I have met here, my first expectation is nothing. There has to be a mutual attraction first on that level.

Having sex with someone is at a whole other level than being friends, and we both have to have a strong mutual attraction first.

Just my 2 ringgits worth. *s*


lithiumrose 39F

7/29/2006 3:55 am

I sometimes don't get the idea how people think the other person they met in here is their soulmates.. lol. It is just plain silly.

I admit, I am fond of those I am intimate with and some more than the other. But there was an understanding that it is a no string attach relationship, and I am fine with it. Like you said, we are in here for some jollies. And if I want to marry a guy, I prefer someone I never met in here ... unless of course, you intend to be a swinger. Then that is a different matter all together.

As for guys coming here and wanting local girls to show them around KL and later head their room for sex - those are the sort of guys I rather not be intimate with. What's wrong treating a gal [she and no one else] with dinner? In any case, those are the sort of guys I rather ignore - mainly because I have not been living here long enough to know places in KL, and I do like to eat ... LOL

Cheers


IviesBidesJuste 56M
3658 posts
7/31/2006 12:14 am

    Quoting lithiumrose:
    I sometimes don't get the idea how people think the other person they met in here is their soulmates.. lol. It is just plain silly.

    I admit, I am fond of those I am intimate with and some more than the other. But there was an understanding that it is a no string attach relationship, and I am fine with it. Like you said, we are in here for some jollies. And if I want to marry a guy, I prefer someone I never met in here ... unless of course, you intend to be a swinger. Then that is a different matter all together.

    As for guys coming here and wanting local girls to show them around KL and later head their room for sex - those are the sort of guys I rather not be intimate with. What's wrong treating a gal [she and no one else] with dinner? In any case, those are the sort of guys I rather ignore - mainly because I have not been living here long enough to know places in KL, and I do like to eat ... LOL

    Cheers
I agree lithium, When I go there to meet with friends, my attention is on them and them alone. Not interested in sightseeing unless we are both traveling around together.

And they have to be enjoying the time as well as me, instead of making it such a one sided situation.

It's like if they come here to see me. I make plans for us. Like taking a road trip. Sometimes lasting up to a week, so they can see places here they have never seen and we can spend time together.

Last time I did that, we drove through 5 states.


MataKhan 107F

8/8/2006 7:56 pm

It is a 2 way thing.Caucasian men think asian woman are an easy FUCK.Sometimes we cant really blame those guys when you see in the chatroom the gals say **Any caucaisan men wanna visit me in such and such**.

As an asian i fought hard to makes ppl think that not all us asian woman are easy and cheap.Its just the same as every race, we have cheap ppl everywhere so we cant and shouldnt judge ppl only of where they come from.

Geez....I'm feeling serious at the moment arent i


MataKhan 107F

8/8/2006 8:06 pm

One more thing...LOL

Asian woman mostly a bit reserved and secretive about sex before marriage.Cant be help...its the culture thing and the asian MEN perception of it.Asian men..either u agree with me or not is...mostly is likes any other males in this world...a fuckin horny dog...oopps...yet they still have thie mentality that asian woman that fuck before marriage or is a whore that is OK to fuck but not to be associated when they aint horny.

Perhaps and hopefully i'm wrong but you guys( asian guys ) just ask yourself about it.

Am I right or am I wrong.

I certainly hopes I'm wrong and in times i do hope all these thing will change.

Sex is our need no one should tell us what we need to do with our body and our need.Not culture nor the Damn Religion, as long as we do it in a right manner.

SO...happy Cumming ..lol


rm_bandito1711 44M
44 posts
8/9/2006 7:44 am

    Quoting MataKhan:
    One more thing...LOL

    Asian woman mostly a bit reserved and secretive about sex before marriage.Cant be help...its the culture thing and the asian MEN perception of it.Asian men..either u agree with me or not is...mostly is likes any other males in this world...a fuckin horny dog...oopps...yet they still have thie mentality that asian woman that fuck before marriage or is a whore that is OK to fuck but not to be associated when they aint horny.

    Perhaps and hopefully i'm wrong but you guys( asian guys ) just ask yourself about it.

    Am I right or am I wrong.

    I certainly hopes I'm wrong and in times i do hope all these thing will change.

    Sex is our need no one should tell us what we need to do with our body and our need.Not culture nor the Damn Religion, as long as we do it in a right manner.

    SO...happy Cumming ..lol


Well MataKhan...i must agree with u....caucasian men and asian men are the same...hell, all the men in this world are the same. WE ARE FROM 'MARS' as you would already know!!! And as for being a fucking horny dogs....yes...we are a bunch of fucking horny dogs. I find myself feeling horny every 10-15 mins....and i dont feel guilty about it.

But i must say something.....you CANT stereotype men to a specific attitude or a specific mentality....wouldnt it be a bit shallow of you to do so??!!!? (dont mean to offend you*smile*)

Theres nothing wrong being associated with someone we had casual sex....just as long as both of us knows how to handle ourselve and the 'experience' they've had with each other.

Its our life.....we must be in control!!!

p/s: women who indulge in casual sex are not considered 'cheap/whore'....women with a 'cheap' attitude are considered 'cheap'


adios


Priapeo 48M

8/11/2006 10:47 am

My idea is that contacting each other via AdultFriendFinder you cannot really afford to let some misunderstanding arise on what you are looking for... it would be a self-lesion. I mean... many people seek refuge on this website because they think that here is somewhat easier to deal with their desires than in real life, desires and their fulfilment. So... yes, i know, it's not very poetic to say "let's meet and let's do this and that", but if you wanted to avoid the bluntness of a direct approach then you probably would have chosen other means to socialize... gyms, swimming pools, clubs.

Not to mention that if you find the right lover, then it will be the resulting pleasure to give you all the poetry you want.

Never argue with an idiot. He brings you down to his level then beats you with experience


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