of feeling blue  

milady_de_winter 45F
938 posts
7/31/2006 4:24 pm

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of feeling blue

i am feeling blue....hurt....

everyone thinks i am a strong woman of steel when it comes to life..Yeah i am strong when it comes facing many things....but deep down inside...i am like every woman....i also have emotions..i also have feelings..i also feel hurt...

someone led me down the garden path...with promises of a relationship...he was your typical middle aged CEO- type who was happily married...ok so he wanted me to adhere to his terms...a completely discreet relationship...no calls...occasional emails... and a romp 4 times a year...i was agreeable...except for the fact that he changed his mind ...in one sense he was nice about it...he did not fuck me....but i am hurt because of the expectation factor that he gave me...

mabe he does not see it like that...but i am hurt with his behaviour...he just did not know what he wanted...and i ended up being the victim at his altar of sacrifice...

he was so selfish- always about him- him him him- how he felt- did he care about the way i was hurt with his behaviour?????...least he could do was to be nice- and he failed at that

what i hate is the way they abruptly get rid of you once they make the executive decision to end the relationship- its not about executive decisions- its fine of you act like that in a corporate environment- but not in your personal life...

Just remember that i am also made of flesh of bone- i have feelings too

If only he understood...but then...i have to be strong once more and move on....


Lilith Divine

IviesBidesJuste 56M
3658 posts
7/31/2006 6:32 pm

Allow me to be brutally honest for a moment.

When someone is married already, how can they promise a relationship?

It's not right to get someones hopes up, just so they can get some on the side away from the family.

It would have cost him much more to divorce his wife and leave his kids to be with you. And I doubt he would have gone that far.

Having seen this happen before to others, I could probably think of dozens of reasons for his behavior towards you, but none are an excuse to how he can treat someone such as yourself.

It doesn't suprise me as well about his attitude. Of course he doesn't care about you, and only himself. To him, your just a plaything when he can get away from the family.

Don't sweat the details and move on. There's a lot of people that like you for who you are. Don't change that.


lithiumrose 39F

7/31/2006 7:08 pm


rm_spectraguy26 46M
12 posts
7/31/2006 8:28 pm

take it easy.. not all married guys are the same... there are ppl like that in the world...but life do go on... hope u will will feel better with time..bye

rm_troyx 40M

7/31/2006 8:41 pm

Let me share something with you... I had something great going on with a married lady before the sex was a good friend. Then it got serious and one fine day she says she just can't do it anymore etc etc.

It is just an excuse and till this day I am still aching over it and still, wrongly, harbouring feelings for her(it was 2 years ago). We still see each other on social basis but things are not the same and I never felt the same ever again.

So what I am saying is things like this happens with all the wrong people and we will always continue to search for that mythical one all our lives and I do hope you will eventually find it...

YummyPlumpGirl 37F

7/31/2006 10:15 pm

bravo for big asses...just want to say that..i have one too

f0ru28 46M

8/1/2006 9:59 am

I am happily married too and I am flabbergasted by your Mr X's behaviour....but then again, it's his loss isnt it! The truth is most of us "happily" married men are in self denial and his actions inexcusable...if ever u should hear one of us say "i am happily married but not getting enough at home" kick em hard in the groin! thank you for waking me up...move on and i hope you find profound happiness in your journey ahead!

LoyalOximeShred 43F

8/1/2006 10:17 am

Promises of pleasure and discreet relationships are hard to stick to when your partner is married. Be thankful that it didn't get a chance to take off, or else you'd have increased heartache. Still, there are plenty of fish in the sea... like LBbackdoor said in his previous post.. NEXXXT!!!

When love and skill work together, expect a masterpiece.
-John Ruskin

IviesBidesJuste 56M
3658 posts
8/1/2006 1:36 pm

    Quoting LoyalOximeShred:
    Promises of pleasure and discreet relationships are hard to stick to when your partner is married. Be thankful that it didn't get a chance to take off, or else you'd have increased heartache. Still, there are plenty of fish in the sea... like LBbackdoor said in his previous post.. NEXXXT!!!
I've been having a thing going for 7 yrs now with a married lady (seperated) that is an expat in Malaysia. We see each other 2 or 3 times a year, and we are great friends, but she has no intentions of giving up what she has got. And that includes some houses, shareholder in a business, and her daughters.

Even though we have been great friends, I have had my emotions in check, and stay well guarded against disappointments.

I just call it as it is, and she knows it. I've been her lover and confidant, but I'm not stopping everything in my life if the true seriousness of a relationship is not there.

For the most part, in my previous post, my advice has been basically to be very careful. It's easy to get caught up in it all. They will offer gifts, money and friendship, but always keep in mind that they are already taken. And in a moments notice, you could be flung aside like a used tissue.

LeninRuntsBurrs 43F

8/1/2006 9:11 pm

hugs, well, at least you know now, than later when it is more difficult to get over.

it's just a little bump in the road which you ran over too fast but at least u know not to use that road again or be more careful next time so your car don't get the brunt of it.

i don't like him for doing that to you, feel your pain too. hugs and my shoulders are big enough i think to give for you to cry on.

remember what I always say to get myself up again? "Next!!"

you are like all of us women here, nobody expects you to be any different, i never did and won't ever, take care girl.


krsandhu 54F

8/3/2006 4:00 am

Hi dear. Sorry to hear about your experience. But maybe now you will realise why I do what I do, because like you I have been through this so many times and lost count, and the guys involved were not even married, yet they made promises only so as they could use me and get free fucks.

I guess I just reached a stage where I told myself enough is enough, its not going to happen anymore. And when I walked out of those relationships, the guys always game back later saying that I was the best, and they wanted to get back together, but it was too late, as I had no more feelings for them.

Thats why now I feel that if a guy has nothing to offer me in terms of relationship, then he might as well compensate me for the sex. After all why should I give a man something when he has nothing to offer me in return.

Meanwhile, take it easy, you'll get over it. Just tell yourself that this guy is not worthy of you and does not deserve you.

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