Uncondtional love for ones children?  

mgdingo 59M
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8/31/2006 10:39 am

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9/6/2006 8:22 am

Uncondtional love for ones children?


In reply to recent post [post 483993] I agreed that the love for ones children is unconditional and that you should and will strive to help them come what may to the best of your ability

But sometimes this needs to be temporally withdrawn because they can be really dumb at times drive you

Do we sometimes in our desire to be good parents provide and protect them protect them too much?

Does sometimes the detail consume us so we forget to keep an eye on the bigger picture.

Steam will stop flowwing from my ears soon I hope.

CUTESMILE1970 48F
941 posts
9/2/2006 12:29 pm

mm some parents smother their kids far too much and as whey grow up they put on their parents even more. They dont learn proper values ie that they have to stand on their own 2 feet and become independent and start to look after their parents as they get older.

I am instilling decent values into my lad so he can become and indepent as he get older and not rely on me because i wont always be around for him.


mgdingo 59M

9/2/2006 1:07 pm

    Quoting CUTESMILE1970:
    mm some parents smother their kids far too much and as whey grow up they put on their parents even more. They dont learn proper values ie that they have to stand on their own 2 feet and become independent and start to look after their parents as they get older.

    I am instilling decent values into my lad so he can become and indepent as he get older and not rely on me because i wont always be around for him.
Yes mam.


CUTESMILE1970 48F
941 posts
9/2/2006 2:07 pm

lol at least you got my name right cos im a mam not a mum well i arent that posh


nuttygirlme 52F

9/5/2006 12:32 am

My kids have total loyalty and respect and support from me. Despite their special needs they r treated fairly but they never get away with anything, they dont get smothered at all, in fact from what ive seen of a lot of parents im probably more strict with mine. I dont know what their future holds for them, they may b living with me for life, but my job is to ensure they r safe and loved and have all their emotions met. My oldest is quite independent already, but i still watch him closely, one day, they will both have to survive the outside world, and despite this being a frightening thought for me, i have to encourage them greatly and be there for when they fall.
they are still very young at the moment, but training for life starts early, it has to cos theres so much to learn
I love mine with all my heart, they are both No1 priority to me, and that will never ever change. Nothing in life comes before them
R
xxxx


mgdingo 59M

9/6/2006 4:44 am

    Quoting CUTESMILE1970:
    lol at least you got my name right cos im a mam not a mum well i arent that posh
Yes yer lady


mgdingo 59M

9/6/2006 5:03 am

    Quoting nuttygirlme:
    My kids have total loyalty and respect and support from me. Despite their special needs they r treated fairly but they never get away with anything, they dont get smothered at all, in fact from what ive seen of a lot of parents im probably more strict with mine. I dont know what their future holds for them, they may b living with me for life, but my job is to ensure they r safe and loved and have all their emotions met. My oldest is quite independent already, but i still watch him closely, one day, they will both have to survive the outside world, and despite this being a frightening thought for me, i have to encourage them greatly and be there for when they fall.
    they are still very young at the moment, but training for life starts early, it has to cos theres so much to learn
    I love mine with all my heart, they are both No1 priority to me, and that will never ever change. Nothing in life comes before them
    R
    xxxx
R. Your kids are very lucky to have you as their mother and I think you are very brave. You have a far harder job than most parents.

I did not want to give you the impression I spoil my kids. I have bought them up to be disciplined and independent and they are. When really little they used to complain to me that they had strict parents, but they soon began to tire of childish behavior of others and appreciate good behavior. I sometimes disagree with the choices they make, with the benefit of many years of experience (i.e. getting it wrong) it is not surprising. But having instilled independence into them, of course now they make their own decisions, all I can do is try to steer and guide form afar.

But I, at their age, I made much worse choices and had done far less in life.

I guess its those dam paths again.

MGDingo xxxx


mgdingo 59M

9/6/2006 5:06 am

    Quoting rm_funfuckor2:
    I have to agree with Nutty my children are my life no-one and nothing will ever be more important to me. I always remember something my stepmother said to me on the day my first child was born, she told me to remember that this child was merely on loan to me my job was to be there to guide her and teach her, but one day she will have to go and live her life and that is something I cannot do for her but can only hope I have prepared her to do that.

    I watch the news and read papers and see the terrible things that can happen to children on a daily basis, and maybe I am too overprotective of my children but I would rather that than live to regret giving them too much freedom too soon.

    Sorry I really do need to add my own rant about now, and it's something that makes me so angry, it's when i see the parents of a child who is under the age of 10 on TV making appeals because their child has gone missing or has been murdered whilst out on their own, could someone please tell me why that child was out on their own with no adult supervision in the first place, if you heard on the news that a child of that age had been left in for the night whilst their parents had gone out you would all be horrified so why is it so acceptable for a child to be left outdoors alone?

    Sorry again needed that steam release.
Do not worry, feel free to vent your steam here. The steam has stopped flowing from my ears too.


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